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How to Keep Politics From Ruining Your Holiday
“If getting together with family requires that you go into an environment that feels hostile, inflammatory, or emotionally unsafe, it is wise to disengage altogether.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Read more at NY Times
Are you ‘holding space’ for ‘Defying Gravity’? Here’s what the concept actually means, from a psychologist
“Holding space is “core therapy concept”. It means creating a safe, compassionate environment where someone can feel seen, heard, and understood without judgment or interruption. It refers to the act of pausing to fully experience and acknowledge a moment.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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4 Questions to Ask Before Reuniting With an Ex-Partner
“Too many people waste years in these relationships, going to the same rodeo over and over again,” Dr. Bobby said. “It’s easy to get stuck.”
Read more at The NY Times
How To Identify And Heal From A Toxic Relationship, According To Therapists
“Toxic relationships often start with a bang—fast, intense, and full of what feels like emotional intimacy… they’re characterized by chemistry and poor boundaries rather than shared values and character, which makes it all too easy to get ‘hooked’ before you truly know who the other person is.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Read more at Women’s Health
Divorce parties reached an all-time high last year: It’s celebrating ‘one of the bravest choices I’ve ever made’
“There is a narrative in our culture that divorce is this shameful thing, and the reality is that is not true. Many people experience it as a very, very positive thing that is associated with their freedom and ability to be empowered and have the life they want.” — Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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There Are 6 Emotional Stages Of Going Through A Divorce—Here’s How To Handle Each One
“While there are certainly distinct phases of divorce, each person’s situation will change the emotional timeline in some way” says Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LMFT, founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching in Colorado and the author of Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction To An Ex Love.
Read more at Women’s Health
A bar is the worst place to meet a potential mate, dating coaches say: Here’s where to go instead
“If you are living a life that you feel good about and you are putting yourself in those situations, you are going to meet people who are fundamentally fairly compatible with you” — Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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How contentment can be your solution for hustle culture burnout
According to the lead host of the ‘Love, Happiness & Success’ podcast, Lisa Marie Bobby, contentment is about leaning into what you already have accepting and yourself as is.
Read more at Times Now
AI is shaking up online dating with chatbots that are ‘flirty but not too flirty’
“AI-powered dating raises a critical question for people to consider, “When you do begin a relationship with somebody, have you presented a version of yourself that isn’t quite who you are?” Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby said.
Read more on CNBC
150 Best Questions To Ask On A First Date, According to Relationship Experts
“When meeting a potential partner for the first time, have great respect for everything you do not know,” says Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby.
Read more on Women’s Health
This is the worst piece of relationship advice, says therapist Esther Perel
“A prerequisite for being able to grow into the type of person who can have healthy, high-quality relationships is being able to understand yourself and take ownership of how you feel and why that might be” – Lisa Marie Bobby
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20 Things You Should Never Do to Get Over a Breakup
“After a breakup, “any contact with your ex reinforces and strengthens your attachment, and impedes your recovery,” according to Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby.
Read more on Reader’s Digest.
How To Use The Triangle Method To Flirt With Anyone And Everyone
“The great thing about it is that it’s sexy, but not too risky of a maneuver. It’s fun and it’s playful without letting you go too far before knowing if your feelings are reciprocated,” says Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby.
Read more on Women’s Health
10 Creative At-Home Date Night Ideas for Parents
“One of the best options I’ve found for many parents of young children is to have at-home dates while their kids are in school or otherwise occupied out of the house,” says Dr. Bobby. “Meet at home for lunch, have late start days together, or take a midday break to go on a walk, have a conversation, and hang out.”
Read more on Parents
Do we get too much advice on how to love? Why an article from 1938 feels more true now than ever
“Anytime we substitute someone else’s judgment for our own experience of reality, we run into trouble. Relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all, and there’s no ‘cookie for the cutter’ when it comes to love.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Read more at CNBC
My Husband and I Tried Growing Self’s Couples Therapy—and It Did Not Disappoint
Growing Self made couples therapy easy, accessible, and comfortable
“My husband and I smiled at each other… And I instantly understood what made Growing Self’s approach to love and happiness such a hit with its patients—and us.” — Irina Gonzalez, Growing Self Reviewer
When Bad Behavior Happens to Good People
Learn to spot some not-so-great conduct. Then steer things back onto a healthy and harmonious track.
“So many of us have been trained to be non-confrontational. Instead of voicing our grievances, we bottle them up, then lash out in subtle ways.”
— Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
What Is Shadow Work, and Should You Be Doing It?
Let’s get uncomfortable (but…in a good way).
