Heal From Heartbreak
Divorce Counseling & Breakup Recovery
Healing Starts Here
Get insight into your heartbreak recovery timeline, and our recommendations for how to keep moving forward.
Expert Divorce Counseling & Breakup Recovery:
Compassionate Support For…
Ending a Relationship
Ending a relationship with someone you love is a traumatizing experience.
You can’t just “get over” a breakup, or flip a switch and feel just fine when you’re going through a divorce. Time alone does not heal, nor does endless “processing.” You need a specific process that will move you forward.
Grieving a Relationship
Our licensed therapists specialize in helping people heal from heartbreak.
Our approach is different: We know that healing after relationship loss is multi-dimensional and that treating this like “grief” is not enough. Our productive approach to breakup therapy and divorce counseling gives you clarity, direction, and helps you take effective action to rebuild yourself… and your life.
Hope, Healing & Growth
With the right support, you can use this loss as a doorway to powerful personal growth.
Our evidence-based approach to divorce and breakup recovery walks you through specific stages of healing that help you not just to let go of the past, but to build a bright new future.
Why Growing Self?
Working with a breakup counselor or divorce therapist at Growing Self is different. Our experts are not self-proclaimed “breakup coaches.” We are marriage and family therapists — true relationship specialists with advanced degrees and years of experience helping individuals, couples, and families build healthy relationships… and heal from heartbreak when their relationships cannot be repaired.
Furthermore, clinical therapists have training in mental health treatment: Not relationship loss. Traditional insight oriented talk therapy does not dive into the biologically based nature of love and the specific steps required to release an attachment bond, much less actively rebuild your life on a practical level.
We are heartbreak recovery specialists, bringing you the power and depth of therapy, the science of attachment, and the transformation of coaching psychology. In addition to private sessions with one of our heartbreak recovery specialists, we surround you with multidimensional support including access to a heartbreak support group, weekly group coaching calls, and a structured step by step heartbreak recovery program to help you do the work of growth and healing productively.
We understand why you can’t stop thinking about your Ex, how to deal when your Ex moves on, what it’s like to be addicted to a toxic relationship, and how to achieve an amicable divorce.
We understand attachment trauma, and we understand the power of healing relationships. We’ve helped countless people heal, grow, and ultimately flourish in the aftermath of a painful breakup or divorce.
We can help you, too.
Let’s Talk.
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Moving Forward
Our Divorce Counseling & Breakup Recovery Services
Breakup Therapy
Our empathetic therapists are breakup recovery experts who can help you do more than learn how to “get over” a breakup.
Our powerful approach to breakup therapy focuses on personal growth. We help you grieve the relationship, repair your self-esteem after a breakup, stop obsessing about your Ex, and find peace and closure.
Most importantly, we help you learn and grow from this experience so you can move on in peace and gratitude — genuinely ready to build a healthy relationship in the future.
Learn more about our breakup therapy for healing and growth.
Divorce Counseling
Divorce is one of the hardest things anyone can live through, especially if you have children. Divorce impacts kids, finances, your career, and your identity.
Expert divorce therapy and divorce counseling with a marriage and family therapist helps you deal with divorce on practical levels — and deeper ones, too. We can help you grieve your dreams, restore your emotional health, support your children with their loss, co-parent effectively, recalibrate your career, and move on stronger than ever.
Learn more about our empowering approach to divorce counseling and therapy.
Divorce Coaching
With all the pain and turmoil that a divorce can unleash, it’s hard to stay motivated, focus on your goals, and design a bright new future for yourself.
Our divorce coaches will help you stay on track, make decisions in alignment with your values and goals, find growth opportunities, and gracefully navigate the tricky terrain of divorce as you rebuild your life.
Multi-Dimensional Support For Divorce, Relationship Loss, and Breakup Recovery
Breakup Support Groups
& Divorce Support Groups
A powerful breakup and divorce support group with a community of caring people who know exactly how you feel can be profoundly healing.
Our online breakup and divorce group is a guided coaching experience that offers fellowship, understanding, and effective strategies for growth and healing after heartbreak.
Learn more about our breakup and divorce support group.
