Exaholics Book
Help for Healing from Heartbreak
” This amazing [Exaholics] book offers meaningful, compassionate support and guidance to those trapped in the pain of a severed attachment. It is a beautifully written and comprehensive guide, full of wisdom.“
Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex?
The Exaholics book by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby helps you understand why you feel the way you do after a breakup or divorce, and provides direction for how to move forward.
Love is not just a feeling. It’s a biological attachment process that bonds us fiercely to another person and has a lot in common with an addictive process (but in a positive way).
However, when that bond is broken through a breakup or divorce, the result is profound pain and an experience very much like going into withdrawal.
Healing From a Broken Heart
This powerful nature of love means you can’t just stop thinking about your Ex or flip a switch and turn off your feelings. Nobody can.
Healing from a broken heart or reclaiming your inner peace after a divorce requires treating your healing process as a recovery. In her ground-breaking book, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby shares the science-backed strategies that help you move through the process of breakup recovery, and into emotional freedom.
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Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Founder of Growing Self, Author of exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to An Ex Love
The Accidental Breakup Expert
I became a marriage counselor because I wanted to help people repair their relationships. But — as you know — some marriages can’t be saved. When couples split, I would often be left trying to help one partner cope with divorce.
Unfortunately, my degrees in counseling psychology and marriage and family therapy did nothing to prepare me for how to help people ending a relationship. I began researching the science of love and discovered that the nature of love is a biologically based, addictive process that leads to enduring, powerful attachment bonds. Positive, in the context of healthy relationships — but destructive when we become addicted to toxic relationships or bonded to people who mistreat, betray, or abandon us.
Using these ideas and an evidence-based recovery model allowed me to become a truly effective breakup and divorce counselor and guide my clients through the stages of recovery and into growth and healing. It led me to write my Exaholics book, create the How to Heal a Broken Heart program, and to teaching other marriage and family therapists to become more effective divorce counselors.
These ideas have helped many people heal after heartbreak and rebuild after divorce, and I believe they will help you, too. I understand how traumatizing and overwhelming it is to suffer through a bad breakup, and I’m so glad you’re here.
Sincerely,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Lessons From the Exaholics Book:
Relationship Addiction is Real
You may be an “Exaholic” if you want to get over your Ex, but you can’t. You hurt, you think about them all the time, and you may surprise yourself with the things you’ll do to stay connected to your Ex… even if you know this is a toxic relationship for you.
Many people having these confusing experiences and intense feelings worry that there is something wrong with them. In the Exaholics book you’ll learn that our feelings are not weird or out of line or excessive — this is how it feels to have an attachment bond to someone you can’t have a relationship with.
These feelings can be confused with “love,” but they’re not. They need to be understood and managed effectively for you to heal after heartbreak.
Repairing Self-Esteem After a Breakup
Cutting cords to toxic relationships or being rejected by someone you love leaves you with big, dark feelings, including anger, guilt, regret, shame, and despair. Worst of all may be the way breakups damage your self-esteem. This is particularly true if you were betrayed by your Ex, or if you betrayed yourself along the way.
The Exaholics book will give you a fresh perspective on these emotions and help you work through painful feelings productively in order to heal, grow, and rebuild your confidence.
Healing Through the Stages of a Breakup
Healing from heartbreak is a process that occurs over time and in stages. By understanding the stages of a breakup and learning how to move through each one successfully, you can achieve true healing.
These stages include resolving ambivalence about the relationship, deciding for sure that it’s over, releasing your attachment, working through the feelings, learning from this experience, and restoring your hope for the future. All of this can be yours with the right support.
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Breakup and Divorce Recovery Services @ Growing Self
Dr. Bobby wrote the Exaholics book but is not affiliated with that platform. In her group private practice, Growing Self Counseling and Coaching, she and her team of expert therapists specialize in personal growth and healthy relationships and offer private divorce counseling and breakup therapy to help you heal and grow.
Divorce Counseling and Divorce Therapy
Dealing with divorce is devastating on so many levels — emotionally, financially, and for your family. The divorce therapists of Growing Self are marriage and family therapists with specialized education and years of experience.
