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Questions About Our Services?

What do you do here?

We specialize in helping our clients create Love, Happiness and success through positive, effective, evidence-based counseling and coaching.

We can help you grow as a person, create healthy, happy relationships, and achieve your most precious personal and professional goals. Our goal is to help you make positive changes in the most important parts of your life, and create the life, love, and career you want.

Our core services include:

For Couples: Private Marriage Counseling, Couples Therapy, Relationship Coaching and Premarital Counseling

For Individuals: Private Life Coaching, Career Coaching, Leadership Coaching, Emotional Intelligence Coaching, Dating Coaching,Breakup / Divorce Recovery Coaching, and Individual Therapy.

If you pursue any of our private counseling or coaching services you'll be working with a highly qualified expert (of your choice) who has a master's degree or doctorate in counseling or clinical psychology, and specialized training and experience in evidence-based coaching approaches that help you make real and lasting change.

We also offer a variety of affordable classes for individuals and couples.

Watch this short (90 second) video for an overview of our different services, how this works, and how to get started.

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Questions About Marriage Counseling, Couples Therapy or Relationship Coaching?

We are relationship experts who specialize in positive, effective, evidence-based forms of marriage counseling, couples therapy, and relationship coaching. 

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If you have questions about marriage counseling, like:

“How do you know if you need marriage counseling?”

“How does marriage counseling work?”

“How much does marriage counseling cost?”

“How do you choose a good marriage counselor?”

“How long should marriage counseling take?”

“Can I use my insurance for marriage counseling?”

“What is the difference between marriage counseling and couples therapy?”

“What should I expect in my first marriage counseling consultation?”

“What is relationship coaching?”

Please visit our “Marriage Counseling Questions” page for comprehensive, detailed answers.

Your Marriage Counseling Questions, Answered.

Questions About Premarital Counseling?

Smart, successful couples understand that preventing relationship problems proactively is much easier than repairing a relationship once damage has been done. Our positive, evidence-based premarital counseling services teach you how to make your good relationship great, and create a lifetime of love together.

Please view this page for an overview of our premarital counseling services, including private premarital counseling, our premarital counseling program, and our premarital counseling class:

Premarital Counseling Services

If you're considering premarital counseling, you probably have questions about premarital counseling including:

“Is premarital counseling really necessary?”

“How much does premarital counseling cost?”

“Can we do premarital counseling online?”

“What should we expect from premarital counseling?”

“Can we do non-religious premarital counseling?”

“Is it true that premarital counseling can make or break a marriage?”

Please visit this page for comprehensive answers for all your questions:
Questions About Premarital Counseling

Questions About Life Coaching?

We specialize in powerful, evidence-based coaching that helps you create lasting positive change in the most important parts of your life including yourself, your career, and your relationships. Here is an overview of all of our coaching services: 

Our Coaching Services

If you're considering getting involved in life coaching it's wise to have questions. Not all coaching strategies are effective, and there is a lot of variability in the training and qualifications of different coaches. It's smart to ask questions! If you have questions about coaching, like:

“How does coaching work?”

“What is the difference between coaching and therapy?” 

“How do I tell a qualified life coach from an unqualified one?”

“What kinds of things can coaching help me with?”

“How much does coaching cost?”

“Does insurance cover coaching?”

Please visit our Life Coaching Questions page to get them all answered.

Questions About Therapy?

Getting involved in genuinely transformational therapy can be a life-changing experience. The challenge is that not all approaches and not all practitioners  have the type of positive, effective approach that helps you heal, grow, and make real and lasting change in your life.

Learn more about our evidence-based approach to therapy, and the types of things we can help you with here:

Our Therapy Services

If you are considering therapy, you probably (wisely) have more questions, like:

“How does therapy work?”

“What should I expect in therapy?”

“How long does therapy take?”

“How does just talking about things make anything different for me?”

“How do I choose a good therapist? (And avoid a bad therapist?)”

“What is evidence-based therapy? Why does this matter?”

“How much does therapy cost?”

“Can I use my insurance for therapy?”

“What is the difference between therapy and life coaching?”

All these questions about therapy, and more, answered here.

Questions About Dating Coaching?

Many people find the realities of modern dating to be challenging. Without a knowledgable expert by your side coaching you, it can be hard to connect with the person you're looking for — much less create a genuinely healthy, long term relationship. We offer a number of dating coaching services to help you get the clarity, confidence, insight and skills to “find the one.”