How to Heal From a Broken Heart: The Breakup Recovery Program
Time alone does not heal heartbreak. People can and do stay stuck, for years. The path to healing, growing, and moving on is achieved through nine specific stages. We move you through these effectively in our Heal From Heartbreak Program.
You can take our program to provide structure and direction that compliments your work in private therapy or coaching, or you can do this as a standalone program.
Explore the Heal From Heartbreak Program →
Exaholics Book
Falling in love and developing an attachment bond is a biologically based process that is addictive in nature, and getting over an Ex requires recovery.
“Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love” by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby offers empathy, actionable advice, and an evidence-based approach to help you understand the nature of love and how to heal from heartbreak.
Learn more about the Exaholics book.
A Leading voice in Breakup Recovery
“I’m Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, the founder of Growing Self. Because of my years of experience as a couples counselor, I became a breakup and divorce recovery expert with special insight into the nature of love and loss — and the science-backed strategies that foster hope and healing. I am the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love,” and my breakup and divorce recovery advice has been featured on Oprah.com, The New York Times, Time.com, and many other media outlets.
I’ve walked with countless people through their recovery process, and I’ve developed a set of techniques, skills, and ideas that help them work through the stages of healing into hope and happiness on the other side. Our trusted breakup recovery experts use these research-backed strategies to help you release your attachment and heal your heart so that you can move forward.
I have a special place in my heart for people needing to heal after heartbreak, and so we have lots of resources available to support you on your journey of growth and healing. I hope you take advantage of them — they’re all for you.”
— Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, Ph.D., LMFT, LP, BCC
Resources for Breakup and Divorce Recovery
Divorce Counseling and Breakup Recovery Podcast
Dr. Bobby is the host of “The Love, Happiness and Success” podcast and has numerous episodes offering expert advice to help you cope with divorce and get past heartbreak. You can check out past episodes on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, and be sure to check out her “Healing After Heartbreak” playlist.
Get in touch with Dr. Bobby through Instagram if you’d like her to address your question on an upcoming episode.
Breakup Questions & Divorce Advice,
on the Blog
You’ll find helpful information, thoughtful insight, and warm, caring guidance from our relationship counselors in the “Heal From Heartbreak” Collection on our blog.
Breakup advice, divorce guidance, kids and divorce parenting tips, leaving a toxic relationship, coping with a long distance breakup, stages of healing after a breakup, how to stop obsessing about your Ex, amicable divorce, when to call it quits in a relationship (and so much more). It’s all there for you.
Gift Divorce Counseling
and Breakup Recovery
Coaching
When you’re healing after a breakup or divorce, there’s nothing like knowing that the people close to you care.
If someone you love is struggling in the aftermath of a bad breakup or difficult divorce, you can support their recovery. Give them the gift of healing with our gift cards for coaching, counseling, and other breakup recovery services, including our support groups and classes.
Meet a Few of Our Divorce and Breakup Recovery Experts
Silas H.
M.S., LMFT
A Partner in Growth for Individuals & Couples
Meet Silas: a couples counselor, therapist, and life coach with an easy-going, humorous, and down-to-earth style that makes personal growth work both enjoyable and effective. His tireless support, encouragement, and expertise help you stay motivated to make real and lasting change in yourself and your relationships.
Brittany S.
M.A., LMFT
Compassionate Care For You & Your Relationships
Meet Brittany: a couples counselor, individual therapist, premarital counselor, and a life and relationship coach with a warm, authentic, emotionally-focused approach. She works with you to build deeper connections, restore emotional bonds, and grow in your capacity to love and be loved.
Emily B.
M.S., LMFT
Dedicated to Your Empowerment
Meet Emily, a couples counselor, relationship coach, individual therapist and life coach with a positive, empowering approach to helping you create the change you desire. Emily believes that we each have the seeds of wisdom inside of us — and that with the right support, you can cultivate greater well-being, love, and success.
Elizabeth B.
M.A., LMFT
Emotionally-Focused, Authentic & Understanding
Meet Elizabeth, a couples counselor and individual therapist who uses evidence-based approaches in her emotionally-focused work with clients. She believes in your potential for profound healing and growth. She will help you cultivate self-compassion and emotional wellness, so you can build the life and relationships you deserve.
Jenna P.
