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Dating During The Holidays: ‘Tis The Season… of Love

Dating During The Holidays: ‘Tis The Season… of Love

Single During the Holidays?

As a breakup expert and dating coach, I know all too well that many single people — particularly newly single people — often dread the holiday season, envisioning themselves enduring the upcoming string of holiday celebrations without a +1. But truly, there is no need to worry about feeling lonely during the holidays. If you’re single, and want to be in a new relationship, the holiday season is a fantastic, highly advantageous time for you to connect with a new love.

Why is dating during the holidays such a great time to launch a beautiful new relationship? Three main reasons:

1. You have the opportunity to meet more people in person, because of all the holiday gatherings and events happening at this time of year.

2. Many, many other singles (fun, beautiful, desirable, successful singles just like you) are also feeling motivated to connect right now and are putting themselves out there too. But there’s more: Match.com consistently finds that the Sunday after New Year’s is the single most popular day for people to create new online dating profiles. They see a 30-40% increase in their membership on that one day alone. If you get your act together now, you’ll have the pick of the litter come January.

3. Possibly most importantly, you have a legitimate reason to wear sequins, sparkles, and / or hilariously ugly holiday sweaters. No, really! All of these fashion choices are actually fantastic conversation starters, making it extremely easy for anyone to start up a conversation with you.

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You could totally walk up to this guy and talk to him about his bells and puff-balls. Or maybe just give him a hug.

In short: If you’ve been sitting on the sidelines, feeling discouraged about the dating game, now’s the time to get off the bench and take another swing at finding love. And today’s episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast is going to help you do just that.

Free Advice From a Dating Coach

There are just a few keys to successful dating: Clarity, Chemistry, Connection, and Evaluation. We’re going to be talking about each of these today to get you prepared to be your best self as you head into this sparkling season, ripe with potential for new love.

I’ll be putting on my “dating coach” hat to give you some advice on how to get clear about who you want to meet, and how to attract them. We’ll also be discussing the all-important “chemistry factor” and what YOU need to be thinking about and doing to wow all the attractive new people you’re about to meet, and leave them wanting more of you.

Additionally, we’ll be talking about how to make the most of all your opportunities for connection. You’ll have natural “IRL” opportunties this season, in the form of parties and holiday events, as well as the chance to freshen up your online dating profile. Because your photos will make-or-break your success with online dating, I’ve invited professional portrait photographer Kelly Weaver (who specializes in online dating profile photos) to give you her top tips for getting some fantastic new photos for your profile.

After that, we’ll also be discussing the downsides of being so gorgeous and irresistible, which is how to competently handle all the attention you’re getting — not to mention the sheer volume of messages and invitations you might be flooded with. While this sounds like a happy problem to have, feeling overwhelmed is something that scares people right out of the dating pool. I’ll be sharing some tips to create a solid plan in place to manage all the back-and-forth without acquiring a bunch of pen-pals, and quickly figure out who’s a good fit for you and who’s not will help you focus your energy on the people who are a match for you.

Lots to learn about dating during the holidays, on this edition of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Listen now…

Dating During The Holidays: 'Tis The Season... For Love

by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby | Love, Happiness & Success

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Relationship Compatibility: Finding Your Soulmate

Relationship Compatibility: Finding Your Soulmate

Am I in the “right” relationship? How do I find my soulmate? Are we truly compatible?

Many people show up for dating coaching, life coaching or even marriage counseling with a lot of angst around these unanswered questions. People who are dating can wonder if they’ve found “the one.” Premarital couples sometimes worry whether they’re compatible enough to get married. And even married or long time partnered people can wonder if their relationship issues are due to their being too different. (Or having “perpetual problems” as marriage and family researcher Dr. John Gottman likes to call it).

I’m simply glad that people are asking these kinds of relationship questions. After all, who you choose to marry is going to have a greater impact on the quality of your life and your long term happiness than just about anything else.

And it’s also true that everyone is a mixed bag, with aspects to them that are both delightful and frustrating as all get out. So how do you determine what is a relationship red flag, or sign that you’re fundamentally incompatible? How to you figure out what differences are okay? When do opposites not just attract, but actually make a partnership stronger?

On today’s episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I’m going to talk through all these questions with you. To do this though, I need to wear three hats.

Relationship Compatibility in Marriage

First, I’m going to put on my marriage counselor cape hat and talk about the most common culprits that make married couples wonder if they are compatible or not. Listen and learn what (frustrating!) differences might actually be strengths for your relationship, and what differences are harder to overcome. I’ll also give you tips for how to build bridges to the center, and appreciate each other for who you are. Want to see an example of this in action? Check out my recent post: “How Jenny and Greg Fixed Their Relationship.” 

