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Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

As a breakup recovery expert specializing in breakup coaching to help you heal from heartbreak… I get a lot of questions.

“Dr. Lisa, how can I get over a breakup? I need to let this relationship go, but I can’t. Can I get back with my Ex? I can’t stop thinking about my Ex. I follow them on social media and it’s killing me. I want to contact my Ex, but know I shouldn’t. Why am I obsessing about my Ex moving on? Should I be friends with my Ex? How do I get over a broken heart? Please help.”

Can you relate?

Positive, Empowering Breakup Coaching

Spinning Your Wheels in Therapy? Here’s why…

Here’s what no one tells you:
Breakup recovery isn’t just about time — it’s about transformation.

If you’ve been trying to “move on,” but still feel stuck in your thoughts, your feelings, or your past, it’s not because something is wrong with you. It’s because true healing after heartbreak requires a process.

That’s why therapy for breakups doesn’t work. (You can spin your wheels for years in insight oriented talk therapy that rehashes the past). You need to move forward.

That’s why I don’t just do “breakup coaching” either – 45 minute sessions once a week won’t scratch the surface of what you’re going through.

My approach is much more effective than traditional therapy, advice, or self-help ever could be.

It’s an entire system designed to help you stop ruminating, stop spiraling, stop obsessing… and start getting clarity, confidence, and direction.

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Your Healing Can Start Right now.

Healing From Heartbreak Program with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby:
The Accidental Breakup Coach

I became a marriage counselor to help people heal their relationships.
To fight for love. To repair what was broken.

But I quickly learned a hard truth:
Not every relationship can be saved.
Some shouldn’t be.

Again and again, I sat with people in the wreckage of a breakup — after betrayal, heartbreak, or the slow unraveling of something they once believed would last forever.

They were grieving.
Spinning.
Stuck in pain that time alone couldn’t touch.

I tried to help them the way I was trained: traditional talk therapy.
And it didn’t work.

They kept coming back, week after week, still obsessing over their ex. Still ruminating. Still hurting.
And I realized… so was I.
Because what I was doing wasn’t helping them get free.


So I went deeper.

I started researching the psychology, biology, and neuroscience of love and attachment.
What I discovered changed everything:

Love is addictive.
Bonding is biochemical.
And heartbreak is a kind of withdrawal.

This understanding — backed by research — became the foundation for a totally new approach to healing. I identified the nine stages of breakup recovery, and created a step-by-step process to move through them with intention, support, and real progress.

This became the basis for my book, Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love
It became the framework for the Heal From Heartbreak™ program…
And it’s now what I teach to the expert breakup recovery coaches on my team.


This work has helped thousands of people stop hurting and start healing.

Not by “moving on” — but by moving through.

Through withdrawal.
Through grief.
Through anger, shame, regret, longing, and finally…
Into clarity. Into confidence. Into emotional freedom.


If you’re here, you’re probably still somewhere in that process.

You might be stuck — and that’s okay.
Most people are, until they get the right support.

But you don’t have to stay there.

Take the first step:

👉 Take my free Breakup Recovery Quiz to find out exactly where you are in the 9 stages of healing — and what to do next.

You can heal.
You can grow.
And I’m here to help you get there.

With hope and so much respect,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Exaholics Book Reviews

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“Don’t hesitate. Buy it NOW. Could not put this book down until I reached the very last page! Been driving the struggle bus for 2 years and this book has been the most valuable tool (besides my Mom 😉) thus far. Thanks! Helpful!”

“The best resource I had on my journey. I got this book like so many others when my 5 year marriage (8 year relationship) ended. I was lost, ashamed, and profoundly hurt. I was grasping at straws for help anywhere and everywhere. I didn’t expect much from reading it but was pleasantly surprised. For the first time, I didn’t feel alone. At times I felt that Lisa was talking directly to me; it was like she had first hand knowledge of my situation. Get this book! You won’t regret it.”

“This book is for anyone who cannot break free. This book opened my eyes. I highly recommend to anyone who has gone through a series of breaking up and getting back together. It helps to understand why this happened, get some perspective, admit your mistakes and get over all the negative emotions of the love addiction.”

