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Heal Your Heartbreak, One Step at a Time

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

As a breakup recovery expert specializing in breakup coaching to help you heal from heartbreak… I get a lot of questions.

“Dr. Lisa, how can I get over a breakup? I need to let this relationship go, but I can’t. Can I get back with my Ex? I can’t stop thinking about my Ex. I follow them on social media and it’s killing me. I want to contact my Ex, but know I shouldn’t. Why am I obsessing about my Ex moving on? Should I be friends with my Ex? How do I get over a broken heart? Please help.”

Can you relate?

Positive, Empowering Breakup Coaching

Why Work with a Breakup Coach?

Here’s the truth: Nobody can just “get over a breakup.” Nobody just “moves on.” And time alone will not heal your heart — you must take steps to release your attachment, take your power back, and move forward, stronger than before.

Growing Self’s breakup coaches can help. We are licensed therapists — but we do so much more than listen. We help you take action to rebuild your self-esteem, heal your broken heart, and lean into transformative personal growth. When you’re ready, we’ll even help you get back out there and find the love you deserve, equipped with the skills you need to build a healthy, enduring relationship.

Our Breakup Coaches are true experts.

You can find thousands of self-proclaimed “breakup coaches” on TikTok, but working with a breakup coach at Growing Self is completely different.

The breakup coaches at Growing Self are marriage and family therapists — true relationship experts with advanced degrees in counseling psychology and years of experience helping people like you build healthy relationships with themselves and we also practice coaching, helping you turn insight into positive, productive action and personal growth.

Traditional therapy is not always the right approach after a breakup. It can keep you feeling stuck, like you’re “just talking” about your feelings, or worse, being treated like there’s something wrong with you. Our breakup coaches understand that heartbreak is part of the human experience — and they use effective approaches based on the science of attachment to help you overcome it.

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby:
The Accidental Breakup Coach

I became a marriage counselor because I wanted to help people repair their relationships. But — as you know —
some relationships can’t be saved.

I spent years attempting to help clients get over breakups using traditional talk therapy methods, but they didn’t work. My clients were stuck — and so was I.

I wanted to help them
stop hurting. I began researching, and discovered that love is a biologically based, addictive process that leads to enduring, powerful attachment bonds. Positive, in the context of healthy relationships — but destructive when we become addicted to toxic relationships or those that aren’t sustainable. These ideas and an evidence-based recovery model allowed me to become a truly effective breakup coach, and to guide countless clients through the stages of breakup recovery and into growth and healing.

It led me to write the
Exaholics book, create my How to Heal a Broken Heart program, and it led to my work training the breakup coaches on my team to effectively guide people like you through the healing process.

These ideas have helped many people rebuild after a breakup or a divorce, and I believe they will help you, too. I’m glad you’re here.

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Exaholics Book Reviews

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“Don’t hesitate. Buy it NOW. Could not put this book down until I reached the very last page! Been driving the struggle bus for 2 years and this book has been the most valuable tool (besides my Mom 😉) thus far. Thanks! Helpful!”

“The best resource I had on my journey. I got this book like so many others when my 5 year marriage (8 year relationship) ended. I was lost, ashamed, and profoundly hurt. I was grasping at straws for help anywhere and everywhere. I didn’t expect much from reading it but was pleasantly surprised. For the first time, I didn’t feel alone. At times I felt that Lisa was talking directly to me; it was like she had first hand knowledge of my situation. Get this book! You won’t regret it.”

“This book is for anyone who cannot break free. This book opened my eyes. I highly recommend to anyone who has gone through a series of breaking up and getting back together. It helps to understand why this happened, get some perspective, admit your mistakes and get over all the negative emotions of the love addiction.”

“I would give this 10,000 stars! It’s a must, must, must if you are going through a breakup! It was my bible!”

“This book goes into your brain on a breakup, the chemical and physical withdrawal that spirals your life out of control. I am fascinated with the brain and body in crisis and this book hits every nail on the head. This took me about 8 hours to read. Nothing was overlooked. Are you going through a bad breakup? Do you want to understand why and get better? Read this book.”

