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What Is Shadow Work, and Should You Be Doing It?
Let’s get uncomfortable (but…in a good way).
“It’s also an opportunity to get curious about parts of ourselves that we’re not so proud of, says Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LMFT, founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching in Denver, CO and the host of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast. For instance, maybe you have a tendency to snap at a loved one, and even just thinking about that fact makes you super uncomfortable. Dr. Bobby explains that shadow work might prompt you to actually look at and investigate that behavior, asking yourself things like: “What was my motivation when I snapped at them? What need was I trying to get met?” The tricky part of shadow work is to look curiously at these less-than-fun parts of oneself without internalizing it and assuming you’re just a bad, mean person. ”
Read more on WonderMind: What Is Shadow Work, and Should You Be Doing It?
7 Ways to Be a Better Listener
“Problem-solving and meeting a partner’s needs requires having had the opportunity to absorb what your partner’s telling you they need, or hope for, from you.”
Read more on Oprah Daily: 7 Ways to Be a Better Listener
6 tips for navigating a tense Thanksgiving dinner, according to family therapist
“Do whatever feels like it regulates your nervous system,” she says. “Like going for a walk, meditating, or taking a shower.” – Brittany S., M.A., LMFT
Read more on CNBC: 6 tips for navigating a tense Thanksgiving dinner, according to family therapist
Should You Get Back Together With Your Ex? On Unqualified with Anna Farris
Your Ex broke your heart, but now they’re back insisting that things will be different this time. Should you get back together with your Ex? Or move on with your life?
Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC and Anna help Anne Marie sort it out, on this episode of “Anna Faris is UNQUALIFIED.“
Here are 2 ways to stay calm if you can’t avoid family conflict at the Thanksgiving table
“I think that once we differentiate — we go off to college, we move out — when we go back home we are back in that place of growing up, back in those formative years,” she says. “They bring out those dynamics that maybe feel good in some way and in other ways are triggering.” – Brittany S., M.A., LMFT
Read more of the advice on CNBC: Here are 2 ways to stay calm if you can’t avoid family conflict at the Thanksgiving table
What to Look For in a Therapist (According to Mental Health Professionals)
Jessica S., M.A., LMFT, licensed marriage and family therapist, shares her tips on what to look for in a therapist.
Read more of the advice on Up Journey: What to Look For in a Therapist (According to Mental Health Professionals)
Getting fired from a job you hate can still be upsetting – here’s why, according to a therapist
“They have a narrative that says, ‘if I were better I wouldn’t have done a bad job. It was my fault,’ she says. “It’s similar to a narrative that women or men have in an abusive relationship that if I were better this person would treat me how I deserve to be treated.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Read more of the advice on CNBC: Getting fired from a job you hate can still be upsetting – here’s why, according to a therapist
25 Fool-Proof Long Distance Relationship Tips, According to Experts
Jessica S., M.A., LMFT, licensed marriage and family therapist, shares an intimate tip for keeping your long distance relationship thriving.
Read more on Prevention.com here: 25 Fool-Proof Long Distance Relationship Tips, According to Experts
Practical, romantic or controlling? Here’s what a therapist has to say about location-sharing in a relationship
“Someone who has experienced relationship trauma in a past or current relationship will often be more hyper vigilant and less trusting about where people are.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Read more of the advice on CNBC: Practical, romantic or controlling? Here’s what a therapist has to say about location-sharing in a relationship
Why Video Calls are so Exhausting and How To Manage
“There is something deeply special and personal in a handwritten letter, and as a couples counselor, I have found that people are often able to be more vulnerable in their writing,” says Jessica S., M.A., LMFT, licensed marriage and family therapist with Growing Self Counseling and Coaching.
