You won’t find our reviews on Google…

Or Facebook, or Yelp, or Thumbtack. Why not? Because everything that happens in marriage counseling, therapy, and life coaching is confidential, and an extremely private experience for most people. We never ask our clients to review us publicly. I’m sure you can understand that publicly reviewing a marriage counselor or therapist is not the same as Yelping a restaurant or giving your dog-walker five stars on Thumbtack. We help our clients with the intensely personal and extremely real stuff that they’re never going to share on social media.

At the same time, we care deeply about doing positive, powerful and effective growth work with our clients… and because of that, we get fantastic results. We have many happy clients, and get lots of positive feedback from the people we help make important changes in their lives. I’m pleased to share their words with you, in a respectful format that protects both their confidentiality, and right to anonymity.  — LMB

“We started with a 30 min free of charge phone consult to talk through my reasons for seeking coaching and what I hope to accomplish. I appreciate that Kathleen took time to make sure her background and experience was well suited to begin a coaching engagement. We then met weekly for 45 minutes, which moved to bi-weekly as I began to make progress. I sought her help in uncovering the reasons my dating life was not successful; everything fizzled after a few months and I found myself continuously attracting the same person: unable to commit, narcissistic to some degree, and generally unable to show up with the same sense of moral principles I had.

What we uncovered through our work was how the bonds we build with our parents impact how we attach to our romantic partners. At first, I didn’t want to own that my dad’s abandonment of me was definitely playing out in my love life. Once we addressed the patterns and negative thinking that resulted from this – I finally understood that when I felt like I was getting to be “too much” or requiring things from my partner, I feared being abandoned and therefore moved my boundaries too far. This left me unfulfilled and lonely, and I ultimately ended most of the relationships.

As I made progress and began to change my thinking patterns using what we practiced – POOF! In comes ___, my now fiance 🙂 I am incredibly grateful I sought her help and the “coaching” style as opposed to traditional talk therapy helped me immensely. It made me feel normal, relatable, and like I had control again and made better choices.

After years of never thinking I would “get it right”, I finally did by getting right with myself first. I speak up, I hold my partner accountable, and I truly believe I am worthy.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your skills and sharing them with me – our work together truly transformed my life.“

— Former client

Maggie is very warm and kind. She is also very insightful and helpful. I feel safe and I can be completely open to her. I came to her for help with my career and a fresh, professional, and third-person obejective perspective. Our work has given me new perspective, and the courage to move forward.

 

– Former Client

I truly can’t say enough amazing things about Growing Self. Brenda Fahn is an awesome therapist/life coach who has helped me change my entire life. Nearly two years ago, I felt like I had hit the proverbial rock bottom. My career was burning me out, I suffered from major perfectionistic tendencies, and I was very depressed–to mention just a few of my issues. Basically, I had no idea how to go about fixing things, but I knew I needed to do something–and fast.

Luckily, I met Brenda who has been such a guiding light with her wonderful wisdom and great sense of humor. The rapport we’ve created has given me the courage to step outside of my comfort zone and follow exciting new paths. I’m not quite sure where I would be if I hadn’t decided to reach out and ask for the help I so badly needed. I can only say thank you to Growing Self and to Brenda.

 

– Former Client

Rachel does an amazing job facilitating constructive conversations, identifying roote causes, and formulating a plan for tackling issues. My wife and I have tremendously benefited from our sessions with Rachel. Our relationship is stronger and there is more understanding between us.

– Former Client

I have been seeing Anastacia for a few months now and I love her! She has already helped me with so much. I will be going to her for a very long time!

– Former Client

Linda has been amazing all around. I really appreciate the way she really listens and always remembers what we discuss.

– Former Client

My work with Markie has been worth every penny. She’s helped me learn how to shift my thinking, set healthier boundaries, and also be more open to new possibilities. It’s definitely exceeded my expectations!

– Former Client

Since we started working with Sonya we have seen marked improvement, especially around our communication. She has really helped us gain insight to each other’s needs and values.

– Couples Counseling Client

“Zachary – thank you so much for your great listening skills, your fearless empathy, and the gift of your time.”

– Former Client

“I’ve sought professional support twice in my life. The first time completely changed my life in a positive, productive way. I believe this second time is setting the path to do the same. It’s hard. It’s uncomfortable. It’s not always something I enjoy doing, but receiving support that is from a non-biased individual is oftentimes the perspective that I’m missing. I value the way I’m encouraged to view aspects of my thought processes in different lights. It’s an objective opinion that, I believe, can really be life altering. “

– Former Client

“I love it and think it’s wonderful. I’ve referred friends who are in similar financial and difficult scheduling circumstances because of how easy and affordable this has been for us.”

– Former Client

“Skype sessions are awesome if you are nervous about going to a physical space, or that physical resource is not available to you. I was worried Skype sessions wouldn’t be effective, but I actually like them. They are a great alternative!”

– Former Client

“It has been life changing already. I was on the fence for a long time and let myself get too far past where I should have originally seen someone. I wish I had done this sooner.”