Here is an overview of our dating coaching services.

Do you have questions about Dating Coaching, like:

“What happens in dating coaching?”

“How does dating coaching work?”

“How do I know if I need a dating coach?”

“What to expect in a first dating coaching consultation meeting?”

“How much does dating coaching cost?”

Please view our Dating Coaching Questions page to get them answered.

Questions About Breakup & Divorce Recovery Coaching?

The founder of Growing Self, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, is the author of the groundbreaking book “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to An Ex Love.” Through her years of research and clinical practice, Dr. Bobby has unique, evidence-based insight into how to help you recover after a relationship loss, so that you can heal, grow, and move on to create a healthy new chapter in your life.

Learn about our breakup and divorce recovery services here.

Questions About Career Coaching?
We are Love, Happiness and Success specialists, and when we say “success” we mean it in the most authentic way: Success that is meaningful, and attached to your most deeply held values. Part of creating a genuinely successful life is creating a career and professional role that is satisfying and enjoyable.

Here is an overview of our career and professional development services:

Career Development Services

Emotional Intelligence Coaching

Executive and Leadership Coaching

What is "Evidence-Based" Counseling and Coaching?

Not all approaches to counseling and coaching are the same. Evidence-based approaches are those that have been found by research to be genuinely effective in helping you create real and lasting change. Unless therapy or coaching is grounded in these evidence-based approaches, it can feel wishy-washy and ineffective.

Learn about the different types of evidence-based counseling and coaching we practice here at Growing Self, so that you can make educated decisions about which approach is best for you.

Evidence Based Approaches

Questions About Getting Started:

How do I get started?

We specialize in helping our clients create Love, Happiness and success through positive, effective, evidence-based counseling and coaching.

Creating real and lasting change in the most important parts of your life, like yourself, your relationship and your career is not an “event” but rather a growth process that begins when you enter into a relationship with an expert therapist or coach who can help you understand yourself, grow as a person, and learn new skills and strategies that enable you to create positive change. This is a growth process that occurs over time, step-by-step.

Because you'll be working closely with your therapist or coach for a period of time it's important that you feel good about who you are working with. That's why we offer a free consultation meeting so that you can get to know them and discuss your hopes and goals to ensure it's a good fit before moving forward.

If you would like to bypass the consultation session and jump right in, you can schedule a solution session instead.

This short (90 second video) gives you an overview of our services, and how to get started. 



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What are your rates? How much does this cost?

We understand that making real and lasting change in yourself, strengthening your relationship, and finding meaning and satisfaction in your career all have a value that cannot be calculated in dollars and cents. That's why we bring you the very best, most effective counseling and coaching with highly trained and carefully vetted experts.

Your rate per session will vary depending on which expert you work with. You can choose to work with a more experienced expert, or you can select a more affordable expert who may be able to offer you income-based sliding scale rates.

Please review our Rates and Insurance page for detailed information about the pricing of our providers so that you can select the expert that will best meet your needs, as well as your budget.

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Do you take my insurance?

We specialize in helping our clients create Love, Happiness and Success. Our clients work with us to achieve personal growth, healthy relationships, self improvement and professional success through positive, effective counseling and coaching.

In contrast, health insurance covers “behavioral healthcare that is medically necessary treatment for a psychiatric condition.” Here at Growing Self, we do not specialize in the diagnosis and treatment of mental health conditions. Therefore, many of our core services are not considered “medically necessary treatments,” but rather what proactive people who are on a path of self-actualization and life satisfaction do to achieve their most precious goals. If that's what you're looking for, you are in the right place.

That said, under certain circumstances, we may be able to help you submit claims to your health insurance company if your work with us meets some specific criteria. Learn more about all of your affordable options, see the rates of the different providers on our team,  and learn whether we can help you use your insurance benefits on our  Rates and Insurance page.

What's the difference between a free consultation and a solution session?

Creating real and lasting change in your life is not an “event.” It's a process that occurs over time — typically over weeks to months of work with a dedicated therapist or coach who can help you gain self awareness, learn new skills and strategies, and make changes in the way you think, feel and behave. 

About Consultation Sessions

Because getting involved with a therapist or coach is such an important, potentially long-term relationship, we offer a Free Consultation, which is an opportunity to meet with the counselor or coach of your choice to talk about your hopes and goals, learn about them, and make sure it's a good fit before moving forward with multi-session, private counseling or coaching.

