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Keystone Habits: The Key To Changing Everything

Keystone Habits: The Key To Changing Everything

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is the founder and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching. She’s the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love,” and the host of The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast.

You Are What You DO.

At the turn of the year it’s a fresh start for everyone. New Year’s resolutions are common, but unfortunately, both research and practice show is that resolutions don’t work. They don’t actually lead to real and lasting change. But there is something that will work, without fail, every single time: Dedication to one, powerful, keystone habit.

As a life coach, I’m in the business of supporting people through the change process. I know from experience that it takes much more than a desire to make positive changes happen in your life. It certainly takes more than motivation, which always ebbs and flows. It even takes more than a plan.

Making changes that stick requires understanding the way our brains work, and the way change occurs. This understanding allows you to essentially hack your way to inevitable success. This process may sound complicated, but it’s not: When you find the right healthy habit to cultivate, everything can change.

What Is a Habit?

A habit is a behavior or activity that you routinely do over and over again. So much so, that you begin to do it unconsciously. A powerful habit becomes so ingrained in you that it feels hard-wired — the way you cover your mouth when you cough, put on your right sock first, or answer the phone. You don’t actually think about it at all.

It is also true that the arc, even the outcomes of our entire lives are built on the habits that we engage in every day — most of which are almost entirely subconscious. Think about it: Your life, as it is today, is simply the outcome of everything that you’ve done up until this point. A few macro-decisions have the potential impact our life to a significant degree, like who you marry, the job you take, moving to a new town.

But even then, the actual outcomes you experience in any of these scenarios have much less to do with the circumstances themselves, and more about what your daily “micro-habits” entail. Plenty of people get into Ivy League schools, and don’t have the personal habits required to be successful. So they flunk out. Pretty much any relationship has the potential to be a good one or a bad one, depending on how people are in the habit of treating each other day-to-day. All success or failure is determined by your habitual behaviors.

When you think about the changes that you might want to make in your life, and resolve to “save money” or “lose weight” or “have a better relationship” or “expand your social circle” or “keep my house clean” — all of those are fantastic hopes. But they will remain hopes until you understand and learn how to utilize the habits that are creating your current reality, and swap them out for the ones that will allow you to create the life you want — hour by hour, day by day, and year by year.

What is a Keystone Habit?

A keystone habit is a very special habit. It’s one, powerful habit that “touches” many other aspects of your life. If you find a single, great keystone habit, it can begin working it’s magic on everything from the way you feel, to the way you think, to how much energy you have, to how easy it feels to do other healthy things (and interestingly, harder to engage in the bad habits you might be prone to).

Let’s be real: If you think about ALL the habits you might need to change in order to achieve your goals, it can feel discouraging. It can be overwhelming to sit down and take stock of the all things in your life that aren’t working, and all of the personal habits you’d have to change in order to create the kind of results you want. Even just having one goal of losing ten pounds requires a number of small daily habits to make that happen: tracking food, consciously choosing healthy lower calorie options, saying no to junk and sweets, minding portion size, getting yourself to exercise, being mindful of cravings and impulsivity, and having a plan to deal with special situations like holidays or outings.

It’s probably exhausting just to read that one paragraph! When you tack on other personal goals / resolutions of things you aspire to, like saving money, having a better relationship, being more productive at work, etc, it’s even worse. That’s because when you start breaking down all the small action steps that achievement in those areas would entail, it’s enough to make you want to eat ALL the donuts, isn’t it?

I want you to be successful at creating the change you desire in this new year. So for that reason, today’s episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast is all about how to find and lovingly cultivate one solid keystone habit that will carry you forward. I’ll also be discussing how to make that new habit stick, so that this new year turns into a string of successes for you. 

Specifically we’re discussing:

  • How to find your keystone habit
  • How keystone habits work to effect change in many areas of your life
  • Habit loops, and how to make them work for you
  • Habit stacking, and how to cluster winning habits into a life-changing force
  • How long it takes to form a habit
  • How long does it take to break a bad habit? Why it may be easier than you think.
  • Some tips and tricks to help you stay on track with a new habit
  • How to avoid some common pitfalls that could knock your new keystone habit off course

All that, and more, on this episode.