“Excellent book. I’ve read many break-up books, but this is the one that threw me over to the other side where I could break my addiction to my ex. I received the clarity I needed and really woke up to see how I was actually addicted to this person. Highly recommend.”

“From Heartbreak to Feeling Whole Again: Distress, anger, sadness, grief, longing, despair, wild hope, helplessness, obsessive thoughts, the endless mental and emotional searching for what has been lost, hurt, the quiet devastation, feeling like the relentless ache in your chest will never go away … this book explains how to get better after a tough break up. I read everything I could get my hands on and spoke to a number of professionals to try to understand why I couldn’t seem to get over it no matter what I did. This book was the most helpful resource of all, it was a life saver. I highly recommend it. It helped me finally to get over what happened, to heal myself and to feel good again.”

“Fantastic book! It gives the reader who feels something must be fundamentally or constitutionally wrong with their makeup that reassurance that there is clear science behind missing and craving an ex. It gives the reader an understanding that s/he is sooo not alone, and of what the process of recovery from an addiction to an ex often looks like, as well as some recovery roadmaps.”

“An excellent read and very helpful! This book helped me a lot. Dr. Bobby is spot on about absolutely everything I’ve been going through during my ordeal with my ex, which really did feel like a bad addiction followed by horrible withdrawals. Dr. Bobby offers solid advice as to how to handle everything. It’s also a comfort to know that I’m not going crazy and that the roller coaster ride of emotions is perfectly normal. I only wish I had read this book long ago. Well done, Dr. Bobby!”

“Wow. I’ve never been so affected by a book before. I’m going through one of the most painful break ups in my life right now, and don’t know where I’d be without this book. I even recommended it to the ex-boyfriend.”

“This book is amazing. I feel like it was truly meant for me to read it. I have been trying to understand and explain what I am going through to others and have been unsuccessful until I read this book. I literally feel like the author stepped inside of me and penned everything that I was unable to explain verbally. I feel like I’m going to get my breakthrough and break away with the help I have received from this book. Thank You!!!”

“5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent! Anyone who has recently gone through a breakup/divorce can benefit immensely from this work. Whether you left or were rejected, this book deals with explaining the very real scientific and psychological underpinnings behind human behavior in a breakup and provides tools to help the reader work through it. Helpful!”

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Our Breakup Coaching and Breakup Therapy Services

Breakup Counseling & Breakup Coaching

Our compassionate breakup coaches are here to provide you with guidance, patience, and a nonjudgmental, supportive relationship as you work through the stages of healing after heartbreak.

We’ll be by your side every step of the way, helping you find your path forward.

Join Our Online Breakup Coaching Group

Our online breakup coaching group meets weekly and is facilitated by a Growing Self expert breakup recovery coach.

You can talk about what you’re going through, and get insight, support, and recommendations to help you move forward. Together, you’ll heal and grow. Join our online breakup coaching group.

How to Heal a Broken Heart:
Our Breakup Recovery Program

There are specific stages of healing that people go through after a breakup. Our “How to Heal a Broken Heart” online breakup recovery program guides you through them.

This program walks you step by step through the process of healing after a relationship loss — and you can attend the pre-recorded sessions at your own pace.

Learn about our How to Heal a Broken Heart Program.

Free Breakup Advice
From Our Blog + Podcast

Because we specialize in relationships and breakup recovery, we have lots of free breakup advice and numerous podcast episodes on the subject for you to take advantage of on our blog.

Please help yourself to the wisdom of our breakup recovery experts, and share these articles with your fellow travelers. It’s all here for you.

You can view breakup recovery podcast episodes on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and get free breakup advice in the Healing After Heartbreak Collection on our blog.

Meet a Few of Our Breakup Coaches and Divorce Coaches

What Our Clients Say

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Divorce and Breakup Recovery Resources

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