Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is the founder and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching. She’s the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love,” and the host of The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast.
Are “Communication Issues” wrecking your relationship?
“We can’t communicate with each other” is probably the number-one complaint of most couples coming in for marriage counseling or couples therapy. The underlying issue can be about anything: Parenting, sex, money, priorities. But the result is the same — tense, frustrating moments for both of you. Many couples don’t even remember what half the fights are even about, just that communicating with their partner feels impossible.
Communication problems in relationships make even the simplest moments feel difficult, and like a new fight is always simmering under the surface. Even the most banal question, like “what do you want to do for dinner?” can turn into a conflict when you’re having a negative reaction to your partner’s tone of voice, or the way they respond to you (or don’t respond to you), or the assumptions they make, or the fact that there are unresolved hurts and resentments piling up between you.
Because communication difficulties are such a major problem for so many couples, and I’ve been getting SO many questions about it from podcast listeners, I’ve decided to help you solve this problem by creating a three-part podcast “mini-series” on the subject of how to improve the communication in your relationship.
In today’s first episode I’ll be introducing some main ideas that can help you understand why conflicts happen, and what YOU can do to improve communication in your relationship starting today.
Next week we’ll be talking about how to handle things if you have a partner who seems angry, snappish, or emotionally reactive.
And then in the following episode we’ll be talking about how to communicate with a partner who shuts down.
I sincerely hope that these ideas help you both find your way back together again.
xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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Communication Problems, and How To Fix Them
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