How to Get Over Your Ex
How to Get Over Your Ex
How to Get Over Your Ex
Getting over anything is easier said than done, let alone an ex that you just can’t seem to stop thinking about. As a Denver-based breakup recovery expert and breakup therapist, I have seen this firsthand on countless occasions. So, today we are going to talk about how to heal a broken heart when it comes to your ex.
We will talk about subjects such as how to deal when your ex moves on (ouch, I know), how to stop obsessing about your ex’s new relationship, and whether or not you are an Exaholic. While the idea of getting back together with your ex might seem like a good one at times, we are going to talk about why and how you should work to get over your ex.
The truth is, your breakup was probably a good thing. So, let’s get you started on the healing process!
‘Getting Over It’- What Is An Exaholic?
Last week I spent a delightful evening doing an online chat with some of the members of Exaholics.com. If you haven’t heard about Exaholics, it’s an online community for people who are struggling in the aftermath of a breakup. I’ve been involved with them from the beginning and have done a lot of writing and consulting for them.
Anyway – it’s a fantastic site. But when I was chatting with these Exaholics members the other day it seemed like the theme of the conversation was “why do I keep thinking about my ex, and how do I stop feeling so obsessed and tormented?”
It made me think that an instructive podcast on the subject of “How to Get Over Your Ex” was highly overdue.
So on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, we’re going to be talking about this ubiquitous problem of obsessing about your ex, not being able to let go, and what you can do about it. Listen now to learn how to get over your ex… and start enjoying your life again.
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Episode Highlights:
- Being Stuck on a Break-up
- If you cling on to hope that you may recover your relationship, you’ll never be able to move on.
- Love as an Addiction
- Falling in love is much like developing an addiction.
- As such, moving on from a break-up feels like going through withdrawal.
- So, know that longing for your ex is normal. However, you can move this process along.
- Have a Funeral for Your Feelings
- In many ways, a break-up is like a death.
- However, there is still a chance for you to resurrect your relationship.
- To move on, you must first accept that it’s over.
- Grieve your loss by holding a funeral for your relationship.
- Remember, any contact with your ex is not okay.
- Focus on the parts of your relationship that did not work.
- Techniques for Managing Your Thoughts
- Practice mindfulness: If you’re having intrusive thoughts regarding your break-up, connect to the present moment through your physical senses.
- Try the stop-and-replace technique: if you find yourself thinking about your ex, stop and replace it with a different thought.
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is the founder and clinical director of Growing Self. She is a licensed psychologist, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a board-certified coach, as well as the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love,” and the host of The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast.
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