Schedule Your Free Consultation Session

About Solution Sessions

If you are looking to either bypass the consultation and jump right into the work, OR if you'd like to simply meet for a one-time coaching session to talk about a specific issue and get some direction you can schedule a Solution Session instead.

A Solution Session is a forty-five minute coaching session where you can talk at length about what's been going on, and get our recommendations about specific things that will move you forward. You'll leave with a written plan of action and no strings attached. (Although you can certainly meet with your coach again, if you'd like to.) We charge $105 for this service.

Schedule Your Solution Session

Learn More

Watch this short (90 second) video to learn more about the differences between a free consultation and solution session, and decide which is right for you.

How can I meet with one of your experts?

Please visit our Online Scheduling Calendar to view the availability of our experts and choose the best day and time for you. If you would like to get involved in ongoing private counseling or coaching, please schedule a consultation session. If you would like a one-time solution focused coaching session you can schedule a solution session.

If you would like personal assistance in scheduling please don't hesitate to call. Our 24/7 receptionist is always available to help you: Tap to call 844-331-1993

If you are a current client and would like to schedule a next session with an expert you've met with previously you can:

How do I pick the best counselor or coach for me?

You can get acquainted with all our experts, read bios, and check availability on the Meet Our Team page of our website. (Scroll down halfway to see ALL our experts.) Tap their photo to learn more about them, and access their scheduling calendar.

We have many options for you, and we can help you narrow down which of our experts might be a good fit for you through our interactive chat. You can sort by specialty, location, or choose a more experienced or more affordable provider depending on your needs. Tap to get your recommendations. 

However, the best way to get connected with the right expert for you is to allow our knowledgeable client services team to assist you. You're welcome to call our office to let us know what your goals are or share information that would help us match you with the right person. We are a small, close-knit group and our client services specialists Jordan and Erica know all of our providers very well. You can speak with them about what you're looking for, and they then make recommendations about who might be the best fit, and help you schedule your first appointment. Tap to call.

We understand that connecting with the right counselor or coach can be a life-changing experience, and we encourage you to make this decision carefully. We offer a free consultation session in order for you to meet with the expert you're considering so that you can get to know them, ask questions, and make sure you feel comfortable before moving forward.

We know that you are here because you are interested in making changes in the most important parts of your life, and we take our responsibility to you very seriously. You are on the cusp of a potentially life-changing experience. Our goal is for you to feel supported every step of the way in the incredibly important and valuable personal growth process that you deserve to have.

What if the person I want to meet with doesn't have any availability?

Our experts are popular! If you have your heart set on working with someone in particular, contact our office and let them know. We can reach out to them and see if they might be able to get you in.

You can connect with our team by phone, email, or chat. Links to all are available at the bottom of this page.

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Where are you located? How do I contact you?

We have in-person office locations in the Denver metro area (Cherry Creek, Broomfield, DTC) and in Fort Collins. We have satellite offices in San Francisco, and Bentonville, AR, and more physical locations opening soon. However we have experts who are licensed in many states besides Colorado, and we work with people across the US and throughout the world through secure, HIPAA compliant online video conferencing.

You can view our office addresses, or contact our office by phone, email or chat on our Contact Us page. Our 24/7 receptionist is available to answer basic questions and help you schedule appointments anytime. Our in-house client services team is available to take your call or chat with you M-F from 9am to 5pm-ish Mountain Time. You can also connect directly with our billing manager, HR manager, or PR director.

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Can I do my consultation call by phone instead of by online video?

Sure! Simply call our office at the time of your appointment and ask to be transferred to your expert. Our number is in the confirmation email and reminder emails you got from us when you scheduled your appointment. Your expert will be waiting to hear from you. 

Can I do a solution session in person?

Currently our solution sessions are only available online or by phone. However if you would like to bypass the consultation meeting and jump right in with a first counseling or coaching session in person, that can be arranged. Please get in touch with our client services team by phone or email to let them know you'd like to get started ASAP and they can help you set up a first full in-person session with the expert of your choice. They can be reached by phone: 720-370-1800 or by email: hello@growingself.com

What about THIS?

Can we do a three-way video call if my partner and I are in different locations?

Yes! We love working with long-distance couples by online video. Simply schedule your appointment and then forward the confirmation email you receive (containing the Zoom link) to your partner.

Then, at the time of your appointment you can both click on the link (from separate devices) to be joined with your expert for a three-way video call.

