Expert Divorce Counseling & Breakup Recovery:
Compassionate Support For…
Ending a Relationship
Ending a relationship with someone you love is a traumatizing experience.
You can’t just “get over” a breakup, or flip a switch and feel just fine when you’re going through a divorce. But you can heal and grow.
Hope, Healing & Growth
With the right support, you can use this loss as a doorway to powerful personal growth.
Our evidence-based approach to divorce and breakup recovery allows you not just to let go of the past, but to build a bright new future.
Why Growing Self?
Working with a breakup counselor or divorce therapist at Growing Self is different. Our experts are not self-proclaimed “breakup coaches.” We are marriage and family therapists — true relationship specialists with advanced degrees and years of experience helping individuals, couples, and families build healthy relationships… and heal from heartbreak when their relationships cannot be repaired.
Furthermore, most therapists do not understand the biologically based nature of love and as a result, may not know how to help you move forward. Working with us is productive. We understand why you can’t stop thinking about your Ex, how to deal when your Ex moves on, what it’s like to be addicted to a toxic relationship, and how to achieve an amicable divorce.
We understand attachment trauma, and we understand the power of healing relationships. We’ve helped countless people heal, grow, and ultimately flourish in the aftermath of a painful breakup or divorce.
We can help you, too.
Our Divorce Counseling & Breakup Recovery Services
Our empathetic therapists are breakup recovery experts who can help you do more than learn how to “get over” a breakup.
Our powerful approach to breakup therapy focuses on personal growth. We help you grieve the relationship, repair your self-esteem after a breakup, stop obsessing about your Ex, and find peace and closure.
Most importantly, we help you learn and grow from this experience so you can move on in peace and gratitude — genuinely ready to build a healthy relationship in the future.
Learn more about our breakup therapy for healing and growth.
Divorce is one of the hardest things anyone can live through, especially if you have children. Divorce impacts kids, finances, your career, and your identity.
Expert divorce therapy and divorce counseling with a marriage and family therapist helps you deal with divorce on practical levels — and deeper ones, too. We can help you grieve your dreams, restore your emotional health, support your children with their loss, co-parent effectively, recalibrate your career, and move on stronger than ever.
Learn more about our empowering approach to divorce counseling and therapy.
When your heart has been broken, there’s nothing like having your very own breakup coach at your side to help you develop a fresh perspective and guide you through the recovery process.
With actionable advice and evidence-based strategies for personal growth, your coach will help you find hope and happiness on the other side of your breakup.
With all the pain and turmoil that a divorce can unleash, it’s hard to stay motivated, focus on your goals, and design a bright new future for yourself.
Our divorce coaches will help you stay on track, make decisions in alignment with your values and goals, find growth opportunities, and gracefully navigate the tricky terrain of divorce as you rebuild your life.
A Leading voice in Breakup Recovery
“I’m Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, the founder of Growing Self. Because of my years of experience as a couples counselor, I became a breakup and divorce recovery expert with special insight into the nature of love and loss — and the science-backed strategies that foster hope and healing. I am the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love,” and my breakup and divorce recovery advice has been featured on Oprah.com, The New York Times, Time.com, and many other media outlets.
I’ve walked with countless people through their recovery process, and I’ve developed a set of techniques, skills, and ideas that help them work through the stages of healing into hope and happiness on the other side. Our trusted breakup recovery experts use these research-backed strategies to help you release your attachment and heal your heart so that you can move forward.
I have a special place in my heart for people needing to heal after heartbreak, and so we have lots of resources available to support you on your journey of growth and healing. I hope you take advantage of them — they’re all for you.”
— Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, Ph.D., LMFT, LP, BCC
Support for Divorce Counseling and Breakup Recovery
Breakup Support Groups
& Divorce Support Groups
A powerful breakup and divorce support group with a community of caring people who know exactly how you feel can be profoundly healing.
Our online breakup and divorce group is a guided coaching experience that offers fellowship, understanding, and effective strategies for growth and healing after heartbreak.
Learn more about our breakup and divorce support group.
How to Heal From a Broken Heart: The Breakup Recovery Program
Time alone does not heal heartbreak. Letting go and moving on requires an active growth process and new ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. You can learn how through our online breakup recovery program.
Over six info-packed lessons, our online breakup and divorce recovery course will give you new insight into the science of attachment and will help you move through the stages of healing from heartbreak.
Learn about how to heal your broken heart.
Falling in love and developing an attachment bond is a biologically based process that is addictive in nature, and getting over an Ex requires recovery.
“Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love” by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby offers empathy, actionable advice, and an evidence-based approach to help you understand the nature of love and how to heal from heartbreak.
Learn more about the Exaholics book.
Get Breakup Advice
Meaningful emotional recovery requires a healing process. But if you’re not ready for private divorce counseling or breakup therapy, we can still help you.
You can have a single, solution-focused coaching session with one of our relationship experts to get actionable advice and create a plan for managing this difficult time.
Learn more about solution sessions.
Resources for Breakup and Divorce Recovery
Divorce Counseling and Breakup Recovery Podcast
Dr. Bobby is the host of “The Love, Happiness and Success” podcast and has numerous episodes offering expert advice to help you cope with divorce and get past heartbreak. You can check out past episodes on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, and be sure to check out her “Healing After Heartbreak” playlist.