“It’s also an opportunity to get curious about parts of ourselves that we’re not so proud of, says Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LMFT, founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching in Denver, CO and the host of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast. For instance, maybe you have a tendency to snap at a loved one, and even just thinking about that fact makes you super uncomfortable. Dr. Bobby explains that shadow work might prompt you to actually look at and investigate that behavior, asking yourself things like: “What was my motivation when I snapped at them? What need was I trying to get met?” The tricky part of shadow work is to look curiously at these less-than-fun parts of oneself without internalizing it and assuming you’re just a bad, mean person. ”
Read more on WonderMind: What Is Shadow Work, and Should You Be Doing It?
7 Ways to Be a Better Listener
“Problem-solving and meeting a partner’s needs requires having had the opportunity to absorb what your partner’s telling you they need, or hope for, from you.”
Read more on Oprah Daily: 7 Ways to Be a Better Listener
Go on this many dates each week if your goal is a long-term relationship: ‘It’s a numbers game,’ therapist says
“People who are really serious about finding their person are going to be spending a lot more time than two days a week dating,” says Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, relationship psychologist and founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching.
Read more at CNBC
Should You Get Back Together With Your Ex? On Unqualified with Anna Farris
Your Ex broke your heart, but now they’re back insisting that things will be different this time. Should you get back together with your Ex? Or move on with your life?
Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC and Anna help Anne Marie sort it out, on this episode of “Anna Faris is UNQUALIFIED.“
The most emotionally intelligent couples always use this 1 communication tool to solve conflict, relationship therapist says
“When we take ownership of our perspective without placing blame, there’s a lot of personal responsibility, and the other person is less defensive and more receptive,” says Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, relationship psychologist and founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching.
Read more at CNBC
5 counterintuitive pieces of relationship advice, from therapists: Don’t ‘hyper-fixate’ on your own needs
People in long-term relationships will crash and burn when the relationship starts to feel different because they can fall into the false belief that something is terribly wrong when it’s a perfectly healthy, fantastic relationship,” says Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, relationship psychologist and founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching in Denver.
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Why knowing your attachment style can help you have a healthy relationship
“Understanding this psychology is crucial, especially when it comes to dating—where it tends to be activated most often,” says Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, psychologist, and host of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast.
Read more on Women’s Health
The No. 1 conversation you shouldn’t text: Use this script to make breaking up face-to-face easier
If done right, these talks don’t have to be total character assassinations. In fact, they can end up being helpful to the other person.
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Sexplain It: My Husband May Be Addicted to Porn and Refuses to Have Sex With Me
According to Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC, clinical director of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching. “Your husband may determine that virtual sexuality is his preferred sexuality, and he has the right to have that without being pathologized,” she says.
Read more on Men’s Health: Sexplain It: My Husband May Be Addicted to Porn and Refuses to Have Sex With Me
7 Signs Your Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working Anymore
“If you find yourself consistently going to a friend, co-worker or someone else to bounce ideas off of, get support or just chit-chat, and notice communication with your partner dwindling, it may be a sign to rethink how things are going,” couples therapist Jenna P., M.A., LPC, MFTC of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching in Broomfield, Colorado, told HuffPost: 7 Signs Your Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working Anymore
3 Phrases You Should Never Say During a Breakup
“An expression of true love and caring is to have an authentic conversation about what is going on inside of you that has led you to come to this conclusion,” Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby says.
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10 Signs You’re a Bad Listener
10 Big Signs That You’re a Bad Listener | If you find yourself guilty of one of these bad habits, your listening needs to improve.
Read more on Fatherly: 10 Signs You’re a Bad Listener
Setting healthy boundaries with your partner will only make your relationship stronger, says therapist—here’s how to get started
“You are setting limits for yourself,” she says. “You are not controlling the behavior of others. You’re telling people what you will or won’t tolerate with the choices you make.” – Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Read more of the advice on CNBC: Setting healthy boundaries with your partner will only make your relationship stronger, says therapist—here’s how to get started
COVID-19 Pandemic is Actually Bringing Colorado Couples Closer Together
You’ll benefit if you can find ways to make peace with the fact that you can’t control other people’s choices. Here are a few ways to shift your perspective to make that possible, recommended by marriage and family counselor Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC
Read more on KDVR: COVID-19 Pandemic is actually bringing Colorado couples closer together
Being laid off can be ‘emotionally traumatic’: Here’s what to say to your partner if it happens to them
“And how you respond to your partner losing their job will affect the rest of your relationship.” – Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC
Read more from CNBC: Being laid off can be ‘emotionally traumatic’: Here’s what to say to your partner if it happens to them
Divorces Expected to Climb, but Marriages Stressed by Pandemic Can Be Saved
The pandemic era has created a ‘make or break’ situation for marriages. Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LP, LMFT, BCC shares how this challenging time can actually help you grow stronger as a couple, with Denver Channel 7’s anchor, Nicole Brady.