Premarital Counseling

Build a Happy Life, Together

Invest in What Matters Most:

Your Marriage

A wedding can cost tens of thousands of dollars. But good premarital counseling with an expert marriage and family therapist is the most valuable investment you’ll ever make in your marriage. Learn about the benefits of premarital counseling at Growing Self.

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Learn and Grow, Together

Satisfying, secure marriages don‘t just happen: They’re grown, with intention.

We help you learn and grow together and proactively address issues before they become problems — laying the foundation for a bright shared future.

Whether you choose premarital counseling online, premarital counseling in Denver, or a group premarital course, you’ll gain a toolbox of healthy relationship skills to keep your love strong for the long haul. 

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Comprehensive Premarital Assessment

Our effective secular premarital program starts with a 200+ question, in-depth relationship assessment to find your relationship’s strengths and growth opportunities. Then we help you have deep premarital conversations for commitment that help you both learn and grow.

Then, you’ll learn the strategies that will help you solve problems together before they arise.

Secular Premarital Counseling With True Relationship Experts

Most premarital counseling is conducted by clergy — not relationship experts. We’re different: All of our secular premarital counselors are marriage and family therapists — genuine relationship specialists with years of experience providing marriage counseling, couples therapy and relationship coaching.

We understand healthy relationships inside and out, and know how to help couples anticipate distant obstacles and build better relationships.

Our in depth approach sets your marriage up for success by helping you make positive changes that improve your relationship and lay the foundation for a strong, resilient marriage.

Our Structured Approach to Meaningful Premarital Counseling:


It all starts with a comprehensive relationship assessment to reveal your relationship’s strengths, and growth opportunities.


When the results are in, your premarital counselor will help you create a plan to build a foundation for a great marriage.


Then, you’ll learn effective skills and strategies to keep your relationship strong over the long haul, tailored to fit your needs.

The Benefits of Premarital Counseling:

1. Build Healthy Communication

With good communication, you can work through anything together. Learn productive, emotionally safe communication skills that help you both feel heard and understood — and avoid unproductive conflict.

2. Cultivate Emotional & Physical Intimacy

A deep intimate connection is the heart of a happy marriage. Learn to speak each other’s love languages, meet each other’s emotional needs, and keep the spark alive in the decades ahead.

3. Create a Powerhouse Partnership

Learning how to work effectively as a team requires thoughtful intention. Our expert relationship coaches help you create an egalitarian plan for housework, parenting, and more, and learn to rebalance your roles through every new chapter.

4. Achieve Alignment Around Money

Our premarital counselors have special expertise in financial counseling for couples, and will teach you how to create a shared vision (and a plan) to manage your finances together.

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5. Share Your Hopes, Goals & Values

Co-creating a meaningful future is what keeps you on track through life’s twists and turns. Premarital counseling uncovers your hopes, goals, and values for your shared life, then helps you make a solid plan to achieve them, together.

Our Premarital Counseling Services

Online Premarital Counseling

Online premarital counseling helps you achieve your relationship goals. Working with us online is a powerful, meaningful growth experience, perfect for:

Learn more about online premarital counseling.

Denver Premarital Counseling

Attend in-person sessions with a Denver premarital counselor at one of our three Denver office locations.

  • Denver / Cherry Creek
  • Broomfield

Learn more about our Denver premarital counseling services.

Pre-Engagement Counseling

If you’re thinking about taking the next step, pre-engagement counseling is a smart way to get clarity, work through issues, and create a shared vision for your future.

Learn more about pre-engagement counseling.

Premarital Course

Our affordable six-hour, live premarital course helps you build healthy relationship skills, start courageous conversations, and find alignment around important issues.

Learn more about our “Lifetime of Love” premarital course.

Meet a Few of Our Premarital Counselors

What Our Clients Say

Sessions Available Online & In Person

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Connect With Us

Begin your journey of growth by requesting a free consultation meeting with the expert of your choice. Not sure who to work with? Let us know your hopes and goals. We’ll provide customized recommendations about which experts would be a good fit, and help you schedule your first free consultation.
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Founder of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching

“The strongest, happiest, most successful couples wisely use these opportunities to learn and grow, together.”

Welcome To Growing Self

Thank you for considering Growing Self for your journey into a lifetime of love and continual growth in the most important part of your life — your relationship. I know how much is on the line, and it is incredibly important to me that your work with us is genuinely meaningful and effective.

We are here for you every step of the way. In addition to our expert premarital counseling and coaching services, we have free tools and resources to support your growth as a couple.

Check out our for relationship advice, and be sure to visit our to get expert advice from our premarital counselors on our blog, and podcast. Consider taking our free “How Healthy is Your Relationship” class=”stk-highlight”>” quiz to discover your relationship’s strengths and growth opportunities.

You’re also invited to connect with me on Instagram to stay inspired and motivated on your journey of love, happiness and success. I hope you take advantage of all our resources: It’s all there for you!

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby