How to Achieve Your Most Ambitious Goals
Achieving Ambitious Goals is a Journey…
If you’re feeling a little discouraged right now, I have two really important things to tell you: First of all, you’re not alone. Everyone (everyone!) who attempts ambitious goals encounters obstacles along the way. When you try and make big changes, you start off with high hopes, lots of motivation and energy, and then… drift off the path. Totally normal and expected.
Secondly, this “drift” experience is not just normal — it’s good. I know, I know. When you try something new and then don’t stick to “the plan” it feels like you’ve failed. But really: This is not the moment to slink away in defeat. THIS is the moment to double-down, and dig in.
Having things not work is a gift, one that offers you insight and crucial information… as long as you’re open to it. Making a change and then having the experience of whether or not it works is the reality-based information you require to learn, grow, and revise your approach. Having something not work out the first time is simply an invitation to go deeper, and figure out what achieving your most ambitious goals *actually* requires.
New idea: Having the experience of “failure” is what success actually feel like, in practice. (As long as you keep going!)
How to Achieve Ambitious Goals (Really)
The true path forward — the one that’s hard-won through trial, error, and lots of experimentation — is typically not at all like the path forward we imagined in our heads, before we began taking action.
If you started the new year with ambitious goals and aspirations that are already on life-support, or have been abandoned altogether: CONGRATULATIONS. Only now do you have the real-world information you need to reassess your situation, gain more clarity, and tweak your approach.
To help you figure out how to achieve your most important goals for real, I’ve invited master life coach Laurie Gerber of The Handel Groupto share her tips for how to use setbacks to understand yourself more deeply, and shine a spotlight on the mental, emotional and practical strategies that will help you achieve your most ambitious goals.
Listen and learn:
- How creating multidimensional, holistic self-awareness can help you uncover blindspots that could otherwise become obstacles.
- Why the obvious path to change is often not effective (and what often unseen things actually are)
- How to get your thoughts, feelings and behavior into alignment
- Different ways of thinking that will help you stay motivated over the long haul
I hope that this conversation helps YOU dig deeper, get into alignment, and get clarity about where to refocus your energy.
PS: We discussed a number of resources in this episode. One of them is our free Ten Year Plan exercise. If you haven’t done this yet, here’s the link to get the pdf or access to the online version.
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Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is the founder and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching. She’s the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love,” and the host of The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast.
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Self-love is the most important aspect that everyone should follow. Everything will fall into place later.
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