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How to Heal After a Breakup

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 
Founder & Clinical Director
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

As a breakup recovery coach and therapist specializing in breakup therapy to help people heal from heartbreak and recover after traumatic breakups… I get a lot of questions.

“Dr. Lisa, how can I get over a breakup? I need to let this relationship go, but I can’t. Can I get back with my Ex? I can’t stop thinking about my Ex. I follow them on social media and it’s killing me. I want to contact my Ex, but know I shouldn’t. Why am I obsessing about my Ex moving on? Can you be friends with your Ex? How do I get over a broken heart? Please help.”

Can you relate?

How To Get Over a Heartbreak

Getting Over a Breakup

Here’s the truth: Whether or not people talk about it when it happens to them, nobody can just “get over a breakup.” Nobody just “moves on.”

The toxic myth is that you can and you should. Believing that you should somehow be able to get over your Ex and move on makes you feel broken when you can’t.

You’re not broken, and there is nothing wrong with you. Like everyone else in this situation, you just need the support and guidance of an effective breakup therapist who can help you repair your self-esteem and heal.

Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex?

Human attachment bonds are powerful, and they don’t just disappear because we want them to. In fact, having strong and enduring attachments to other people is a sign of wellness.

So if you came here seeking the answer to the question, “How do I get over a breakup?” Here’s the best breakup advice I have: Getting over a breakup is not an event — it’s an active recovery process that happens in stages over time.

But also know that time alone does not heal a broken heart. People can get stuck. Partnering with a trustworthy breakup therapist who understands the science of attachment can move you forward through the stages of healing.

Expert Break Up Therapy
& Breakup Coaching

You can find thousands of self-proclaimed “breakup coaches” on TikTok, but working with a real breakup therapist is an entirely different experience.

The breakup therapists at Growing Self are marriage and family therapists — true relationship experts with advanced degrees and years of experience in helping people achieve personal growth and healthy relationships.

Traditional therapy can keep you stuck after a bad breakup because most therapists don’t know how to help you. Our breakup recovery and divorce recovery therapists use evidence-based approaches to breakup recovery based on the science of attachment.

Our unique insight and specialization help you break free emotionally so that you can heal, grow, and move on into a bright new future.

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Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 
Founder & Clinical Director

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby:
The Accidental Breakup Expert


I became a marriage counselor because I wanted to help people repair their relationships. But — as you know —
some relationships can’t be saved.

I spent years attempting to help clients get over breakups using traditional talk therapy methods, but they didn’t work. My clients were stuck — and so was I.

I wanted to help them
stop hurting. I began researching the science of love, and discovered that love is a biologically based, addictive process that leads to enduring, powerful attachment bonds. Positive, in the context of healthy relationships — but destructive when we become addicted to toxic relationships. Using these ideas and an evidence-based recovery model allowed me to become a truly effective breakup recovery therapist, and to guide countless clients through the stages of breakup recovery and into growth and healing.

It led to the
Exaholics book, my How to Heal a Broken Heart program, and my work teaching other breakup therapists and breakup coaches how to be more effective.

These ideas have helped many people heal and rebuild after a breakup or a divorce, and I believe they will help you, too. I’m glad you’re here.

Sincerely,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Exaholics Book Reviews

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“Don’t hesitate. Buy it NOW. Could not put this book down until I reached the very last page! Been driving the struggle bus for 2 years and this book has been the most valuable tool (besides my Mom 😉) thus far. Thanks! Helpful!”

“The best resource I had on my journey. I got this book like so many others when my 5 year marriage (8 year relationship) ended. I was lost, ashamed, and profoundly hurt. I was grasping at straws for help anywhere and everywhere. I didn’t expect much from reading it but was pleasantly surprised. For the first time, I didn’t feel alone. At times I felt that Lisa was talking directly to me; it was like she had first hand knowledge of my situation. Get this book! You won’t regret it.”

“This book is for anyone who cannot break free. This book opened my eyes. I highly recommend to anyone who has gone through a series of breaking up and getting back together. It helps to understand why this happened, get some perspective, admit your mistakes and get over all the negative emotions of the love addiction.”

