How to Stop Beating Yourself Up

The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Music Credits: The Lovable Tulips, “Beating Up”

Do you beat yourself up? Criticize yourself? Pass judgment upon yourself? Have a running commentary in your head about all your mistakes, faults, and shortcomings?

Even worse, when you DO do something kind of awesome, does this inner bully slap it down and tell you why it doesn’t really matter?

I can’t tell you how many times, in my role as a Denver therapist and online life coach, I’ve articulated the above questions out loud to a client sitting in front of me… only to have his or her eyes suddenly brim over with tears: they’ve just been seen.

When You Feel Like You’re Never Doing Enough…

My clients are trying so hard to be good, likable, loveable, and worthy — and they are. They absolutely are. But they don’t feel like it. They beat themselves up, nonstop.

They might work harder, do more, achieve something even more spectacular, but they always find something to criticize. Other people tell them they’re great, but they don’t feel it. It’s never *quite* good enough. It’s like a bottomless pit — no matter what they do, or how much approval they get, they still beat themselves up. 

It’s so painful. It’s so exhausting. It’s also so common — especially in high-achieving, successful types (ironically). Yes, the people who seem pretty darn close to perfect in the eyes of others are often the ones struggling the most to feel peaceful and self-accepting. [Read: The Problem With Perfectionism and  Overcoming Perfectionism]

Can you relate? Do you feel like you’re never doing enough? Or like you have to be perfect, but even when you are, it could still be better? If so, the latest episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast is for you. We’re going to be talking about how to stop beating yourself up, even (and especially) if you’re going through life circumstances that make you more vulnerable to beating yourself up.

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How to Stop Beating Yourself Up

Specifically, we’re discussing:

  • Why You Beat Yourself Up
  • How to silence your inner critic
  • How to stop beating yourself up for mistakes
  • How to stop beating yourself up over the little things
  • How to stop beating yourself up for past mistakes that feel big
  • How to stop beating yourself up over mistakes at work
  • How to stop beating yourself up after a breakup
  • How to stop beating yourself up emotionally
  • How to stop beating yourself up for not being perfect

Listen to this episode to learn how to start pushing back against this “inner bully” so that you can cultivate self-compassion, feel less insecure, feel good about yourself, and take pride in your many accomplishments so that you can own your awesome.

You are worth it! 

All the best,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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How to Stop Beating Yourself Up

The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Music Credits: The Lovable Tulips, “Beating Up”

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