Heal Your Broken HeartHeal, Grow, and Move On.
Expert Breakup & Divorce Recovery
By Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LMFT, BCC
Losing your true love is one of the most painful, confusing and complicated things that people can go through. Even though everyone around you tries to be helpful, saying things like “You just have to let it go,” or “You’ll find someone better,” it’s not that simple. You want to move on, and create a fresh start, but it feels impossible to build a new life when you’re still grieving your old one.
When you’re heartbroken, you walk around with a burning hole in your heart and a head full of obsessions. You can’t just “turn off” the feelings, even though the relationship is over. You know intellectually that you need to move on, but even though your head tells you one thing your heart is still attached — even if you are the one that left.
Breakups Are Isolating: But You’re Not Alone
Even though people talk about “getting over it” like it was easy, it’s not. Everyone in the world who has the capacity to love deeply has felt crushed and confused in the aftermath of a failed (or failing) relationship. Even though many people going through bad breakups can get tricked into believing there is “something wrong with them” because they can’t “just get over it” here is what is actually normal and expected when you’ve lost a cherished relationship:
- You can’t stop thinking about your Ex
- You crave having contact even though you know you shouldn’t
- You look for information about them, and desparately want answers
- You feel like you need “closure”
- It feels like the terrible pain will never end
- You go back and forth about whether it could work
- Even if you know the relationship needed to end, you still feel stuck emotionally
The Accidental Break-Up Expert
I became a marriage counselor because I wanted to help people repair their relationships. (And many times I can). However, there are some relationships that can’t be saved. More often then not, when I’m working with a couple who decides to split, one of the partners chooses to stay on with me in counseling, and I walk with them through their recovery.
Over the years, I have learned a lot about the nature of love and loss, and the specific ideas that help people let go, move on, and rebuild their lives. I’ve walked with countless clients through their recovery process, and have had the honor and privilege of bearing witness to their healing.
In the “laboratory” of my private practiced, I developed insight into what keeps people stuck… and what sets them free.
Getting Over a Breakup: What Works, and What Doesn’t
I’m so passionate about helping broken hearted people heal, grow, and move on that last year I even wrote a book about it. “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to An Ex Love” was written for all the people I’ve worked with over the years. It’s chock full of WAY more information than is possible to cover in a counseling session — but it’s essential for people to wrap their heads around why they are feeling the way that they do, the fact that nothing is wrong with them for “being stuck” and the scientific rationale for why some of the unsusal and paradoxical things I recommend my clients to do actually work.
My approach is based on both my clinical experience, and what modern research tells us about the biological nature of bonding to a “irreplaceable other.” Many of my clients come into therapy with me feeling like something must be wrong with them because they “can’t get over it.” They are so relieved to learn that they absolutely can heal and move on — but it takes a different approach.
Breakup Recovery: A Revolutionary New Approach
Our approach offers you more guidance on how to release your emotional attachment to your Ex, and move on. Along the way we help you answer many of the questions that you might be struggling with in the absence of closure, and we also help you find solutions to the complex, confusing situations you might be dealing with in the aftermath of your breakup or divorce.
We can help you with common situations like:
- You’re ambivalent about the relationship and trying to decide if you should try again.
- Your relationship is over and now you’re in an undefined “situation-ship” with your Ex.
- You find it difficult to set healthy boundaries with your Ex.
- You are getting pressure / judgment from your family and friends about why you can’t just “let it go.”
- You have children together and need to maintain a functional co-parenting relationship.
- You have a business or other common interest that bind you together.
- You still have important friendships or family relationships that may be impacted by the breakup.
- Your self esteem has been crushed and you don’t know how to rebuild yourself.
- You are so consumed with pain that it’s hard to focus on work or school.
- Your relationship ended in infidelity, or was a failed affair.
- You might feel intense anger towards your Ex, and no idea how to forgive.
- You wonder if you’ll ever be able to trust (let alone love) again.
- You would like to achieve a sense of “closure”
- You want to launch a healthy new chapter of your life, but don’t know how to create it.
You Can Heal: We Can Help
You don’t have to go through this alone. Here at Growing Self we have two effective ways of helping you heal your broken heart, release your emotional attachment to your Ex, and move on into a happy, healthy new chapter of life: Private counseling or coaching, or our online breakup recovery program
Private Counseling & Coaching
Our compassionate experts are here to provide you with guidance, patience, and a nonjudgmental, supportive relationship as you work through the stages of healing. We’ll help you create solutions to difficult problems, and help you find your path forward.
We can meet with you at our Denver and Broomfield Colorado office locations, or across the US and internationally through online video.
