Stocking Up On Emotional Intelligence
Your Newest Job Description:
To navigate the reality of social distancing, school, restaurant, and gym closures. To work within an uncertain economy with nearly 100% of your interactions online, no quick hallway meetings, no getting together to share ideas at the coffee shop, no happy hours after work. This job will include working in an uncertain economy with little-to-no travel; conference attendance not allowed. Oh, and stocking up on emotional intelligence!
Sound familiar? As an online therapist and a certified emotional intelligence coach, I have some good news for you. You can continue to work on your success even in this new and challenging time by stocking up on emotional intelligence.
Today I want to share with you four areas of emotional intelligence that will help set you up for success now so that when things are back to “normal” you’ll be ready to tackle your career goals and build better, lasting professional and personal relationships.
Here are four focal points when stocking up on emotional intelligence:
Resilience is a big necessity and you’re going to need to develop a lot of this. The American Psychological Association defines this as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress. These stressors include family and relationship problems, serious health problems, and workplace or financial stressors. Resilience ultimately means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences.
Resilience will help you recover from and adjust more easily to misfortune, change and life’s many challenges.
My colleague, Toni Qualantone, wrote an article outlining how you can build resilience and better adapt to change. Check it out here for more on stocking up on emotional intelligence through building Resilience: Resilience, How to Adapt to Change.
You need perseverance to take you to the end of the task. It is the energy and drive, the tenacity and focus to see your challenge through.
Perseverance requires self-compassion, patience, and transparency. Know that it’s okay to have hard days and that you will get through them. Be patient with yourself and your progress, change doesn’t typically happen overnight. And above everything else, be transparent and honest with yourself.
Honesty with where you are and where you want to be will allow you to better prepare yourself for the coming challenges on your journey to success.
Empathy and Compassion
Don’t leave (or better) stay home without empathy and compassion. Understanding and caring about the world your friends, family, and colleagues are dealing with matters. It creates solid and meaningful connections that will sustain you over time.
If you want better relationships, empathy and compassion are required to build lasting connections.
“To have a sense of another’s anxiety, hurt, or joy is a pre-requisite of being able to understand them. Without the context of feelings, people are often mystifying. Understanding feelings is like being at the theater and seeing the stage, props, and costumes of a play—it provides the setting for the words and actions of others to make sense. Empathy is a fundamental skill of Emotional Intelligence, as well as the foundation of evidence-based marriage counseling and approaches like Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Excerpt from Empathy: The Key to Connection and Communication
A must-have when stocking up on emotional intelligence is motivation. Motivation is the personal drive to improve and achieve. The new reality of work may look and feel different right now but your commitment to goals, showing initiative, and optimism should not.
It’s hardly easy to focus on these ideas when worry and fear, uncertainty and disappointment surround you.
Know that there will be days that are tougher than others to keep up an emotionally intelligent approach to these challenges. And that’s okay. Your job right now is to continue stocking up on emotional intelligence, and reaching out when you need a little support.
Linda Pounds, M.A., LMFT
P.S. How are you preparing for and developing your personal growth for success? Share with me in the comment below!
Linda Pounds, M.A., LMFT is a relationship expert with years of experience as a marriage counselor, executive coach, leadership coach, and emotional intelligence coach. She’s here to help you cultivate positive relationships in every area of your life.
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