Dori Bagi, M.S, is a kind, empathetic couples counselor, individual therapist, and life coach with Growing Self Counseling and Coaching who specializes in sex therapy. Her friendly style makes it safe to talk about anything, and her solution-focused approach helps you move past the past, and into a bright new future of intimacy and connection.
Have You Drifted Apart?
Any good marriage counselor or couples therapist will tell you that sex isn’t the ONLY thing in a great relationship. Friendship, teamwork, communication, emotional safety, respect, and appreciation are all fundamentally important too. And yet, even when all those strengths are present, if you’re not connecting sexually over a long period of time… eventually lack of physical intimacy can erode even the best relationship.
It’s easy to fall into the “friend zone” in a long-term relationship. Certain phases of life that couples naturally encounter can throw cold water on your sexual connection: Having a new child, going through an intense phase of your career, or simply feeling overwhelmed by the busy-ness of modern life can make it hard to find the time and energy to put into the sexual relationship with your partner.
Furthermore, sexuality is kind of like the “canary in the coal mine” of a relationship: When things are feeling off emotionally, or when communication is breaking down and resentments are building… increased distance in the bedroom can be one of the earliest signs that you need to work on your relationship.
Sometimes, working on the other issues in a relationship like emotional safety, communication, teamwork, and appreciation can restore the goodwill between a couple and their sex life naturally improves. But sometimes, sexual problems ARE the problem and need to be addressed directly.
However, talking about sexual issues is not as easy as it sounds. Many couples struggle to communicate about their sexual relationship, often feeling embarrassed or vulnerable, or afraid of hurting their partner’s feelings. That’s one of the reasons why couples often enlist the support of a good marriage counselor, couples therapist, or sex therapist to help them restore the intimacy in their relationship.
And that’s where we’re going today: To help us understand the most common sexual problems that couples encounter, and how to resolve them, I’ve invited expert sex therapist Dori Bagi to speak with us on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast.
We’ll be discussing:
- Why couples often have differences in sexual desire (meaning one person wants to have sex more than the other) and what you can do about it.
- The role that pornography can play in a relationship — both positive, and negative.
- Why body image and self-esteem issues are so often at the root of sexual problems, and how you can work together as a couple to resolve them.
- Differences in the sexual response cycle between men and women, and how understanding arousal can help you both develop a stronger sexual connection.
- How to talk about your sexual relationship in a healthy and constructive way.
Hope this conversation helps you find your way back together again…
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Restore Sexual Intimacy In Your Relationship
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