Healthy Boundaries: The Holiday Edition
The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
HEALTHY BOUNDARIES = HAPPY HOLIDAYS
So many wonderful things are possible during the holidays: quiet time to expand our souls, the chance to embrace generosity and good will, opportunities to enjoy the warmth of our families and friends, and be grateful for the wonderful relationships in our lives.
But many counseling and life coaching clients suffer through this season, becoming increasingly frazzled, resentful, and hurt with every new disappointing interaction, extra commitment, and unrealistic expectation put on them. (And often, feeling most hurt and put-upon by the people who should love them the best).
I’ve been a marriage and family therapist for a loooong time now, and there is one thing I consistently see in people who do NOT have a good time over the holidays: Bad boundaries in relationships. Learning to set healthy boundaries can help you manage tricky family situations over the holidays before they begin.
When Boundaries Are a Problem Over The Holidays
- When Boundaries Are Too Soft: When people are too passive and don’t speak up about their needs and feelings, they often wind up feeling put-upon, mistreated, or disrespected by family members, children, friends or partners, and resentments brew.
- When Boundaries Are Too Hard: When people are too rigid and inflexible with their boundaries, they often feel tense, stressed out, and irritable by all the assaults to their preferences that this season can fling. Furthermore, friends and family members may feel put-upon, mistreated or disrespected by them — and it creates unnecessary conflict.
- When Boundaries Are Not Considered: When people aren’t self-aware and clear about their own limits and struggle to hold healthy boundaries with themselves, they overcommit time and energy, have unrealistic expectations of themselves, over-indulge in unhealthy ways, and are prone to overspending. This leaves them feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, exhausted, and emotionally and financially depleted by the time New Year’s rolls around. Not fun at all.
Because these kinds of boundary problems are so common (and so darn avoidable, with advance planning) I thought I’d put together some holiday-specific boundary advice for you.
Listen and learn specific, actionable tips and tools that you can use to set healthy limits with yourself and others, and also be selectively flexible.
I sincerely hope that it helps you stay in a good place over the next month, and enhance all the wonderful moments that this season has to offer.
All the best to YOU this holiday season…
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Healthy Boundaries: The Holiday Edition
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Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is a licensed psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, board-certified coach, AAMFT clinical supervisor, host of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast and founder of Growing Self.
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