“I would give this 10,000 stars! It’s a must, must, must if you are going through a breakup! It was my bible!”

“This book goes into your brain on a breakup, the chemical and physical withdrawal that spirals your life out of control. I am fascinated with the brain and body in crisis and this book hits every nail on the head. This took me about 8 hours to read. Nothing was overlooked. Are you going through a bad breakup? Do you want to understand why and get better? Read this book.”

“Excellent book. I’ve read many break-up books, but this is the one that threw me over to the other side where I could break my addiction to my ex. I received the clarity I needed and really woke up to see how I was actually addicted to this person. Highly recommend.”

“From Heartbreak to Feeling Whole Again: Distress, anger, sadness, grief, longing, despair, wild hope, helplessness, obsessive thoughts, the endless mental and emotional searching for what has been lost, hurt, the quiet devastation, feeling like the relentless ache in your chest will never go away … this book explains how to get better after a tough break up. I read everything I could get my hands on and spoke to a number of professionals to try to understand why I couldn’t seem to get over it no matter what I did. This book was the most helpful resource of all, it was a life saver. I highly recommend it. It helped me finally to get over what happened, to heal myself and to feel good again.”

“Fantastic book! It gives the reader who feels something must be fundamentally or constitutionally wrong with their makeup that reassurance that there is clear science behind missing and craving an ex. It gives the reader an understanding that s/he is sooo not alone, and of what the process of recovery from an addiction to an ex often looks like, as well as some recovery roadmaps.”

“An excellent read and very helpful! This book helped me a lot. Dr. Bobby is spot on about absolutely everything I’ve been going through during my ordeal with my ex, which really did feel like a bad addiction followed by horrible withdrawals. Dr. Bobby offers solid advice as to how to handle everything. It’s also a comfort to know that I’m not going crazy and that the roller coaster ride of emotions is perfectly normal. I only wish I had read this book long ago. Well done, Dr. Bobby!”

“Wow. I’ve never been so affected by a book before. I’m going through one of the most painful break ups in my life right now, and don’t know where I’d be without this book. I even recommended it to the ex-boyfriend.”

“This book is amazing. I feel like it was truly meant for me to read it. I have been trying to understand and explain what I am going through to others and have been unsuccessful until I read this book. I literally feel like the author stepped inside of me and penned everything that I was unable to explain verbally. I feel like I’m going to get my breakthrough and break away with the help I have received from this book. Thank You!!!”

“5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent! Anyone who has recently gone through a breakup/divorce can benefit immensely from this work. Whether you left or were rejected, this book deals with explaining the very real scientific and psychological underpinnings behind human behavior in a breakup and provides tools to help the reader work through it. Helpful!”

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How We Help You Heal After Heartbreak

The Heartbreak Growth Experience: Coaching

Breakup Recovery Coaching, Reimagined

Work one-on-one with a licensed therapist who specializes in breakup recovery, and who who will guide you through every stage of healing — from heartbreak to wholeness.

This isn’t just talk. It’s structured, transformative coaching that helps you stop spinning, make real progress, and feel like yourself again.

You don’t have to do this alone. We’ll walk with you, every step of the way.

The Heartbreak Growth Collective: Online Breakup Coaching Group

Live Weekly Coaching + 24/7 Support From People Who Get It

Each week, you’ll join a live coaching session led by an expert breakup recovery coach — where you can share your story, get personalized guidance, and connect with others who truly understand.

Between sessions, you’ll have 24/7 access to our private online breakup support group, where comfort, insight, and encouragement are always just a post away.

Free Breakup Advice
From Our Blog + Podcast

Because we specialize in relationships and breakup recovery, we have lots of free breakup advice and numerous podcast episodes on the subject for you to take advantage of on our blog.

Please help yourself to the wisdom of our breakup recovery experts, and share these articles with your fellow travelers. It’s all here for you.

You can view breakup recovery podcast episodes on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and get free breakup advice in the Healing After Heartbreak Collection on our blog.

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