“I would give this 10,000 stars! It’s a must, must, must if you are going through a breakup! It was my bible!”

“This book goes into your brain on a breakup, the chemical and physical withdrawal that spirals your life out of control. I am fascinated with the brain and body in crisis and this book hits every nail on the head. This took me about 8 hours to read. Nothing was overlooked. Are you going through a bad breakup? Do you want to understand why and get better? Read this book.”

“Excellent book. I’ve read many break-up books, but this is the one that threw me over to the other side where I could break my addiction to my ex. I received the clarity I needed and really woke up to see how I was actually addicted to this person. Highly recommend.”

“From Heartbreak to Feeling Whole Again: Distress, anger, sadness, grief, longing, despair, wild hope, helplessness, obsessive thoughts, the endless mental and emotional searching for what has been lost, hurt, the quiet devastation, feeling like the relentless ache in your chest will never go away … this book explains how to get better after a tough break up. I read everything I could get my hands on and spoke to a number of professionals to try to understand why I couldn’t seem to get over it no matter what I did. This book was the most helpful resource of all, it was a life saver. I highly recommend it. It helped me finally to get over what happened, to heal myself and to feel good again.”

“Fantastic book! It gives the reader who feels something must be fundamentally or constitutionally wrong with their makeup that reassurance that there is clear science behind missing and craving an ex. It gives the reader an understanding that s/he is sooo not alone, and of what the process of recovery from an addiction to an ex often looks like, as well as some recovery roadmaps.”

“An excellent read and very helpful! This book helped me a lot. Dr. Bobby is spot on about absolutely everything I’ve been going through during my ordeal with my ex, which really did feel like a bad addiction followed by horrible withdrawals. Dr. Bobby offers solid advice as to how to handle everything. It’s also a comfort to know that I’m not going crazy and that the roller coaster ride of emotions is perfectly normal. I only wish I had read this book long ago. Well done, Dr. Bobby!”

“Wow. I’ve never been so affected by a book before. I’m going through one of the most painful break ups in my life right now, and don’t know where I’d be without this book. I even recommended it to the ex-boyfriend.”

“This book is amazing. I feel like it was truly meant for me to read it. I have been trying to understand and explain what I am going through to others and have been unsuccessful until I read this book. I literally feel like the author stepped inside of me and penned everything that I was unable to explain verbally. I feel like I’m going to get my breakthrough and break away with the help I have received from this book. Thank You!!!”

“5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent! Anyone who has recently gone through a breakup/divorce can benefit immensely from this work. Whether you left or were rejected, this book deals with explaining the very real scientific and psychological underpinnings behind human behavior in a breakup and provides tools to help the reader work through it. Helpful!”

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Our Break Up Therapy and Breakup Coach Services

Breakup Counseling & Breakup Coaching

Our compassionate breakup therapists are here to provide you with guidance, patience, and a nonjudgmental, supportive relationship as you work through the stages of healing after heartbreak.

We’ll be by your side every step of the way, helping you find your path forward.

Join Our Online Breakup Coaching Group

Our online breakup coaching group meets weekly and is facilitated by a Growing Self expert breakup recovery coach.

You can talk about what you’re going through, and get insight, support, and recommendations to help you move forward. Together, you’ll heal and grow. Join our online breakup coaching group.

How to Heal a Broken Heart:
Our Breakup Recovery Program

There are specific stages of healing that people go through after a breakup. Our “How to Heal a Broken Heart” online breakup recovery program guides you through them.

This program walks you step by step through the process of healing after a relationship loss — and you can attend the pre-recorded sessions at your own pace.

Learn about our How to Heal a Broken Heart Program.

Free Breakup Advice
From Our Blog + Podcast

Because we specialize in relationships and breakup recovery, we have lots of free breakup advice and numerous podcast episodes on the subject for you to take advantage of on our blog.

Please help yourself to the wisdom of our breakup recovery experts, and share these articles with your fellow travelers. It’s all here for you.

You can view breakup recovery podcast episodes on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and get free breakup advice in the Healing After Heartbreak Collection on our blog.

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