Dr. Harold P.
D.Min., APC, M.A.
Compassionate, Growth-Focused, Excellent Listener
- Relationship Coaching / Couples Therapy
- Individual Therapy
- Life Coaching
- Dating Coaching
- About Me
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Hello, I’m Harold.
Life can happen haphazardly, or it can be a journey navigated with vision and peace of mind. Wouldn’t it be awesome if you could navigate your life’s journey with a trusted professional? I’ve journeyed with countless individuals, couples, and families who have overcome barriers, faced fears, found healing, and discovered amazing new possibilities.
My goal is to create a safe space for you to process life’s challenges and opportunities and support you with practical steps along the way. You have strengths and insights from which we will draw, and we can dig into those challenging areas when you are ready.
With nearly 20 years of experience in counseling and life coaching, nothing shocks me nor seems hopeless. Incremental shifts in thinking and decisions, accompanied by healthy support, can lead to amazing outcomes. People appreciate my caring non-judgemental nature and the way I am able to gently inspire people to grow in healthy perspectives and resilience.
Here is a quick overview of some of my areas of specialization:
- Marital/Relationship conflict
- Parenting children with neurodiversities and trauma
- Adoption, foster care, and kinship care
- Faith-inclusive counselling and life coaching, if requested
- Dealing with guilt/shame
- Unresolved relational wounds
- Cross-cultural dynamics in family relationships
- Dealing with trauma
I draw on a variety of evidence-based approaches, including:
- Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT)
- Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)
- Solution-focused therapy
- Emotionally focused therapy (EFT)
- Trust-based relational intervention (TBRI)
- Circle of security
- The Gottman Method
- PREPARE/ENRICH premarital counseling
- Hope-focused marriage counselling
- Couples Communication™
Relationship Coaching / Couples Therapy:
I believe that we all were created for connection and authentic relationships, but that doesn’t mean it is easy. Good relationships require hard work and a commitment to grow oneself. My doctoral background in marriage and family therapy and years of experience offers a diverse blend of training and skills that couples and families find particularly helpful.
My approach is compassionate, effective, and brief. This approach enables couples to see that change is possible and gives them a new outlook on the future. I believe in the importance of helping both partners feel comfortable and respected. We will consider central values, communication, attachment, conflict resolution, and commitment.
Communication is the number one issue that couples face. Does it feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages? Relationship coaching can help you identify each other’s emotional needs and provide insight that supports a healthy connection. Ineffective communication patterns result in a wide range of additional challenges. Through the use of specific communication tools, I can help resolve conflicts, manage differences, and make decisions that will enhance, not hinder, your relationship.
Are you thinking of getting engaged or about to say “I do”? Let me support your journey with pre-engagement and premarital coaching or counseling. I am a certified PREPARE/ENRICH facilitator who can provide you with helpful assessment and support as you prepare for one of life’s biggest decisions. This tool is also beneficial for those seeking marriage enrichment. I am trained in Couples Communication™, the most effective communication program for couples, backed by many research studies. I personally have seen many couples find life-changing results from this program.
Parent Coaching / Family Therapy Online:
Are you parenting children with neurodiversities or past trauma? Or navigating complex family dynamics? In addition to typical parenting challenges, I understand and have lived expertise caring for children with neurodiversities, trauma, anxiety, and attachment disorders of those with foster/adoption/kinship journeys.
My doctoral thesis, as well as additional specialized training, has focused on parenting children from “hard places.” In addition, I have lived experience as a foster, kinship, adoptive and biological parent. Parents express great relief in our sessions as they are able to talk to a professional who “gets it” in both lived experience and current neuroscientific research. You are not alone, and I can offer you informed strategies that are attachment-focused and can empower you to bring hope and growth to your child’s development and increase your level of joy as a parent.
As a family therapist, I can help you and your loved ones work through a variety of challenges, mental health issues, and complex situations thoughtfully, skillfully, and with the intention of strengthening healthy attachment. Alternatively, I can serve you as a parenting coach that helps you achieve a peaceful, loving home environment by strengthening positive parenting skills.
I am available for online couple and family therapy services to residents of Canada and relationship coaching, parent coaching, or premarital coaching outside of Canada via online video. Learn more about the differences between therapy and coaching, and which approach is right for you.
Individual Therapy Online:
Individual Therapy focuses on self-awareness and mental health. Processing issues and feelings pave the way to deeper awareness, creative, healthy decision-making, and rewarding growth. This process often includes:
- Gaining insight from our past experiences/family of origin.
- Discussing where you have been, where you are now, and where you want to go.
