Your Relationship’s Strengths

This assessment measured your relationship’s health in the following key areas:

  • Emotional Safety
  • Communication
  • Teamwork
  • Kindness and Generosity
  • Shared Goals and Values
  • The Presence or Absence of Negative Behaviors

Your answers provide insight into the strengths of your relationship, as well as your growth opportunities.

Real Support For Your Relationship

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is the founder and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching. She is licensed as both a marriage and family therapist and a psychologist, and she is a board certified life coach. She is the host of “The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast,” the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love,” and a frequent contributor to national health, wellness and news publications.

Check your email for your quiz results! Dr. Bobby will be reviewing your scores with you, explaining what they mean, and sharing her top tips for creating positive change in the videos below.

Emotional Safety

Emotional Safety is the foundation of every relationship. Feeling loved, respected, secure and fundamentally accepted by your partner is a necessity for having a strong relationship. If couples have a strong sense of mutual trust and love, they can often transcend other obstacles. Conversely, if their foundation of emotional safety is shakey they’ll often have problems in other domains of their relationship as a result, like communication or teamwork.

Discover what your results mean about the levels of emotional safety in your relationship, and get Dr. Bobby’s recommendations for strengthening this area of your partnership.


    Good communication (C) is essential to having a good relationship. Why? All couples have things that come up that they need to work through: Misunderstandings, problems they need to solve together, and learning about each other’s thoughts and feelings are all vital to having a healthy partnership.

    Discover what your results in this area mean, and get Dr. Bobby’s recommendations for how to improve your communication.


    In addition to enjoying each other, every couple in a long-term relationship needs to learn how to work together as a team (T). While maintaining a household, parenting, and attending to daily tasks of life may seem hum-drum, these are crucial aspects of any successful partnership. When couples have significantly different ideas about what needs to be done, and who should do what (and when!) conflict will arise.

    Learn what your results mean, and get Dr. Bobby’s recommendations on some strategies that will help you improve your teamwork.


      Kindness and Generosity

      Did you know that research into what makes happy, healthy, enduring relationships consistently finds is that two things are more important than almost anything else? The magic ingredients are kindness and generosity. Being kind towards each other means acting in ways that are loving, affectionate and friendly. Being generous with each other means making each other’s feelings and preferences a priority, at least some of the time. When two people are intentionally showing each other love and affection, and being thoughtful about each other’s feelings, their relationship will flourish.

      Learn what your responses in this section indicate about your relationship, and get Dr. Bobby’s tips for how to strengthen your partnership in this area.

      Shared Goals and Values

      In a healthy, dyamic partnership the shared vision, shared goals, and shared life that a couple works toward together creates a mutual sense of meaning and purpose. Going through life as a united “we” not only strengthens a partnership and a family, but can generate optimism, commitment, and deep connection.

      Whether the cornerstone of your partnership is raising a family, building a business, practicing your faith, or expanding your horizons through your next great adventure, having common goals for your shared life (plus deep respect and support for each other’s individual goals) is a foundational strength for any relationship.

      Learn what your “Shared Goals and Values” score means about your relationship, and get Dr. Bobby’s tips for how to make positive changes in this domain.


      Your Relationship’s
      Overall Health

      The presence or relative absence of a few, specific “negative relationship behaviors” are highly significant. If your relationship is currently experiencing a high degree of negative behaviors, it’s a warning sign.

      Get Dr. Bobby’s tips and heartfelt advice for how to make positive changes in your relationship in this very important area.

      Real Help For Your Relationship

      We’ve helped thousands of couples heal their relationships through our style of positive, powerful, and evidence-based couples therapy.

      We’d like to help you, too.

      “It has been really helpful to have someone else’s perspectives and guidance on our conversations, and Kathleen has been incredibly easy to talk with. I’m surprised at how comfortable this experience has been for both of us so far.”

      — Former Clients

      “We both really like Brenda’s style. She makes us feel comfortable. We have been able to share things frankly with each other through her prompts and understanding way.”

      — Former Clients

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      Meet a Few Of Our Relationship Experts

      The marriage counselors, couples therapists and premarital counselors of Growing Self have specialized training and years of experience in helping couples reconnect. We use only evidence based strategies that have been proven by research to help you restore your strong bond, and love your relationship again.




      Hunter Tolman

      Hunter Tolman

      M.S., MFTC

      Hunter is a warm, compassionate marriage counselor, couples therapist, and parenting coach who believes in love, and that strong marriages create strong families. He practices Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, which is an evidence-based form of marriage counseling that focuses on helping you create a strong, secure attachment built on trust and empathy.

      His gentle, but effective approach can help you open up with each other, and have healing conversations that repair your bond and allow you both to consistently show each other the love and respect you both deserve. Hunter's roots are in Utah, but he is currently based in Colorado. He can serve you as a couples therapist or marriage counselor in Fort Collins, CO and Broomfield, CO, and he provides online marriage counseling & relationship coaching to couples across the US and around the world.

      Meagan Terry

      Meagan Terry

      M.A., LMFT

      Meagan Terry is a relationship specialist. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over nine years of experience in helping couples reconnect, and enjoy each other again. She specializes in Denver marriage counseling, Denver premarital counseling, and online relationship coaching.

      Meagan uses effective, evidence based forms of marriage counseling including Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy and The Gottman Method. In addition to working one-on-one with couples, she teaches our Lifetime of Love premarital and relationship class. Meagan is available to meet with you for marriage counseling or couples therapy in Denver, and for relationship coaching and premarital counseling online.


      Georgiana Spradling

      Georgiana Spradling

      PhD, MFT

      Dr. Georgiana is a couples counselor and relationship coach with a "tough love" style. Her no-nonsense approach and direct feedback can help you get clarity about what's creating issues in your relationship, develop emotional intelligence skills, change the way you interact with each other, and negotiate your differences in order to build bridges to the center.

      Dr. Georgiana is a certified coach as well as a licensed as a marriage and family therapist in California but she specializes in online relationship coaching. She divides her time between San Francisco and Buenos Aires. She is fluent in English, Spanish and French.

      Anastacia Sams

      Anastacia Sams

      M.A., N.C.C., LMFT-C

      I’m Anastacia Sams: a licensed therapist, life coach, and marriage counselor who is all about helping you create the very best life for yourself and for your relationships. I specialize in a type of evidence-based marriage counseling called Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, that helps you rebuild your secure, strong bond.

      I’ve been told that my warm, gentle style immediately sets people at ease. Working with me, you’ll feel safe, cared for, and understood. And through that non-judgmental understanding, you will heal, grow, and — most importantly — understand yourself.”

      Neha Prabhu

      Neha Prabhu

      M.S., MFTC

      Neha is an open-minded relationship therapist and life coach with an authentic approach. She believes you are the agent of change, and she can help you activate systems that lead to achieving your goals. She is a strength-based and solution-focused therapist and coach in her work with couples and individuals. Neha believes that to experience personal growth, you must build from what works best for you. In her work as a life coach, therapist, and marriage counselor she help clients to understand their identity, establish strengths, and feel empowered.

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