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Design Your Life Around What Matters Most
What's Most Important To YOU?
WHAT MATTERS MOST | It's so easy — especially for smart, determined, proactive and successful people — to spend a lot (a LOT) of time and energy pursuing goals that, at the end of the day, are not actually the most important or meaningful ones to them. Sounds crazy, but it's true: We're all vulnerable to absorbing messages from our families, social media, our culture, and certainly the combined efforts of many savvy marketers about what we should want. About who we should be. About what we should do with our lives.
You Are The Author of Your Own Life Story
At the end of the day, buying in to someone else's hopes and dreams for your life can lead you down the wrong path. Even if you — by virtue of your intelligence, determination, and hard work — are successful in creating all of it and achieving the ideals that you were handed, they will still feel hollow to you. Because they were never genuinely meaningful and important to YOU. And you will have spent so much of your precious time, energy, love, and devotion to achieving goals that — at the end of the day — could have been spent creating the life and reality that was your heart's desire.
You deserve better. You deserve to own your own goals and create a destiny that will lead to your heart overflowing with authentic happiness and gratitude. You deserve, at the very end of your precious life, to have zero regrets. You deserve to feel pride and appreciation for what you have created, and what will last long after your time on this earth has passed.
How to Design Your Life Around What Matters Most
To help you create this reality — the clear-eyed pursuit and attainment of the goals that are actually the most important and precious to YOU — I have a very special gift for you. On the latest episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I had the honor and pleasure of interviewing a very wise and insightful man, author Chris Meyer.
Chris has a fascinating story: He spent many years as the director of a funeral home. (Stay with me here!) Over the years, he sat with many families as they planned their final goodbyes. He sat with people who were dying, and grieving families, and heard their stories — their gratitude, and their regrets, and the profound insights into what really mattered…. from the perspective of looking back on their lives.
Over and over again, he had family members say the same thing to him: Their heartfelt insights about what really mattered most to them, and the things they realized when their time was over. Chris put all of these lessons into his book: Life In 20 Lessons: What A Funeral Guy Discovered About Life, From Death.
Today, he is here to share these insights directly with YOU. He is bringing you the messages from people at the end, so that YOU can design your life with intention, clarity and love, and maintain you focus on what really matters most to you.
It's a heartfelt gift for you, on this edition of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. I sincerely hope that it helps you get clarity and self-awareness for how you'd like to design YOUR life as we enter into a new decade, together.
Now, question for you: What did you think about as you were listening to this podcast about what was genuinely most meaningful and important to you?? I hope you share your thoughts and feelings with the Growing Self community in the comments below.
PS: This episode is personally meaningful to ME because it's in alignment with what is most important to me: Being of service to YOU. I have so many things planned for you on upcoming episodes of the podcast this coming year. If we're not already connected, please join me on Instagram @drlisamariebobby, and don't forget to subscribe to the podcast!
PPS: I'm now routinely embarrassing myself on YouTube too! Watch the video version of this episode below, or keep scrolling for the audio only version.
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