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Heal Your Broken Heart

Heal, Grow, and Move On.

Expert Breakup & Divorce Recovery

By Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LMFT, BCC

Losing your true love is one of the most painful, confusing and complicated things that people can go through. Even though everyone around you tries to be helpful, saying things like “You just have to let it go,” or “You’ll find someone better,” it’s not that simple. You want to move on, and create a fresh start, but it feels impossible to build a new life when you’re still grieving your old one.

When you’re heartbroken, you walk around with a burning hole in your heart and a head full of obsessions. You can’t just “turn off” the feelings, even though the relationship is over. You know intellectually that you need to move on, but even though your head tells you one thing your heart is still attached — even if you are the one that left.

Breakups Are Isolating: But You’re Not Alone

Even though people talk about “getting over it” like it was easy, it’s not. Everyone in the world who has the capacity to love deeply has felt crushed and confused in the aftermath of a failed (or failing) relationship. Even though many people going through bad breakups can get tricked into believing there is “something wrong with them” because they can’t “just get over it” here is what is actually normal and expected when you’ve lost a cherished relationship:

  • You can’t stop thinking about your Ex
  • You crave having contact even though you know you shouldn’t
  • You look for information about them, and desparately want answers
  • You feel like you need “closure”
  • It feels like the terrible pain will never end
  • You go back and forth about whether it could work
  • Even if you know the relationship needed to end, you still feel stuck emotionally

The Accidental Break-Up Expert

I became a marriage counselor because I wanted to help people repair their relationships. (And many times I can). However, there are some relationships that can’t be saved. More often then not, when I’m working with a couple who decides to split, one of the partners chooses to stay on with me in counseling, and I walk with them through their recovery.

Over the years, I have learned a lot about the nature of love and loss, and the specific ideas that help people let go, move on, and rebuild their lives. I’ve walked with countless clients through their recovery process, and have had the honor and privilege of bearing witness to their healing.

In the “laboratory” of my private practiced, I developed insight into what keeps people stuck… and what sets them free.

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Getting Over a Breakup: What Works, and What Doesn’t

I’m so passionate about helping broken hearted people heal, grow, and move on that last year I even wrote a book about it. “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to An Ex Love” was written for all the people I’ve worked with over the years. It’s chock full of WAY more information than is possible to cover in a counseling session — but it’s essential for people to wrap their heads around why they are feeling the way that they do, the fact that nothing is wrong with them for “being stuck” and the scientific rationale for why some of the unsusal and paradoxical things I recommend my clients to do actually work.

My approach is based on both my clinical experience, and what modern research tells us about the biological nature of bonding to a “irreplaceable other.” Many of my clients come into therapy with me feeling like something must be wrong with them because they “can’t get over it.” They are so relieved to learn that they absolutely can heal and move on — but it takes a different approach.

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Because we specialize in relationships and breakup recovery, we have lots of free breakup advice for you to take advantage of on our blog. Please help yourself to the wisdom of our breakup recovery experts, and share these articles with your fellow travelers. It’s all here for you.

Your Breakup Questions, Answered.

If you’re like most people dealing with heartbreak, your head is spinning with unanswered questions. “Why did this happen?” “How do I get closure?” “How do I start feeling okay again?” All these questions about dealing with a breakup, and more, on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Listen now.

How to Get Over a Breakup

Learn when a relationship is really over, or when it’s worth trying again; how to handle friends who might be impatient with you healing process; how to cope with the pain of a breakup; how do you deal with feelings of regret, guilt and anger after a breakup? All this and more. Listen now.

The First Step in Healing Heartbreak: Validation

As a counselor and coach, I have a passion for helping the brokenhearted reclaim their lives after having been shattered by an unwanted relationship loss. I have great empathy for their pain because, like everyone else in the world, I too have had my heart broken. I know that feeling understood is essential for healing. Here’s some validation for you

How to Deal, When Your Ex Moves On

Just when you think you’re finally healing from your breakup or recovering from your divorce, BAM there it is. The sighting / photo / couple-status update / engagement announcement of your Ex and their new love. And all the painful wounds open up again. Here’s how to cope, when your Ex moves on…
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How to Repair Your Self Esteem After a Breakup

For many, the worst part of a bad breakup or divorce is the toll that it takes on your self-esteem. It’s hard to feel good about yourself when you’re dealing with rejection or left questioning your own judgment. On this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast you’ll learn how to start feeling like yourself again. Listen now.
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How to Survive a Breakup Over the Holidays

The holidays are definitely NOT the “most wonderful time of the year” when you’re going through a traumatic breakup or divorce. On this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I’m sharing some tips for how to take care of yourself when you’re heartbroken (and the rest of the world is happy). Listen now.

Breakup Recovery: A Revolutionary New Approach

Our approach offers you more guidance on how to release your emotional attachment to your Ex, and move on. Along the way we help you answer many of the questions that you might be struggling with in the absence of closure, and we also help you find solutions to the complex, confusing situations you might be dealing with in the aftermath of your breakup or divorce.

We can help you with common situations like:

  • You’re ambivalent about the relationship and trying to decide if you should try again.
  • Your relationship is over and now you’re in an undefined “situation-ship” with your Ex.
  • You find it difficult to set healthy boundaries with your Ex.
  • You are getting pressure / judgment from your family and friends about why you can’t just “let it go.”
  • You have children together and need to maintain a functional co-parenting relationship.
  • You have a business or other common interest that bind you together.
  • You still have important friendships or family relationships that may be impacted by the breakup.
  • Your self esteem has been crushed and you don’t know how to rebuild yourself.
  • You are so consumed with pain that it’s hard to focus on work or school.
  • Your relationship ended in infidelity, or was a failed affair.
  • You might feel intense anger towards your Ex, and no idea how to forgive.
  • You wonder if you’ll ever be able to trust (let alone love) again.
  • You would like to achieve a sense of “closure”
  • You want to launch a healthy new chapter of your life, but don’t know how to create it.

