Breakup Therapy
How to Get Over a Breakup
How to Heal After a Breakup
As a breakup recovery coach and therapist specializing in breakup therapy to help people heal from heartbreak and recover after traumatic breakups… I get a lot of questions.
“Dr. Lisa, how can I get over a breakup? I need to let this relationship go, but I can’t. Can I get back with my Ex? I can’t stop thinking about my Ex. I follow them on social media and it’s killing me. I want to contact my Ex, but know I shouldn’t. Why am I obsessing about my Ex moving on? Can you be friends with your Ex? How do I get over a broken heart? Please help.”
Can you relate?
How To Get Over a Heartbreak
Getting Over a Breakup
Here’s the truth: Whether or not people talk about it when it happens to them, nobody can just “get over a breakup.” Nobody just “moves on.”
The toxic myth is that you can and you should. Believing that you should somehow be able to get over your Ex and move on makes you feel broken when you can’t.
You’re not broken, and there is nothing wrong with you. Like everyone else in this situation, you just need the support and guidance of an effective breakup therapist who can help you repair your self-esteem and heal.
Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex?
Human attachment bonds are powerful, and they don’t just disappear because we want them to. In fact, having strong and enduring attachments to other people is a sign of wellness.
So if you came here seeking the answer to the question, “How do I get over a breakup?” Here’s the best breakup advice I have: Getting over a breakup is not an event — it’s an active recovery process that happens in stages over time.
But also know that time alone does not heal a broken heart. People can get stuck. Partnering with a trustworthy breakup therapist who understands the science of attachment can move you forward through the stages of healing.
Expert Break Up Therapy
& Breakup Coaching
You can find thousands of self-proclaimed “breakup coaches” on TikTok, but working with a real breakup therapist is an entirely different experience.
The breakup therapists at Growing Self are marriage and family therapists — true relationship experts with advanced degrees and years of experience in helping people achieve personal growth and healthy relationships.
Traditional therapy can keep you stuck after a bad breakup because most therapists don’t know how to help you. Our breakup recovery and divorce recovery therapists use evidence-based approaches to breakup recovery based on the science of attachment.
Our unique insight and specialization help you break free emotionally so that you can heal, grow, and move on into a bright new future.
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Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby:
The Accidental Breakup Expert
I became a marriage counselor because I wanted to help people repair their relationships. But — as you know — some relationships can’t be saved.
I spent years attempting to help clients get over breakups using traditional talk therapy methods, but they didn’t work. My clients were stuck — and so was I.
I wanted to help them stop hurting. I began researching the science of love, and discovered that love is a biologically based, addictive process that leads to enduring, powerful attachment bonds. Positive, in the context of healthy relationships — but destructive when we become addicted to toxic relationships. Using these ideas and an evidence-based recovery model allowed me to become a truly effective breakup recovery therapist, and to guide countless clients through the stages of breakup recovery and into growth and healing.
It led to the Exaholics book, my How to Heal a Broken Heart program, and my work teaching other breakup therapists and breakup coaches how to be more effective.
These ideas have helped many people heal and rebuild after a breakup or a divorce, and I believe they will help you, too. I’m glad you’re here.
Sincerely,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Exaholics Book Reviews
Our Break Up Therapy and Breakup Coach Services
Breakup Counseling & Breakup Coaching
Our compassionate breakup therapists are here to provide you with guidance, patience, and a nonjudgmental, supportive relationship as you work through the stages of healing after heartbreak.
We’ll be by your side every step of the way, helping you find your path forward.
Join Our Online Breakup Coaching Group
Our online breakup coaching group meets weekly and is facilitated by a Growing Self expert breakup recovery coach.
You can talk about what you’re going through, and get insight, support, and recommendations to help you move forward. Together, you’ll heal and grow. Join our online breakup coaching group.
How to Heal a Broken Heart:
Our Breakup Recovery Program
There are specific stages of healing that people go through after a breakup. Our “How to Heal a Broken Heart” online breakup recovery program guides you through them.
This program walks you step by step through the process of healing after a relationship loss — and you can attend the pre-recorded sessions at your own pace.
Learn about our How to Heal a Broken Heart Program.
Free Breakup Advice
From Our Blog + Podcast
Because we specialize in relationships and breakup recovery, we have lots of free breakup advice and numerous podcast episodes on the subject for you to take advantage of on our blog.
Please help yourself to the wisdom of our breakup recovery experts, and share these articles with your fellow travelers. It’s all here for you.
You can view breakup recovery podcast episodes on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and get free breakup advice in the Healing After Heartbreak Collection on our blog.
Meet a Few of Our Breakup Therapists
What Our Clients Say
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Begin your journey of growth by requesting a free consultation meeting with the expert of your choice.
Not sure who to work with? Let us know your hopes and goals. We’ll provide customized recommendations about which experts would be a good fit, and help you schedule your first free consultation.
Divorce and Breakup Recovery Resources
Divorce & Breakup Advice
Get more free breakup and divorce recovery advice in our extensive library of articles and podcasts on the subject. Visit the Healing After Heartbreak Collection on our blog to access them all.
Discernment Counseling
If you or your partner are considering separation, discernment counseling can help you both gain clarity around whether or not there is hope for your relationship. Learn about discernment counseling.
When to Call It Quits
Is there still hope for your relationship, or is it best to part ways? Learn the signs that growth and healing are possible, vs. signs it’s time to call it quits in a relationship.
Amicable Divorce
Amicable divorce prioritizes the mental and emotional wellness of everyone involved and creates the foundation for a healthy co-parenting partnership. Learn how to achieve an amicable divorce.
Breakup Therapy & Divorce Counseling
Time alone does not heal. Effective, informed, evidence-based breakup therapy and divorce counseling help you heal, grow, and move forward into emotional freedom.
The Stages of a Breakup
Withdrawal, grieving, growing, rebuilding: Understanding the stages of recovery are vital to your healing process after a divorce. Learn about the stages of breakup recovery…
How to Leave a Toxic Relationship, With Dignity
Learn why it’s so hard to leave a toxic relationship, and the things you can do to empower and support yourself in your journey to emotional empowerment.
Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Ex
Can you ever stop loving someone? Want to know how to get over an ex? Learn how to stop thinking about someone so you can move on.
Are You Addicted to a Toxic Relationship?
Profoundly unhealthy relationships can be the hardest to get over. Find out if you’re addicted to a toxic relationship.
Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love
Why is it so hard to let go, even when you know you should? In her award-winning “Exaholics” book, Dr. Lisa explains why, and illuminates the path forward towards emotional liberation, growth, and recovery.
Online Breakup and Divorce Support Group
You’re not alone. Heal your heart in our positive, affirming online breakup and divorce support group, led by an experienced divorce and breakup recovery counselor.
Heal Your Broken Heart: Breakup Recovery Program
In this self-paced online breakup recovery program Dr. Lisa helps you work through the stages of healing from heartbreak, through empowering personal growth activities.
How Much Does Therapy Cost?
Good therapy is a priceless investment in your growth and healing, but not all therapy is valuable. Learn about the cost of therapy that moves you forward.
Stop a Divorce
The threat of divorce can actually be a turning point for a marriage if you understand how to use it as an opportunity to foster healing. In this podcast, learn how to stop a divorce.
Start Breakup Therapy or Divorce Counseling
If you’d like to work with a Growing Self divorce / breakup recovery expert, the first step is to have a free consultation meeting.
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