We can help you navigate this challenging time in order to heal, grow, and come out the other side stronger, happier, and healthier than ever before.
Learn about our empowering divorce counseling and coaching services.
How to Heal a Broken Heart
Our Heal Your Broken Heart Breakup Recovery Program is a revolutionary, evidence-based system for getting over a breakup — and growing in the process.
Over six info-packed online video sessions and thoughtful experiential assignments that will help you dig deep, Dr. Bobby will show you how to heal a broken heart, restore hope, gain emotional freedom, and create healthy relationships on the other side.
Learn more about the Heal Your Broken Heart Breakup Recovery Program.
Breakup and Divorce Support Group
Are you looking for a community of compassionate people who really get it?
Growing Self’s Breakup & Divorce Recovery Support Group is an intimate, expert-led online group that meets weekly. It’s a compassionate space to heal from heartbreak with effective coaching exercises, actionable advice, and real support from people who know exactly how you feel.
Learn more about our breakup and divorce support groups.
Break Up Therapy & Breakup Coaching
When you’re reeling from heartbreak, especially after a toxic relationship, there’s nothing quite like having a breakup recovery expert by your side.
We can help you heal from heartbreak, rebuild your self-esteem, find closure, and move on into a bright new chapter of light and love.
Learn more about our breakup therapy and breakup coach services.
Gift the Gift of Healing
Does someone you care about need help getting over a broken heart? Are you looking for a way to show you care — one that will actually help?
Give them the gift of healing with a gift card they can use toward any of our breakup coaching or divorce therapy services, breakup and divorce support groups, or the How to Heal Your Broken Heart breakup recovery program.
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Divorce & Breakup Advice
Get more free breakup and divorce recovery advice in our extensive library of articles and podcasts on the subject. Visit the Healing After Heartbreak Collection on our blog to access them all.
Discernment Counseling
If you or your partner are considering separation, discernment counseling can help you both gain clarity around whether or not there is hope for your relationship. Learn about discernment counseling.
When to Call It Quits
Is there still hope for your relationship, or is it best to part ways? Learn the signs that growth and healing are possible, vs. signs it’s time to call it quits in a relationship.
Amicable Divorce
Amicable divorce prioritizes the mental and emotional wellness of everyone involved and creates the foundation for a healthy co-parenting partnership. Learn how to achieve an amicable divorce.
Breakup Therapy & Divorce Counseling
Time alone does not heal. Effective, informed, evidence-based breakup therapy and divorce counseling help you heal, grow, and move forward into emotional freedom.
The Stages of a Breakup
Withdrawal, grieving, growing, rebuilding: Understanding the stages of recovery are vital to your healing process after a divorce. Learn about the stages of breakup recovery…
How to Leave a Toxic Relationship, With Dignity
Learn why it’s so hard to leave a toxic relationship, and the things you can do to empower and support yourself in your journey to emotional empowerment.
Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Ex
Can you ever stop loving someone? Want to know how to get over an ex? Learn how to stop thinking about someone so you can move on.
Are You Addicted to a Toxic Relationship?
Profoundly unhealthy relationships can be the hardest to get over. Find out if you’re addicted to a toxic relationship.
Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love
Why is it so hard to let go, even when you know you should? In her award-winning “Exaholics” book, Dr. Lisa explains why, and illuminates the path forward towards emotional liberation, growth, and recovery.
Online Breakup and Divorce Support Group
You’re not alone. Heal your heart in our positive, affirming online breakup and divorce support group, led by an experienced divorce and breakup recovery counselor.
Heal Your Broken Heart: Breakup Recovery Program
In this self-paced online breakup recovery program Dr. Lisa helps you work through the stages of healing from heartbreak, through empowering personal growth activities.
How Much Does Therapy Cost?
Good therapy is a priceless investment in your growth and healing, but not all therapy is valuable. Learn about the cost of therapy that moves you forward.
Stop a Divorce
The threat of divorce can actually be a turning point for a marriage if you understand how to use it as an opportunity to foster healing. In this podcast, learn how to stop a divorce.
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