– Former Client

“This has been the first domino in the changes I needed to make. I couldn’t have seen some of the aspects I needed to see without my counselor’s expertise. “

– Former Client

“Kathleen has exceeded my expectation. I appreciate the judgement-free space she creates. She gave me perspective on issues I described. I love the way her brain makes connections. Also helpful: “homework”

– Former Client

“Polly has helped me organize the many issues I am facing which allowed me to work on each. She has pulled me out from being under water in an ocean of grief and I am so grateful to her! “

– Former Client

“Rachel has helped find words, concepts, or phrases that I did not know of; when I did not know, it often made me feel alone and invalidated in my journey. I enjoy having the opportunity to label my feelings or emotions…. it creates validation, intervention, and progress. “

– Former Client

“Ana is awesome! She’s very patient with me and gives me time to process my emotions. She’s compassionate which makes me feel comfortable opening up. I can be vulnerable with Ana because I know she cares and has my best interests in mind. “

– Former Client

“I have gotten so much out of my life coaching. The most helpful things for me were the various small “homework” assignments. I need someone to keep me accountable for a while, and having to explicitly write something down has been useful for solidifying my thoughts.”

– Former Client

“We have tried working with other marriage counselors before but this feels way more productive. I love it that our marriage counselor gives us worksheets and homework assignments to do between our sessions.”

– Couples Counseling Client

“Brenda was so helpful and knowledgeable, I looked forward to my time each week. She gave me info to work on before the next meeting and I felt it was really giving me a better outlook. I really liked being able to do it from home on video calls, that helped me a lot.”

– Former Client

“I have loved that I get to meet with Brenda via Skype. With her help I have learned so much about myself. I feel like I’ve had the opportunities to see my issues in a different light, which has allowed me to move from my place of feeling “stuck” into a place of action. There is still work to be done. Success is a moving target, but instead of feeling hopeless and overwhelmed, I feel confident that I will ultimately get to where I want to be.”

-Former Client

I have loved that I get to meet with Brenda via Skype. With her help I have learned so much about myself. I feel like I’ve had the opportunities to see my issues in a different light, which has allowed me to move from my place of feeling “stuck” into a place of action. There is still work to be done. Success is a moving target, but instead of feeling hopeless and overwhelmed, I feel confident that I will ultimately get to where I want to be.

-Former Client

“Brenda has truly been a joy to work with. I can’t thank her enough for all of the ways she’s helped me change my life.”

– Former Client

“I’m so happy to work with my career coach Linda. She has helped me think more clearly about my current work situation and has opened my eyes to other work possibilities. She is a great listener (of course!) and has asked questions that have helped me to redirect my thinking about where I go from here. I am very appreciative of the time and encouragement she has given me. Our work has made a huge difference in my future plans.”

– Former Client

“I am so thankful for Dr. Lisa Bobby and her blog and podcast. My husband and I have been married for 27 years, but we were having major issues. I was browsing the internet looking for something that would help, and came across Dr. Lisa’s blog. I shared a couple of the articles with my husband, and we wound up having a really good conversation about what she was saying. Since then, my husband and I have been doing great. I just wanted to get in touch to say thank you for everything you do – you’re helping more people than you even know. God bless you.”

– Former Client

“Kathleen was a joy to work with. I really enjoy her willingness to explain things and help me think of things in another way.”

– Former Client

“I have recommended several friends to my coach, as it’s really very affordable with Growing Self, and really helps shape your goals in life.

– Former Client

I so appreciate Dr. Bobby’s podcasts. I am going through a heart-wrenching breakup and learning so much about myself thanks to their guidance and support. I listen to your advice on my commute to work and find myself looking forward to the drive, as I know I will uncover a piece of knowledge each time I tune in to your conversations. I hope you continue to push these pearls of wisdom out into the world and I am so grateful I stumbled upon them. Thank you for all of your work!

– Former Client

“From the moment I met Stephanie I knew I was in good hands and we would be able to work together. She is down to earth, easy to talk to, honest, and extremely knowledgeable. She has been one of the biggest blessings in my life in terms of helping me find peace during a tough personal year for me. I have progressed so much…”

– Former Client

“Stephanie has been a great asset to our marriage. In the few short months that my husband and I have been seeing her we have grown so much in our marriage. We feel so connected to each other and have the tools to get through conflict. We continue to meet with Stephanie because we are exploring deeper issues and she brings such warm perspective to our relationship.”

– Happy Couple

“Being a newly engaged couple we wanted to find somewhere progressive for pre-marital counseling. We went into it with the intention that it’d be fun to do together and maybe we could learn something. Going into it we had a solid relationship and nothing “bad” or “negative” to work on. However, we were pleasantly surprised at how much we learned about ourselves and each other through our sessions. Not only did it exceed our expectations but it was life changing. We constantly brag to our friends about how we went to pre-marital counseling and it was the best experience!”

– Former Client

“Dr. Bobby is a wonderful, brilliant person. She was instrumental in coaching me with my challenges over several months. She is professional, caring and knowledgeable and I would recommend her services to anyone.”

– Former Client

“My coach was a terrific mentor and aided in the pursuit of answering questions I had on a consistent basis. She was extremely helpful when I knew where I needed to go but didn’t know how to get there, as we were able to create a road map together and create goals and thresholds to abide by in the pursuit of that accomplishment.”

– Former Client