Read more on Pop Sugar here: 25 Fool-Proof Long Distance Relationship Tips, According to Experts
Raising your partner is a relationship ‘red flag’: Here are 3 signs you might be doing it and how to stop
“I think that in itself can be a bit of a red flag in a relationship,” she says. “Not because a partner needs to be raised, but because they are with someone who thinks that they do. I think that is just yucky.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Read more on CNBC: Raising your partner is a relationship ‘red flag’: Here are 3 signs you might be doing it and how to stop
Sexplain It: My Husband May Be Addicted to Porn and Refuses to Have Sex With Me
According to Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC, clinical director of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching. “Your husband may determine that virtual sexuality is his preferred sexuality, and he has the right to have that without being pathologized,” she says.
Read more on Men’s Health: Sexplain It: My Husband May Be Addicted to Porn and Refuses to Have Sex With Me
‘What are we anxious about?’ and other big questions you should ask before moving in with your partner
“Have a conversation that allows you two to determine what needs to be in place in order to set your relationship up for success as you take this next step.” – Jessica S., M.S., LMFT
Read more of the advice on CNBC: ‘What are we anxious about?’ and other big questions you should ask before moving in with your partner
7 Signs Your Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working Anymore
“If you find yourself consistently going to a friend, co-worker or someone else to bounce ideas off of, get support or just chit-chat, and notice communication with your partner dwindling, it may be a sign to rethink how things are going,” couples therapist Jenna P., M.A., LPC, MFTC of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching in Broomfield, Colorado, told HuffPost: 7 Signs Your Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working Anymore
The MBTI is trending in Korea, but using the personality test to date is a ‘terrible idea,’ says relationships psychologist
“I think it’s a terrible idea,” she says. “People are already judging each other based on very little information, and to start making assumptions or making meaning from personality test scores will add another barrier to developing a healthy relationship.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Read more of the advice on CNBC: The MBTI is trending in Korea, but using the personality test to date is a ‘terrible idea,’ says relationships psychologist
10 Signs You’re a Bad Listener
10 Big Signs That You’re a Bad Listener | If you find yourself guilty of one of these bad habits, your listening needs to improve.
Read more on Fatherly: 10 Signs You’re a Bad Listener
Already read ‘Attached?’ Here are 6 other therapist-recommended books about attachment theory
“I would recommend ‘Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships,’ by Stan Tatkinmore, for people who are already in relationships and want to better understand their and their partner’s attachment styles and how it impacts their interactions.” – Jessica S., M.S., LMFT
Read more of the advice on CNBC: Already read ‘Attached?’ Here are 6 other therapist-recommended books about attachment theory
What To Do If Your Parents Dislike Your Partner, According To 7 People
“It is important to remember that the only thing you have control over is yourself, not your parents, or your partner. Keeping this in mind, consider what the actual solvable problems are and begin to solve them,” Jessica S., M.A., LMFT tells Elite Daily.
Read Now on Elite Daily: What To Do If Your Parents Dislike Your Partner, According To 7 People
Setting healthy boundaries with your partner will only make your relationship stronger, says therapist—here’s how to get started
“You are setting limits for yourself,” she says. “You are not controlling the behavior of others. You’re telling people what you will or won’t tolerate with the choices you make.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Read more of the advice on CNBC: Setting healthy boundaries with your partner will only make your relationship stronger, says therapist—here’s how to get started
COVID-19 Pandemic is Actually Bringing Colorado Couples Closer Together
You’ll benefit if you can find ways to make peace with the fact that you can’t control other people’s choices. Here are a few ways to shift your perspective to make that possible, recommended by marriage and family counselor Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC
Read more on KDVR: COVID-19 Pandemic is actually bringing Colorado couples closer together
Being laid off can be ‘emotionally traumatic’: Here’s what to say to your partner if it happens to them
“And how you respond to your partner losing their job will affect the rest of your relationship.” – Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC
Read more from CNBC: Being laid off can be ‘emotionally traumatic’: Here’s what to say to your partner if it happens to them
Divorces Expected to Climb, but Marriages Stressed by Pandemic Can Be Saved
The pandemic era has created a ‘make or break’ situation for marriages. Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC shares how this challenging time can actually help you grow stronger as a couple, with Denver Channel 7’s anchor, Nicole Brady.