Pro Tip: Double check the time zone your appointment was scheduled in if you and your partner reside in different time zones. We'd hate for one of you to accidentally miss the meeting!

How often will I meet with my counselor or coach?

Great question! That depends on a few variables including your goals, your current circumstances, and where you are in your growth process.

Often, people start by scheduling weekly sessions. As they gain traction, they may move to every-other-week meetings (or longer)  in order to have more time to practice the new ways of being that they're learning in their sessions.

Your counselor or coach will give you their honest recommendations once they learn more about you and your unique situation.

Do you offer counseling by text?

We do not. We provide real, meaningful, powerful, evidence-based counseling and coaching that's designed to help you create real and lasting change in yourself, your life, and your relationships.

This involves having an authentic relationship with a therapist or coach who can see you and hear you so that they can truly know you, understand you, and help you. Meeting face-to-face online allows your coach to read your body language, or see the fleeting expression on your face after they ask a challenging question, or notice if you're experiencing a big emotion. That's why your work with us is transformation: We go deeper.

If we work together, you'll be having a real relationship with a real coach or therapist who is invested in you.

We don't do “cookie cutter” because you're not a cookie. You won't get cliché advice or canned responses from us.   Instead, you'll get the full attention of a highly trained, smart, caring expert who knows YOU.

You're an individual with a one-of-a-kind life. We offer you a true growth experience, and that means we both need to show up in an authentic way.

We're ready to do that, with you.

Can I meet with someone right now?

If you'd like to speak with a coach ASAP – schedule a solution session. Same-day or next-day appointments are often available.

You can dive into your situation with a caring coach, and get feedback and guidance. You'll get a written action plan sent to you after your meeting with our recommendations and things that you can do to move forward.

Click here to learn more about solution sessions.

Watch this short (90 second) video to learn the difference between a solution session and a free consultation.

Click here to schedule your solution session. 

Who on your team offers sliding scale rates?

You can see a run down of what our different counselors and coaches charge (and whether they may be willing to slide) on our Rates and Insurance page.

Do you offer free services?

We do not offer free counseling or coaching. However, we do offer a great deal of free resources available to you via our website including expert Love, Happiness and Success advice on our blog and podcast, free online quizzes, and daily doses of advice and inspiration via Instagram. 

If you are in need of free mental services, or are in crisis, please check out our Emergency Resources page.

Alternatively, you can do a Google search for “Community Mental Health Center in [your town].” These local agencies are government funded and often have free or low cost services available, as well as access to caseworkers who can help you apply for benefits and connect you to other free or low-cost local resources.

What is your cancellation / refund policy?

We have a twenty-four hour cancellation policy (except in the case of illness or emergency) for regular, ongoing counseling or coaching appointments.

If you pre-pay for a solution session or a class and then change your mind, it's okay: Cancel your appointment and let us know you'd like a refund.

Please do keep in mind that we are real people!  When you schedule an appointment there is a helpful, dedicated professional who has blocked out the time for you in anticipation of your meeting.  Out of consideration for them please do try to give us at least 24 hours advance notice if you can. Thank you.

Can I book a session with Dr. Lisa?

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is not currently accepting new clients. However, she is working closely with our entire team behind the scenes to support you in your growth. Dr. Lisa is also listening to you, and supporting your journey of growth through he podcast, her writing, and through her Instagram account. Check out Dr. Lisa's latest podcast episodes here, or tap here to connect with her on Instagram.

How do I...

Contact my counselor or coach?

Of course! You can call our office and simply ask to be transferred to your counselor or coach. 

You can also send an email: Simply respond to your initial appointment confirmation email and your message will be received by your coach.

Going forward, they should provide you with their @growingself.com email address — If they don't, please contact our office and we'll provide you with their direct contact information.

Meet by Zoom?

If you scheduled an online video meeting, the email confirmation you were sent when you scheduled your first meeting contains a link to connect with your counselor or coach by confidential online video. We maintain a HIPAA compliant Zoom platform.

Simply click on that link at the time of your call, and you'll be connected. If you are doing couples coaching with a long-distance partner, forward them the confirmation email so they have the link too.

If you haven't used Zoom before, please watch this short (60 second) video for a brief overview of how to use it to ensure you're ready for that first call: Click to Watch Tip: Please allow Zoom access to your device's camera and microphone so that we can see and hear you!