Our Breakup Recovery Program
Over the years, Dr. Bobby discovered that there are specific stages of healing that people go through after a breakup. She developed a system, her “Heal Your Broken Heart” online breakup recovery program, that walks you step by step through the recovery process.
This online class is an affordable, convenient alternative that makes working with Dr. Bobby easy and accessible.
Are You Obsessing About Your Ex?
Are you craving contact with your Ex, even though you know it's bad for you? Are you "stalking" your Ex through social media? Are you awake at night rehashing old memories? Are you feeling stuck in sadness, anger, or guilt, and wishing you could just let go, and move on?
Help is here.
Heal Your Broken Heart: The Online Breakup Recovery Class
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is a breakup recovery expert, and she has helped countless people all over the world heal their broken hearts. Now her guidance is available to you through an affordable, online class.
Heal Your Broken Heart teaches you how to:
Decide If You Should Try Again • Release Your Emotional Attachment • Find Forgiveness • Repair Your Self Esteem • Stop Obsessing • Restore Your Inner Peace • Trust Again • Love After Loss
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is trained as a Psychologist, a Marriage and Family Therapist, and is a Board Certified Life Coach. She is the Founder of Growing Self Counseling and Life Coaching in Denver, Colorado.
Dr. Bobby is the host of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, and the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love.”
Help Yourself to a Free Consultation Session
Meet in-person at our Denver / Cherry Creek, Broomfield or Denver Tech Center locations. We're also available across the US and internationally
through online video.
We Are Here For You
Our compassionate team of breakup recovery experts has years of experience in helping people just like you. They provide a supportive, patient, and non-judgmental space for you to work through your feelings. They will help you figure out whether there could still possibly be hope, and if so, how to repair your relationship. If not, they can help you grieve, and do the emotional work of healing.
Mary Lussier, M.A., LMFT
Experienced, Supportive, and Effective
Mary has a warm, empowering, and nurturing approach that helps you heal yourself and rebuild your life after a bad breakup, or traumatic divorce. As a licensed marriage and family therapist she can help you navigate the challenges of post-divorce life, including how to support your children, and co-parent with your Ex. Most importantly, she can help you heal your heart, release your anger, repair your self esteem, and move on into a positive new chapter.
Melissa Barbash, M.A., LPC, LAC
Warm, Authentic, and Empowering
Melissa is here to meet you exactly where you are, and walk with you through the stages of healing. She can help you work through the anger, grief, guilt, and shame of heartbreak, understand what happened, release your attachment, and cultivate a healthy, happy, and fulfilling new life.
Brenda Fahn, M.A., LMFT
Design Your Life
Brenda Fahn is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with a positive, direct style and over fifteen years of experience in helping people repair their relationships, heal after breakup or divorce, and create healthy new relationships when the time is right.
Kristy Vergo, M.A., LMFTC
Holistic, Powerful, and Meaningful
Kristy Vergo is a kind, non-judgmental marriage counselor who specializes in helping people restore their self confidence, and sense of trust and safety. She has a holistic approach that connects you with your mind, body and spirit. She can help you reconnect with your authentic core self, heal your pain, and grow into the happy, healthy, strong person that you are destined to be.
Anastacia Sams, M.A., N.C.C., LMFT-C
Heal and Grow
Anastacia Sams is a couples counselor, individual therapist and life coach who specializes in helping people heal their relationships when possible, let go gracefully when necessary, and rebuild their lives in the aftermath of loss. Her compassionate support can strengthen you, and help you create a positive new chapter.
Polly Drew, M.Ed., LMFT
The Wisdom of Experience
Polly is a marriage counselor and family therapist with over 25 years of experience in helping divorcing couples "come back from the brink" and repair even the most difficult relationships. When relationships cannot be saved, Polly is a master of helping you reclaim your life from the ashes. Her calm, wise, caring presence will help you heal your heart, and her practical guidance will help guide you towards the future that you design.
Kathleen Stutts, M.Ed., NCC, LPC-C
Kind, Compassionate and Effective
Kathleen has a warm, compassionate and gentle way of being that helps people feel safe, heard, and cared for. In the non-judgmental, supportive space of your relationship with her you can heal and grow.
Ari Kipnis, M.S.W., LCSW
Living With Clarity & Intention
Ari Kipnis has over ten years of experience in helping people recover from traumatic life experiences. He can help ease your pain, and start feeling like yourself again. Ari's calm, gentle manner is both soothing and inspiring. He can help you decide whether to stay or go, assist you in letting go of the past, and stay by your side as you walk fearlessly create a satisfying and healthy new life.
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– Former Clients