M.A., LPC, LMFT
Insightful, Welcoming & Productive
Meet Jenna: a supportive marriage counselor, couples therapist, individual therapist, and life coach with a friendly, light style and a great sense of humor. She uses effective, evidence-based techniques to help you build understanding for yourself and your partner, increase intimacy and connection, and achieve your most important goals.
Roseann P.
M.S., LMFT
Open Heart, Wise Mind
Meet Roseann: an empathetic and intuitive marriage and family therapist, individual therapist, and life coach. Through authentic connection and a down-to-earth demeanor, Roseann guides you toward clarity and well-being. Using mindfulness and values-driven action, she helps you overcome challenges and create fulfillment in all aspects of life.
Talia R.
M.S., MFTC
Straightforward, Open-minded & Action-Oriented
Meet Talia: a relationship specialist whose warm, collaborative approach guides you toward deeper exploration, connection, and understanding. With her authentic and straightforward style, she can help you gain the clarity and skills to cultivate the life and relationships you desire.
Georgi C.
M.S., LMFT
Nurturing Healthy Families & Happy Relationships
Meet Georgi: a warm, compassionate, Arkansas-based marriage counselor, individual therapist, and family therapist who creates a safe and supportive space for you to find meaning in your struggles, realize your self-worth, and cultivate healthy connections with the most important people in your life.
Matthew C.
M.S.Ed, LMFT
Create Fulfilling Connections
Meet Matthew a couples counselor, coach, and therapist who helps you understand yourself and others, shift your patterns, and create positive change in your life and relationships.
Jesse S.
M.S., LMFT
Approachable, Direct & Warm
Jesse is a licensed marriage and family therapist who excels at creating a judgment-free environment where growth and healing flourish. He can help individuals and couples create deeper, more satisfying relationships, navigate major life transitions, manage stress, and lead happier, more fulfilling lives.
Linda P.
M.A., LMFT
Thriving Personal & Professional Relationships
Meet Linda: a relationship expert and certified emotional intelligence coach with a unique blend of professional experience as a marriage counselor, executive coach, leadership coach, life coach, and therapist. She's here to help you understand yourself and others, improve your communication, increase your emotional intelligence, and cultivate positive relationships — both personally, and professionally.
Dr. Rachel D.
DMFT, LMFT
Expert Care for Your Relationship
Meet Dr. Rachel: a relationship coach and marriage and family therapist with a warm personality and productive approach. She helps you and your partner restore trust, deepen intimacy, reconnect emotionally, and transform your shared life through the healing power of a healthy partnership.
Dr. Ben J.
Ph.D., LMFT, LCMFT
Healthy Relationships, Happy Life
Meet Dr. Ben: a couples counselor, premarital counselor, individual therapist, and life coach who helps you activate your inner strengths to create better relationships and a fuller life. His collaborative, friendly style makes him easy to talk to, and his action-oriented mindset helps you get results.
Dr. Tuyet
Ph.D., LMFT
Committed to your Happiness and Success
Meet Dr. Tuyet: a highly compassionate and experienced licensed marriage and family therapist. Dr. Tuyet uses an evidence-based approach to equip you with the tools you need to build the life and relationship you really want. She will empower you to dig deep, take risks, and weather life's transitions with ease and grace.
Alejandra P.
M.A., LMFT
Dynamic, Transformative & Compassionate
Alejandra is a true expert at nurturing your positive transformation — helping you to find happiness in your life and fulfillment within your relationships. She will help you break free from old patterns that are getting in the way of the life you want, and then chart your pathway to achieving your most important goals.
Kanya D.
M.A., LMFT
Inspired Life, Inspired Love
Kanya is a licensed marriage and family therapist, individual therapist, life coach, and parenting coach with more than 20 years of experience helping couples develop deeply loving and satisfying relationships, helping parents and families thrive, and helping individuals reclaim their happiness.
Dr. Paige M.
PhD, LMFT
Kind, Encouraging & Insightful
Dr. Paige is a friendly and enthusiastic therapist who is passionate about you living a meaningful, joy-filled life based on your true values. She's a big believer in the transformative power of vulnerability — and helping you build a brave space where you can connect deeply with the people you love most.
Ronni M.
