Are You Wondering Why You’re Single?
The short and extremely obvious answer that you’ll get from every dating coach to the question “Why am I still single?” is usually, “You haven’t met the right person yet!” But things could be about to change quickly, my friend. Why? Because we’re now entering “Dating Season.”
It’s Dating Season!
Yes, there is really a dating season, and the starting whistle is about to blow.
It’s easy to be intimidated by the snow and/or icy blue skies of January in Denver and think that no one in their right mind could possibly be out mingling right now. We imagine that the easiest time for dating in Denver is in July, when everyone is out at a BBQ with a beer in their hand or running around in a tank top. Not so. It’s right now.
3 Reasons Why It’s Dating Season
#1 Two Words: Holiday. Season.
Many, if not most, singles have a hard time during the holiday season. When they go home to visit family, they get cornered by concerned moms, dads, and college friends who want to talk about why a catch like them is still single. Well-meaning grandparents, aunts, and cousins helpfully point out that it suuuuuuure would be nice for them to bring a nice guy/girl home someday, which is as annoying as it is painful.
Worse yet is being around siblings and friends who have married and are now having children. Holding a friend’s baby can make single people feel like the train has left the station, leaving them behind. This creates a lot of anxiety and raises motivation to get out there and meet someone so that they never have to live through a holiday season as a single again.
#2 New Year’s Resolutions
There are three top New Year’s resolutions: Finances, Fitness, and Finding Love (for singles). Especially being fresh out of the holiday experience, many single people resolve that THIS WILL BE THE LAST YEAR of their singledom.
The first order of business on the bleary morning of January 1 is getting to work setting up their Match.com dating profile. This is great news for you because you’ll have lots of other singles new to the scene who are interested in connecting with YOU – this strategy helps in success in online dating.
#3 Countdown to Valentine’s Day
It’s coming. In fact, at the time of this writing, V-Day is just SIX weeks away. It can be such a fun holiday for people when they have a love in their lives to celebrate with, but it can be a tough one for singles. And trust me — people are already thinking about it. How can you not? The day they take down the Christmas Trees at Target, or even before then in some places, they start hanging up pink and red hearts next to the romantic cards and chocolates.
Singles want to be included in the impending love-fest; they want to find true love, and who can blame them? Especially for people who’ve sat out a lonely Valentine’s Day in the past, there can be a sense of urgency around making sure that this year is different — and the clock is ticking!
Your “Match” Is Waiting For YOU.
This flood of new daters at this time of year is such a “thing” that Match.com calculates a 38% increase in the number of people signing up for their services between now (December) and Valentine’s Day.
So bottom line — this is it! This is the time of year to get out there and get busy meeting people. The odds are good!
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is the founder and clinical director of Growing Self. She is a licensed psychologist, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a board-certified coach, as well as the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love,” and the host of The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast.
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