- Bringing a greater awareness of your thoughts, emotions, and actions.
- Providing tools to transform unhealthy thoughts and behavior into healthy alternatives.
I offer a blend of approaches to suit your context and situation to support you on your journey of self-discovery, unlocking unfulfilled needs, and realizing your potential. Theories such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be helpful when dealing with emotional disorders which are maintained by cognitive factors. I also draw upon family systems theory to examine how family-of-origin affects underlying issues.
Your story is yours, and I will be respectful, no matter what. Having served as a counsellor in the prison environment for seven years, I am able to sit with people even through the most challenging of situations. It is a sacred journey to come alongside courageous individuals who go deep into their stories, and I am committed to providing sessions that offer safety and ease. We will work collaboratively to bring clarity, hope, and growth as you move towards your goals.
I have particular expertise in the following areas:
- Depression and Anxiety
- Loneliness and Isolation
- Grief and Loss
- Fatherhood and Family life
Therapy typically focuses on mental health concerns causing distress, navigating inner thoughts and emotions, and/or desired healing from past hurts and trauma. If you struggle with interpersonal relationships, therapy can provide key insights and strategies. I can offer therapy services to individuals located in Canada.
Life Coaching Online:
Why a life coach? Sports teams know that a good coach helps athletes win at their game. Life coaching can help you achieve personal growth and win at what matters to you. Life coaching can help you get unstuck and set goals you will actually achieve. We will focus primarily on the “here and now.”
Are you confused about the next chapter in your life (i.e., career decisions, major life choices)? I can help you move forward. You are full of natural talent, life experience, and potential – so let’s focus on where you want to go with it. Through collaborative and solution-focused perspective, I can help you in the following areas:
- Discover life purpose
- Map a clear vision for the future
- Articulate clear values
- Develop more meaningful, richer relationships
- Attain healthy financial, professional, and personal goals
- Overcome personal barriers
- Increase self-esteem
- Fulfill your potential
I will work with you to define your life goals, identify obstacles that have come in the way, and support healthy transitions from mindset and behaviors that prevent you from living the life you desire. We will look at your strengths, values, visualize your future, and learn strategies to move you forward in an effective, practical way.
I look forward to empowering you to take your journey to a whole new level.
Dating Coaching Online
My approach to dating coaching is to provide a balance between helping you identify areas of awareness and growth with building a clear focus to create an effective action plan through goal setting. We will look at your past relationship history and help you identify unhelpful beliefs, triggers, and possibly trauma that could impede a healthy relationship.
I will help you to become more self-aware about attitudes and perspectives in intimate relationships that influence your dating choices. We will work together to help you become better attuned to nuances in social interactions that may have gone unnoticed. We will also work on skills development to form and secure a sustainable relationship. We will use will cover conflict management, attachment style, goals and values, boundaries, as well as love languages. We will look at how to better express needs, and how to understand a partner’s real needs. Another key area is the practical side of dating, such as strategies for connection opportunities and navigating the dating world. And finally, we will spend time evaluating and measuring your progress as you work toward your goal of creating a fantastic new relationship.
I completed a Doctorate of Ministry in marriage and family therapy from Denver Seminary and a master’s in counseling psychology from Providence Seminary. I am an Associate Professional Counsellor in Canada specializing in attachment, trauma, and parental resiliency. I am trained in many traditional therapy modalities and theories, integrated from a Christian worldview. My doctoral studies were focused on the effective applications of counselling more than the academic research, including the integration of faith worldviews, only if desired by clients.
Although my training and background emphasized counseling through a faith-based perspective, I work with individuals, couples, and families from all walks of life and belief systems. Matters of faith will only be part of our conversation if it is important to you, and if so, we will talk about your faith — not mine.
For the past 19 years, I have served in various capacities, including private practice as a life coach and therapist, prison chaplain, community pastor, and trauma training facilitator. In 2014 my wife and I co-founded a national charity that builds community capacity to effectively care for vulnerable children and families. Through online technology, participating churches and communities can respond to the needs of local children and families that caseworkers submit. We also offer online community-level training in trauma care, culture & reconciliation, understanding poverty, and healthy collaboration.
I was born in South Korea and immigrated to Canada when I was five. My wife and I currently live in Winnipeg, Canada, and are blessed to have a diverse multi-ethnic family of five children (bio/adoptive/kinship) and two grandchildren. Our children have been my greatest teachers of neurodiversities, mental health, and overcoming adverse challenges. I love spending time with my family, playing badminton, golf, working out, and cooking, especially Korean food.