M.A., LPCC
Illuminate Your Possibilities
Meet Ronni: a career counselor, life coach, and individual counselor with a caring personality and a flare for adventure. Whether you want to embark on a new career path, work on personal growth goals, or pursue greater life satisfaction, she’s here to support and motivate you to create positive change.
What Our Clients Say
“‘Our therapist is compassionate, kind, understanding, and offers pearls of wisdom that are targeted exactly for what I am experiencing. I’ve seen several counselors over the years and she is top notch!”
“Dr. Rachel was great. She was very easy to talk to and understanding. She made me feel comfortable talking to her.”
Rachel D.
“She is very quick to adapt. She is also very insightful into reading the emotions behind the words I’m saying and tackling those issues. She makes sure during each session that I am comfortable with the direction we are going in.”
“Paige has been great. Thus far she has been a good listener. We’ve started to talk about some strategies/tactics to help with what I am dealing with and I feel really good about that. I leave each session feeling refreshed and much better than I felt before speaking with her.”
Paige M.
“Lauren is an empathetic and attentive therapist who creates a safe space for her clients. Her compassionate approach and active listening skills make it easy to open up and share thoughts and feelings…I highly recommend Lauren for her professionalism and genuine care.”
Lauren R.
“She [Kathleen] has been understanding and I do not feel like I’m being judged.”
Kathleen C.
“Dori is very helpful and kind. She often sends me homework to do between sessions. I feel like she doesn’t judge me and is very patient with talking about similar themes I’m struggling with each week. I tend to hold back but I’m feeling very comfortable talking about soo many things with Dori.”
Dori B.
“Silas communicated well and got to the heart of the matter while still being personable approachable and easy to talk to.”
Silas H.
“My therapist was extremely helpful throughout our process. She helped me realize my overall self worth more than I previously had and the worksheets we did really helped point out those qualities that I can show potential partners, along with really determining what I’m looking for.”
“Seth is fantastic, really listens and addresses issues in an effective way. Very kind, understanding and non judgemental. Easy to talk to.”
Seth B.
“My clinician helped me organize the many issues I am facing which allowed me to work on each. She pulled me out from being under water in an ocean of grief and I am so grateful to her!”
“I would highly recommend her. She’s a great listener, offers a kind perspective, and makes you feel warm and welcomed.”
Josephine M.
“Sara was awesome. Warm, intelligent, empathetic, encouraging.”
Sara S.
“Jennifer is a phenomenal listener and excellent in her communication with me. I am realizing that to be happy in a relationship, I must first be happy with myself. Jennifer is helping me to understand me. I believe this path of discovery is very important for me at this time. I am thankful for the opportunity to work with Jennifer.”
Jennifer C.
“I love her, she was honestly amazing and seemed like a friend. You found a star here.”
Georgi C.
“Seth is great. Very nice and compassionate. He does a good job of creating an open environment.”
Seth B.
“Kathleen has exceeded my expectation. I appreciate the judgement-free space she creates. She gave me perspective on issues I described. I love the way her brain makes connections. Also helpful: “homework.””
Kathleen C.
“My therapist truly seemed to care and I felt a connection where it was easy to communicate. In a short amount of time, I truly think she can help me get things sorted out.”
“My therapist is amazing and a very skilled therapist.”
“I felt that Whitney was very sincere and that she genuinely wanted to help me get through things.”
Whitney C.
“If you feel like you’re struggling with something in your life you probably are. Don’t downplay it and convince yourself it isn’t a problem. Doing sessions with Dori has helped me a lot already. I’m able to feel happier and understand my limitations and how to work on them. Thinking back a few weeks and comparing them I’m already seeing a big difference in my life and thoughts.”
Dori B.
“I consider it a privilege to have worked with my clinician, and would highly recommend her to anyone. She is a genuine gift to the mental health community and to those suffering from any sort of personal conflict.”
“Brittany leveraged different methods. Is very receptive to what “state” I’m in that day when I see her and focuses on what I need. She also listens, but questions where I need to think differently, or have a perspective I haven’t considered. Her overall ability to “be there” with the situation is something I really respect.”
Brittany S.