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Finding Your Soulmate

Next I’m putting on my dating coach  wizard hat to talk about the serious business of finding your soul mate. Dating is all about “auditioning” people and getting to know them over time. I’ll share the down low on the biggest mistake I see dating people make, and how it can impair their ability to find a true soul mate. If you are on the dating market, I’ll help you understand what’s important to look for in a potential partner, and what is NOT as important when you’re looking for love. I’m also sharing some practical steps you can take to make sure that you’re finding a good match in terms of both character and chemistry.

For Premarital Couples

Lastly, I’m sharing my advice as a premarital counselor. If you’re planning a wedding with some lingering questions on your mind, you’ll want to check out the case example I shared about what it looks like when someone is NOT asking the right questions leading up to marriage. The best time to prevent potential pitfalls is before the wedding. It’s essential to have serious conversations about your personalities, hopes and dreams, and expectations prior to the “I Do’s.” Why? First of all, it’s enormously helpful to get on the same page and identify potential problems before you’re married. But an even bigger reason? Because the one of the most serious red flags for a relationship is not being able to talk through important things respectfully. If you are literally not able to have “Who are we, what do we each want, and how are we going to get on the same page?” conversations together, you might want to slow down.

Relationship Compatibility Test

One of the resources I talked through on the show is Dr. Helen Fisher’s personality test. If you would like to take it for yourself (and / or ask your partner to) you can find it here: http://bit.ly/2cOmEX6. For more information about the ideas behind Dr. Fisher’s compatibility quiz and how they impact people in relationships, I highly recommend her book, “Why Him, Why Her.

Relationship Compatibility: Finding Your Soulmate

by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby | Love, Happiness & Success

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Music credits for this episode: Courtney Barnett, “Pedestrian at Best.

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The Secret to Finding Love Online, With Julie Spira

The Secret to Finding Love Online, With Julie Spira

Online Dating Can Be Brutal

Profiles that don’t get any attention.
Endless texting that doesn’t go anywhere.
First dates that fizzle.

It’s exhausting. And don’t think for a second that it’s just happening to you.

The truth is that it’s hard for most people to avoid all the potential pitfalls on their own. It gives everyone anxiety to put themselves out there and hear chirping crickets in response, or endure a series disappointing experiences. There is a reason why dating coaching has become a multi-million dollar industry in the last few years — it’s that NOBODY knows what they are doing when it comes to online dating. That’s why so many people are turning to dating coaching experts to help them figure it out.

As we’ve discussed on previous podcasts, for successful online dating you need to have CLARITY, INTENTION, and a darn good STRATEGY. There’s no better person to take online dating advice from my guest on today’s episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast — the world-famous online dating coach Julie Spira.

For over 20 years, Julie Spira has been helping singles find love online. She teaches singles how to shorten their search, so they can ride into the digital sunset together. She’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Julie is a frequent guest in the media for online and mobile dating advice. She’s appeared in over 650 stories including ABC, BBC, CBS, CNN, FOX, NBC, NPR, Good Morning America, Elle, Glamour, Men’s Health, New York Times, Washington Post, and USAToday. Follow her on Twitter, @JulieSpira, where she tweets about dating and love.

She’s here as my guest today to talk about the hot topic of online dating and mobile dating apps and the new audio book version of her bestseller.

Listen to our interview and hear Julie’s top tips about how to make your online profile irresistible, convert first texts into first dates, and connect with the love you’re looking for. Want more of Julie? Check out her website, and get her “7 Secrets to Finding Love Online” @ www.cyberdatingexpert.com.

The Secret to Finding Love Online, with Julie Spira: Listen Now

The Secret to Finding Love Online, with Julie Spira

by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby | Love, Happiness & Success

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Bela Gandhi: How to WIN Online Dating

Bela Gandhi: How to WIN Online Dating

Technologically assisted dating is just how people meet these days.

And the truth is that, statistically speaking,you have a better chance of finding the right person through an app on your iPhone than you do getting all mascara-d up and loitering around local watering holes. There are tens of thousands of eligible singles in Denver alone, and they have thoughtfully curated themselves to show you who they are before you even talk. You can scroll through possible partners like you were shopping for sweaters online, until you find the perfect one. So easy, right?

Well, theoretically. But the truth is that even the process of setting up a profile can be anxiety provoking. What picture do you use? What do you say? How do you set yourself apart without being weird? What if no-one gets in touch? What if they do but you don’t like them? Agh! It’s enough to make you scrap it all and just go back to standing around bars on Saturday nights.

Help has arrived. On this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I’m speaking with the wonderful Bela Gandhi — dating coach and online image consultant, and founder of Smart Dating Academy. You may have caught snippets of her dating wisdom from her appearances on the Steve Harvey Show. But if you missed it, listen to this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast and learn how to WIN online dating!

Listen Now, and Learn How to WIN Online Dating

Music Credits: “When I Find You” by UV Protection

 

 

Learn More About Bela Gandhi’s Online Dating Coaching Practice

www.smartdatingacademy.com

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