You Can Heal: We Can Help

You don’t have to go through this alone. Here at Growing Self we have effective ways of helping you heal your broken heart, release your emotional attachment to your Ex, and move on into a happy, healthy new chapter of life: Private counseling or coaching, or our online breakup recovery program.

Private Breakup
Counseling & Coaching

Our compassionate breakup recovery experts are here to provide you with guidance, patience, and a nonjudgmental, supportive relationship as you work through the stages of healing after heartbreak. We’ll be by your side every step of the way, helping you find your path forward.

We can meet with you at any of our in-person office locations, or across the US and internationally through online video.

Take Our
Breakup Recovery Program

Over the years, Dr. Bobby discovered that there are specific stages of healing that people go through after a breakup. She developed a system, her “Heal Your Broken Heart” online breakup recovery program, that walks you step by step through the recovery process.

This online class is an affordable, convenient alternative to private counseling or coaching that makes working with Dr. Bobby easy and accessible.

Looking For Immediate Advice to Cope With a Breakup?

You can have a “Solution Session” with our on-call coach, whenever you like. In a single, solution-focused coaching session our on-call coach will talk you through strategies, help you create a plan to get through this difficult time.

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is trained as a Psychologist, a Marriage and Family Therapist, and is a Board Certified Life Coach. She is the Founder of Growing Self Counseling and Life Coaching in Denver, Colorado.

Dr. Bobby is the host of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, and the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love.”

We Are Here For You

Our compassionate team of breakup recovery experts has years of experience in helping people just like you. They provide a supportive, patient, and non-judgmental space for you to work through your feelings. They will help you figure out whether there could still possibly be hope, and if so, how to repair your relationship. If not, they can help you grieve, and do the emotional work of healing.

Rachel Moore, MSW, LICSW

Rachel Moore, MSW, LICSW

Direct, Empowering, and Compassionate

Rachel has many years of experience in working with both individuals and couples as a relationship coach, therapist, life coach, parenting coach and dating coach. She can help you not just heal your broken heart, but rebuild your life — the way you want it to be. Using her insight into relationships, families, and individual growth work, Rachel can help you find closure, create positive outcomes for your children after divorce, and release negative feelings you may harbor towards your Ex. Once healed, she'll then be by your side, motivating and supporting you as you create a new life of your own design.

Seth Bender, M.A., LMFTC

Seth Bender, M.A., LMFTC

Understanding, Supportive, and Effective

Seth has a warm, empowering, and nurturing approach that helps you heal yourself and rebuild your life after a bad breakup, or traumatic divorce. As a marriage and family therapist he can help you navigate the challenges of post-divorce life, including how to support your children, and co-parent with your Ex. Most importantly, he can help you heal your heart, release your anger, repair your self esteem, and move on into a positive new chapter.

Anastacia Sams, M.A., N.C.C., LMFT-C

Anastacia Sams, M.A., N.C.C., LMFT-C

Heal and Grow

Anastacia Sams is a couples counselor, individual therapist and life coach who specializes in helping people heal their relationships when possible, let go gracefully when necessary, and rebuild their lives in the aftermath of loss. Her compassionate support can strengthen you, and help you create a positive new chapter.

 

 

Teena Evert, M.A., LAC, LMFT

Teena Evert, M.A., LAC, LMFT

Wholehearted Living & Empowered Relationships

Teena Evert is a highly experienced couples counselor and relationship coach, as well as a dating coach and a certified holistic life coach. She can help you understand where things went off track, and whether repair of your relationship is possible. If not, her compassionate, warm way of being can help you grieve, let go, and ultimately reconnect with your authentic, empowered self. If / when the time is right for you to open your heart back up she can help you learn how to trust again, and establish a healthy new relationship.

 

 

 

Brogan Crosby, M.S., LMFTC

Brogan Crosby, M.S., LMFTC

Warm, Supportive, Compassionate

Brogan Crosby specializes in couples counseling, life coaching, and individual therapy and draws from all three to help you understand what happened to your relationship, whether or not it can be fixed, and if not — how to move forward. Her insightful, empowering style can help you connect with your strengths and restore your self-confidence as you rebuild your life after a breakup or divorce.

 

 

 

Zachary Gaiter, M.A., LPCC

Zachary Gaiter, M.A., LPCC

Caring, Supportive Direction & Guidance

Zachary Gaiter is a therapist and life coach with a supportive yet motivating approach. He can help ease your pain, and start feeling like yourself again. Zachary's calm, gentle manner is both soothing and inspiring. He can help you decide whether to stay or go, assist you in letting go of the past, and stay by your side as you walk fearlessly create a satisfying and healthy new life. 

 

Brenda Fahn, M.A., LMFT

Brenda Fahn, M.A., LMFT

Design Your Life

Brenda Fahn is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with a positive, direct style and over fifteen years of experience in helping people repair their relationships, heal after breakup or divorce, and create healthy new relationships when the time is right. 

 

Sonya Jensen, M.A., LMFTA

Sonya Jensen, M.A., LMFTA

Transformational Coaching & Counseling

Sonya is an expert therapist, life coach and relationship counselor with specialized experience in helping people break free from the past, work through grief, and develop healthy, empowering self-care strategies. She can help you release anger, rebuild your self-esteem, break your attachment to your Ex and learn how to love yourself. When the time is right, she help you create a healthy, satisfying new relationship. 

 

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