If you scheduled an in-person meeting and would like to meet by Zoom (or phone) instead, that is perfectly fine. Simply reply to your confirmation email letting your expert know. They'll get the message and send you their Zoom link.

Get directions to your office?

Certainly! When you scheduled your first consultation appointment you were sent a confirmation email that provided you with detailed directions to our office (plus a Google Map link), as well as instructions for how to check in and connect with your counselor or coach in-person.

Here are map links to our office locations:



Cancel or reschedule my appointment?

No problem. If you scheduled a first consultation or a solution session, simply open your confirmation email and scroll to the “Cancel or Reschedule” buttons at the bottom.

If you are a current client you can cancel or reschedule your meeting through your online Client Portal Account or by contacting your expert directly.

Access my client portal account?

Access your client portal account through this link or by clicking on the Resources tab of our website.

First Log In: Create your account using the information that was sent to you via email after your first session. It contains instructions, plus a temporary password.

Here is a link to a short video tutorial showing you how to log in, and access all the features of your portal.

Going forward, log in with your email address and the password that you created. Note: If you are being seen for two different services (e.g. couples counseling and individual coaching) you will have two different accounts attached to two different email addresses to ensure your privacy.

You can use your portal account to upload documents, view upcoming appointments, access your statements, change your information, and request appointments with your expert.

Access my statements or billing information?

You can access and download your statements, view and update your billing information, and check your account activity through your online Client Portal Account.

If you have specific questions or need help with something else, please contact our billing department: billing@growingself.com. Or feel free to call and ask for our billing manager, Tammy Gaiter by calling our office at 720-370-1800 (844-331-1993 for international callers).

Update my payment information?

You can update your payment information via your online Client Portal Account or by contacting our office by phone, email, or our online chat.

Other Questions....

Do you offer gift certificates?

Yes! Giving someone you care about the gift of growth is one of the most meaningful things you can possibly do. Visit our Gift Center to sponsor your loved one with one of classes, gift them with a solution session, or purchase a gift certificate they can use for private counseling or coaching.

How do I submit a question for the podcast or IGTV?

We'd love to hear what's on your mind! Use this confidential form to ask your question.

Be sure to follow @drlisamariebobby and @growing_self on Instagram to see if we've addressed your question in a post or podcast!

How can I become a guest on The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast?

Dr. Bobby is always interested in speaking with knowledgable experts who can provide useful insight and new ideas to her listeners, and have a genuine interest in being of service to others. 

We invite you to contact our publicist by email with your proposal: pr@growingself.com

How do I submit an article for your blog?

At this time we only allow Growing Self vetted expert counselors and coaches to contribute to our blog. This is to ensure that all of the ideas and advice you find on our website is trustworthy, and backed by evidence-based research. 

Do you have training opportunities for counselors and coaches?

We do! Please contact our office by email (below) and let us know you'd like to get involved in Growing Self's counselor and coach training opportunities. 

How do I join your team?

If you're a warm, smart, effective therapist or coach with:

  • A master's degree or doctorate in counseling psychology, marriage and family therapy, or career development from an APA, COAMFTE or CACREP accredited university;
  • And (if you're interested in working with couples) are licensed or licensure-eligible as a marriage and family therapist, with specialized training and experience in evidence-based forms of couples counseling;
  • OR are a licensed or licensure-eligible counselor with specialized training and experience in career counseling;
  • And have genuine passion for helping people create Love, Happiness and Success in their lives…

We'd love to meet you!

We invite you to learn more about our employment opportunities and submit your resume or CV for consideration via our Join Our Team page.

What is the song you use for your hold music??

That song we all love so much is a cover of “Dear Prudence,” by the Beatles. Our version is from a Denver-area musician named Mike Masse. Learn more about Mike and his music: www.mikemasse.com

Ready To Start?

Creating real and lasting change in yourself, your relationship or your career is not an event. It's a growth process that happens over time when you partner with an effective coach or counselor who can help you gain self awareness, learn new skills, and take action to get better results.

The first step in this life-changing journey is to schedule a first meeting. You can meet in-person or online with the expert of your choice to discuss your hopes and goals, and make sure it's a good fit before moving forward.

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If you have questions, or would like assistance in scheduling your first appointment we are here to help.

Meet Laurel K., our Client Services Specialist

We have a small, tight-knit team ready to support you on your journey of growth. If you have questions, or need help scheduling a first appointment you can connect with Laurel, Jordan, Carly, or Gwen by live chat, email or phone.

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