Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is the founder and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching. She’s the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love,” and the host of The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast.
Get Clarity About Your Relationship
Are you confused about your relationship? Join the club. Relationships can be so hard to figure out. What’s normal in a marriage? What’s not normal? When is a fight just a fight, and when does it point to bigger issues? Is my relationship in trouble? Or are we just having the normal and expected bumps in the road that all couples have? Are we compatible? Or should we break up? Or is this fundamentally a really great relationship, and we just need to work on it? Can my partner change? Can I change? How?
Relationships are so confusing because so many different things can be simultaneously true about our relationships all at the same time. For example, all couples have disagreements. Every relationship has ups and downs. All people (even you and me) can have moments where we lose our cool, say dumb things, or be selfish and inconsiderate with our partners. The truth is, we’re all a mixed bag, and so is every relationship. EVEN amazing, healthy, fun, and wonderful relationships that are worth committing in, investing in and cherishing forever are not always perfect.
It is also true that there are things that happen in relationships that are easy to blow off as being not that big of a deal… but that can actually spell doom for a relationship. There are certain types of fights that are more toxic and damaging than others. There are a few things that can erode your sense of trust and emotional safety, to the point of no repair. And there are a few key relationship skills that can make all the difference between whether your love lasts a lifetime, or whether you grow apart.
Help is here. On this edition of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I’m going to be walking you through the different vital relationship domains to help you understand what’s normal, and what suggests more serious problems under the surface. We’ll be talking about the things that people often are concerned about that are not really that important in the big scheme of things. We’ll also be addressing the things that people often minimize that are actually a really big deal. Then, I’ll be offering you some actionable advice for where to focus your energy if you want to improve your relationship.
FYI, this comes in two parts: First, listen to the podcast. Then, take the “How Healthy is Your Relationship” quiz, to find out how your relationship stacks up.
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