In online dating, your image matters.
In fact, any competent dating coach will tell you one thing:
Your photo is THE most important part of your online dating profile.
You can be witty, you can be interesting, you can be accomplished. You can tantalize your intended reader with funny anecdotes about your scuba diving trip, passion for gourmet cooking, and lust for adventure. You can spend weeks polishing your profile statement to a high gloss, thoughtfully placing each comma and dash.
And yet, none of your efforts matter at all if your photo is not excellent and intentional. It is your profile photo that will make or break your success in online dating. Photos of you in a baseball hat and sunglasses, you reclining on your comfy afghan-draped couch, you holding a fish (or a beer) and squinting into the sun, or — my favorite — your “mirror selfie,” will seal your fate.
Your ideal person will never even look at your humorous, thoughtful, and interesting profile statement. Their eyes will slide right over your enticing profile headline. They will only see the fish, or the afghan, or the sunglasses, or the shower curtain reflected in the mirror behind you. They will make a snap judgment about you and your worth as a person, and will move on. Sad, but true.
To be successful in online dating, you must have great profile photos.
While we dating coaches will certainly strategize with you: Helping you get clear about the image you want to portray, the aspects of your personality you want to emphasize, and the kind of people you want to attract… we’re not exactly competent to take your picture.
For this reason, Growing Self is partnering with Denver photographer Kelly Weaver (www.kellyweaverphotography.com) and her team of stylists to help you. Kelly and Co specialize in helping daters put their best face forward. They can primp and pose you, dress you, light you up, and capture you at your very best.
Kelly has also kindly offered to share her top tips for taking a great photo of yourself, if you want to go DIY. Watch Kelly, and get her best advice for taking a winning online dating profile photo.
Kelly Weaver: How To Take The Best Online Dating Profile Photo
Happy photo taking!
xo, Lisa & Kelly