I hope that this info helps you as you craft your path for this new year, and that it brings you only good things.

With love,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

 

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Keystone Habits: The Key to Changing Everything

by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby | Love, Happiness & Success

Music Credits: Radiohead, “Fitter, Happier” &

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Start The New Year STRONG

Start The New Year STRONG

Free advice from a Denver Life Coach:

Did you know that making New Year’s resolutions can actually get in the way of your making real and lasting change in your life?

Today on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I’m putting on my Life Coach hat: I’m going to teach you a totally different way of thinking about “success” that will help you clarify your values, focus your energy on what’s really important, and help you make massive progress towards the things you want most in life this coming year.

Sounds bold, I know, but this is a system I use all the time with great results — both with my clients, and myself. Today I’m going to be teaching it to you, too. (Psst. Have you subscribed to the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast yet? Subscribe to get the latest episodes in your feed, and while you’re there leave a review!)

New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work

I felt compelled to share this to you because I know that you — like all of us — probably have high hopes for the coming year. And there’s nothing worse than making big plans for change… only to feel like a “failure” before February even rears it’s heart-spangled self.

What we know from research (click here to review the Stanford study on New Year’s resolutions) is that only 8% of Americans achieve their New Years resolutions. Pretty grim. That’s 92% of people feeling like they missed the mark.

So What Will Actually Help You Achieve Your Goals?

In order to understand what will work, we have to first understand what traditional New Year’s resolutions are lacking, and why they fizzle fast.

It’s because even the most heartfelt resolutions are often disconnected from the things that will get you real results: Your values, your time, and your energy. It’s one thing to set a goal. Goals are great, and give us a direction to move towards. But making things happen in your life is altogether different than “achieving goals.” To hike up the tallest mountain, you have to stay on the path. The right path. If your only focus is the mountain peak, it’s pretty easy to wander off into the bushes that are right in front of you.

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Here’s A Simple System That Will Move You Forward, Meaningfully.

This podcast is a New Year’s gift to you. I’ll be teaching you the system I use, and that I use with many of my clients to help them refocus, recenter, and kindle a motivational fire under them. It will help you not just start the New Year off on the right foot, but help you get on the right path for the long haul.

And – FYI – If you happen to be reading this AFTER the New Year, that is great too. This approach is a life-skill that you can use any time of the year to get re-focused, re-centered, and re-energized. Walk through the activities any time you’re feeling like you need to get back on track.

Because I’m all about making things easy and effective I even made you a worksheet so that you can work along with me during the podcast, and do the activities I’ll be walking you through. Just tell me where to send it.

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Music Credits: “New Year” by Beach House

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How to Be a Force of Good in The World

How to Be a Force of Good in The World

Your efforts matter more than you know…

In the special space that exists between the end of one year and the start of another, we have time to pause. To rest. To reflect. For many, it’s the time of year when we think about who we were and what we learned in the previous year, and set our sights on who we want to be and what we want accomplish in the next. We’re releasing our old selves, and getting ready to embrace fresh, new incarnations.

As a life coach, I’m all about helping you achieve your goals and make great things happen in your life. But today, on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast I’m taking advantage of this “quiet time” to tell you a little story about the kinds of powerful and amazing things that can happen when we set our intention on something even larger than our own personal gain: being a force of good in the world.

I believe that everything we do reverberates into the lives of others, to a greater extent than we even know. When you are radiating compassion, empathy and kindness, it has an impact. As you reflect on your life this past year, and set your goals for the next, I hope that this personal story inspires you to also never forget how important you are and how even the littlest things you do can have a profoundly positive impact on the lives of others.

As you create your intentions for this coming year I hope that you carry this idea with you, and that it helps you become a powerful force of good in this troubled world.

Wishing you all good things in 2017…
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

How To Be a Force of Good in The World

by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby | Love, Happiness & Success

Music: “Cappriccio Stravagante: Adagio,” by Carlos Farina from the album “Celestial Christmas”

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