Anxiety About a New Relationship?
What IS the biggest deal, and what our dating coaching clients really struggle with, is how to manage all the anxiety, insecurity, and angst about the unknown that comes with finding someone they really like and who they've started seeing regularly. That's when all the questions come up: Should I text? When should I call? When is it time for us to take down our online dating profiles? Is it okay for me to bring up certain subjects? How do I show them I like them with out seeming too needy? Or should I play it cool? Are we moving too fast? Not fast enough? Is this going somewhere? Is it okay for me to ask that? Or will that push them away? AGGGH.
We associate this sort of obsessing about another person's feelings for us with the horrific junior high experience of crushing. But, sadly, this life experience is not just for fifteen year olds. Grown-a** people, even senior citizens, still struggle with the angst and vulnerability of how to handle themselves in new relationships when they really, really don't want to blow it.
New Relationship Anxiety: It's a Thing
New relationships are incredibly anxiety provoking, and for good reason. When you really like someone but aren't sure how they feel about you, it's all consuming. When romantic love starts to pulse inside you, it actually changes the way you think and feel. When you feel like you cannot take your mind off of someone, and like you have way too much mental and emotional energy going into a brand new person, it's not just you. That experience of infatuation is what nature designed to weld you to another person. It's fierce. To have such intense feelings for a new person, and not know if your budding love is requited is the absolute worst.
This anxiety about new relationships churns up all kinds of self doubt and questions. For this reason, in addition to the usual questions about dating coaching we get, we have been fielding questions about how to handle various situations in new relationships from our dating coaching clients, in our solution sessions, and with questions coming in from listeners of our podcast, readers of our blog, and even journalists. [Read more about our empowering approach to dating coaching on DatingNews.com]
Today, on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I'm tackling some of your new relationship questions in hopes of putting some of that new relationship anxiety to rest. We'll discuss:
- How to manage new relationship anxiety
- The stages of a new relationship
- New relationship questions
- When to bring up topics like dating exclusively, or how you really feel
- Things to look for that indicate red flags and / or compatibility
- When you should move forward dating someone with a history of depression or other issues (and when to fold 'em).
- What to do when someone you like hasn't called or texted in a while, or gives other signals that they might not be that into you
- How to put self-love and self-worth front and center of all new dating relationships
- How to move a new relationship forward without “scaring someone off”
All that, and more, on the podcast.
PPS: Do YOU have questions for me? Dating questions, or otherwise? Leave them in the comments: I read every one! 🙂
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New Relationship Anxiety? Your New Relationship Questions, Answered
Music Credits: Prince, “The Beautiful Ones”