“I am incredibly grateful I sought her [Kathleen’s] help and the “coaching” style, as opposed to traditional talk therapy, helped me immensely. It made me feel normal, relatable, and like I had control again and made better choices.”
Kathleen C.
“Meagan asks me questions that make me see something in a different light that helps me understand my feelings and reactions better.”
Meagan Terry
“Our therapist is very patient and attentive while I try to explain myself. And she has good feedback without sounding preachy or condescending.”
“We’ve only had two sessions but I feel positive that real change can happen based on some very tangible exercises she has taught me.”
“Brittany models compassion for me and invites me to feel my feelings. This helps me to remember to make space for feeling and self-compassion in my life. I think there is still a lot of work to do before I’ve reached my goals and I feel we are making progress.”
Brittany S.
Connect With Us
Begin your journey of growth by requesting a free consultation meeting with the expert of your choice. Not sure who to work with? Let us know your hopes and goals. We’ll provide customized recommendations about which experts would be a good fit, and help you schedule your first free consultation.From Heartbreak to Healing: Your Next Chapter Starts Here
How to Get Over a Breakup — For Good.
There are nine distinct stages of healing after relationship loss. If you miss one, you’ll get stuck. Dr. Lisa’s one-of-a-kind, comprehensive system guides you productively through all, with the support of group coaching and 1:1 sessions. Learn more about How to Heal From Heartbreak →
How Long To Get Over a Breakup? Find Out.
When will you finally get over your breakup, and be emotionally free from your ex? How over your ex are you? What’s your breakup recovery timeline? What do YOU need to do next, in order to move forward? Access Dr. Lisa’s confidential, free Breakup Quiz here, and find out →
Online Breakup and Divorce Support Group
You’re not alone. Heal your heart in our positive, affirming online breakup and divorce support group, with weekly group coaching led by an experienced divorce and breakup recovery counselor, plus 24/7 access to an affirming community of support. Learn more about Dr. Bobby’s Heartbreak Growth Collective →
Get Relationship Clarity Through Discernment Counseling
Should you end this? Or is there still hope for your relationship? Find out, and get the clarity and confidence you need to move forward, through a special (rare) type of couples work designed for this. Learn about discernment counseling →
You’re Not Alone In This: Let Us Help You
We have so many ways to support you during this difficult time including structured programs, group coaching, and 1:1 private sessions. Which path is right for you? Have a free consultation, to discuss your situation, your options, and the best path forward. Schedule Your Free Consultation →
Need Encouragement? Perspective? Guidance? It’s Here: Free Divorce & Breakup Advice
You’re going through a painful time, and Dr. Lisa is here for you. Get her guidance for free, right now in this curated podcast playlist and content collection she put together just for you. Access her Healing From Heartbreak Collection →
Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love
Why is it so hard to let go, even when you know you should? In her award-winning “Exaholics” book, Dr. Lisa explains why, and illuminates the path forward towards emotional liberation, growth, and recovery. Get your copy of Exaholics, right here →
Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Ex — And How to Break Free
Can you ever stop loving someone? Want to know how to get over an ex? Learn how to stop thinking about someone so you can move on.
What It Really Takes To Get Over Someone: The Stages of a Breakup
Withdrawal, grieving, growing, rebuilding: Understanding the stages of recovery are vital to your healing process after a divorce. Learn about the stages of breakup recovery…
Yes, You Can Create an Amicable Divorce
You’re divorcing, and your biggest fear is what will happen to the kids. How can you make this as okay as possible for them? Learn how to achieve an amicable divorce →
Stop a Divorce
The threat of divorce can actually be a turning point for a marriage if you understand how to use it as an opportunity to foster healing. In this podcast, learn how to stop a divorce →
Why Do You Keep Going Back? Are You Addicted to a Toxic Relationship?
Profoundly unhealthy relationships can be the hardest to get over. Find out if you’re addicted to a toxic relationship.
When to Call It Quits
Is there still hope for your relationship, or is it best to part ways? Learn the signs that growth and healing are possible, vs. signs it’s time to call it quits in a relationship →
How to Leave a Toxic Relationship, With Dignity
Learn why it’s so hard to leave a toxic relationship, and the things you can do to empower and support yourself in your journey to emotional empowerment.