Get in touch with Dr. Bobby through Instagram if you’d like her to address your question on an upcoming episode.
Breakup Questions & Divorce Advice,
on the Blog
You’ll find helpful information, thoughtful insight, and warm, caring guidance from our relationship counselors in the “Heal From Heartbreak” Collection on our blog.
Breakup advice, divorce guidance, kids and divorce parenting tips, leaving a toxic relationship, coping with a long distance breakup, stages of healing after a breakup, how to stop obsessing about your Ex, amicable divorce, when to call it quits in a relationship (and so much more). It’s all there for you.
Gift Divorce Counseling
and Breakup Recovery
When you’re healing after a breakup or divorce, there’s nothing like knowing that the people close to you care.
If someone you love is struggling in the aftermath of a bad breakup or difficult divorce, you can support their recovery. Give them the gift of healing with our gift cards for coaching, counseling, and other breakup recovery services, including our support groups and classes.
Meet a Few of Our Divorce and Breakup Recovery Experts
What Our Clients Say
“She is very quick to adapt. She is also very insightful into reading the emotions behind the words I’m saying and tackling those issues. She makes sure during each session that I am comfortable with the direction we are going in.”
“Brittany models compassion for me and invites me to feel my feelings. This helps me to remember to make space for feeling and self-compassion in my life. I think there is still a lot of work to do before I’ve reached my goals and I feel we are making progress.”
“Polly helped me organize the many issues I am facing which allowed me to work on each. She pulled me out from being under water in an ocean of grief and I am so grateful to her!”
“Jennifer is a phenomenal listener and excellent in her communication with me. I am realizing that to be happy in a relationship, I must first be happy with myself. Jennifer is helping me to understand me. I believe this path of discovery is very important for me at this time. I am thankful for the opportunity to work with Jennifer.”
“Jessica is amazing and a very skilled therapist.”
“I consider it a privilege to have worked with Polly, and would highly recommend her to anyone. Polly is a genuine gift to the mental health community and to those suffering from any sort of personal conflict.”
“I am incredibly grateful I sought her [Kathleen’s] help and the “coaching” style, as opposed to traditional talk therapy, helped me immensely. It made me feel normal, relatable, and like I had control again and made better choices.”
“If you feel like you’re struggling with something in your life you probably are. Don’t downplay it and convince yourself it isn’t a problem. Doing sessions with Dori has helped me a lot already. I’m able to feel happier and understand my limitations and how to work on them. Thinking back a few weeks and comparing them I’m already seeing a big difference in my life and thoughts.”
“Seth is great. Very nice and compassionate. He does a good job of creating an open environment.”
“Stephanie truly seemed to care and I felt a connection where it was easy to communicate. In a short amount of time, I truly think she can help me get things sorted out.”
“Sara was awesome. Warm, intelligent, empathetic, encouraging.”
“Meagan asks me questions that make me see something in a different light that helps me understand my feelings and reactions better.”
“We’ve only had two sessions but I feel positive that real change can happen based on some very tangible exercises she has taught me.”
“I love her, she was honestly amazing and seemed like a friend. You found a star here.”
“Silas communicated well and got to the heart of the matter while still being personable approachable and easy to talk to.”
“Kathleen has exceeded my expectation. I appreciate the judgement-free space she creates. She gave me perspective on issues I described. I love the way her brain makes connections. Also helpful: “homework.””
“She [Kathleen] has been understanding and I do not feel like I’m being judged.”
“Lisa is very patient and attentive while I try to explain myself. And she has good feedback without sounding preachy or condescending.”
“Dori is very helpful and kind. She often sends me homework to do between sessions. I feel like she doesn’t judge me and is very patient with talking about similar themes I’m struggling with each week. I tend to hold back but I’m feeling very comfortable talking about soo many things with Dori.”
“Seth is fantastic, really listens and addresses issues in an effective way. Very kind, understanding and non judgemental. Easy to talk to.”
“Paige has been great. Thus far she has been a good listener. We’ve started to talk about some strategies/tactics to help with what I am dealing with and I feel really good about that. I leave each session feeling refreshed and much better than I felt before speaking with her.”
“Brittany leveraged different methods. Is very receptive to what “state” I’m in that day when I see her and focuses on what I need. She also listens, but questions where I need to think differently, or have a perspective I haven’t considered. Her overall ability to “be there” with the situation is something I really respect.”
“Lisa is compassionate, kind, understanding, and offers pearls of wisdom that are targeted exactly for what I am experiencing. I’ve seen several counselors over the years and she is top notch!”
“Kaily was extremely helpful throughout our process. She helped me realize my overall self worth more than I previously had and the worksheets we did really helped point out those qualities that I can show potential partners, along with really determining what I’m looking for.”
“Dr. Rachel was great. She was very easy to talk to and understanding. She made me feel comfortable talking to her.”
“I would highly recommend her. She’s a great listener, offers a kind perspective, and makes you feel warm and welcomed.”
“I felt that Whitney was very sincere and that she genuinely wanted to help me get through things.”
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