How to Stop a Divorce
HOW TO STOP A DIVORCE: One of the scariest things that can happen over the course of a marriage is when one person gets so fed up and frustrated they ask for (or threaten) a divorce. We have panicking people reaching out for emergency online marriage counseling all the time saying, “Help! My husband asked for a divorce!” (Or, “My wife asked for a divorce, what do I do??”) They call and ask, “Can you help me save my marriage?” and it's so heartbreaking. These are such hard moments.
However, in my experience as a Denver marriage counselor and online marriage counselor, I've learned that your spouse asking for a divorce can break one of two ways: It either leads couples into a “transformational crisis” where they make positive and often long-overdue changes to their relationship, or it's the beginning of the end.
Advice For How to Stop a Divorce
Today on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm going to be giving you some real-world advice on what to do if your husband or wife asks for a divorce.
How you handle yourself in the hours, days and weeks after your partner has asked for a divorce can make all the difference as to how things unfold. I believe that you often can stop a divorce from happening if you are able to stay in control of yourself and rise above the immediate emotions of the situation. (Particularly if asking for a divorce is more of a “cry for help” rather than a serious and pre-meditated intention of your partner).
Listen to the podcast for some insight into why divorce happens, and to get practical anti-divorce advice on how to handle yourself if you want the best shot of saving your marriage.
- Understanding the psychology behind why divorces happen, and what's going on in a husband or wife asks for a divorce
- What to say when your husband or wife asks for a divorce
- What NOT to say when your husband or wife asks for a divorce
- Specific things you can do to reignite hope and healing for your marriage
- How to create a path forward, to not just stop a divorce but create real and lasting positive change in your marriage
When You Can't Stop a Divorce
When someone asks for a divorce there is more possibility for growth and healing than many people realize.
And, unfortunately, I am also well aware that there are situations where people are blindsided by divorce. Their husband or wife has decided that they are done, they are filing for divorce, and you can't stop a divorce.
If this is true for you, I have advice for you too.
For starters, in these instances, as awful as they are, you need to make a shift out of your feelings and get into “survival mode.” There are practical steps that need to be taken in order to ensure your long-term financial safety and the wellbeing of your children.
To give you some guidance on the next practical steps forward I've enlisted the support of my colleague, professional divorce mediator Denisa Tova. She'll be giving you some insight into the process of divorce, and the steps you can take to ensure that your divorce process is as collaborative, civilized, and healthy as is possible.
I am hopeful for you, that you're able to use the relationship advice I share about how to stop a divorce and turn things around. If that is not possible, I hope that you can find a healthy path forward for both of you.
I hope that all the advice helps you find your way through this confusing, and scary time, and that the path forward is one of growth for you — no matter how things unfold.
With love and respect,
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How To Stop a Divorce and Save Your Marriage
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