What is self love and why is self love so important?
“Self Love” refers to our ability to hold ourselves in esteem and have confidence in our worth, no matter what happens around us.
As a therapist and personal growth coach, I get to work with clients on this very subject, and today I have some tips and education for you about what self love is.
Allow me to give you an example of the importance of self love and how the lack of self love can negatively impact you.
The Importance of Self Love
Does this sound familiar? You feel like angry gremlins are coming at you, you’re exhausted from hauling the weight of the world on your shoulders, you’ve got this imaginary ball and chain locked around your ankle, and you’re at your wits end from constantly dodging emotional bullets that are aimed right at your head and heart!
The truth is, you may not be facing emotional attacks from an outside force. But when you’re feeling vulnerable or insecure, inner attacks can feel just as deadly as external ones. These are all issues we can experience when our self-love tank is running on empty and our self-hate tank is topped off and running on full throttle.
The way we feel about ourselves impacts our relationships, our careers, how much money we make, how people perceive us, and the amount of happiness we’re able to feel.
Many of the issues that people struggle with, such as depression, anxiety, and relationship issues, are really symptoms of a lack of self love and disconnection from their true authentic self. When people feel insecure, they can worry, feel sad, or even lash out. In contrast when you feel confident and embracing of the real you, those bad feelings are less likely to arise.
Here’s a quick “self-love” quiz:
- Do you believe that it is your job to define your own worth and lovability and no one else’s OR do you believe your self-worth is based on how people feel about you?
- When you make a mistake are you able to be compassionate with yourself and learn from the situation, OR do you beat yourself up?
- Do you feel guilty for taking care of yourself, OR do you practice self-care on a regular basis?
Your self love will increase if you begin to see who you really are, rather than seeing yourself through all the false beliefs and distortions.
As adults, we need to take responsibility for knowing who we really are. When we are able to embrace this responsibility, then we know we are connected to our authentic or truest self. At the very essence of who we really are is a deep reservoir for our capacity to love, experience joy and compassion.
Reminding yourself that you are a good person, worthy of love and respect, will help you swat away the false beliefs telling you otherwise.
Here are 3 positive affirmations for self-love, to help guide you towards expressing your true authentic self
- “I don’t allow other people to define who I am.”
- “The worth of my true authentic self is intact, unchanging, and cannot be taken away from me.”
- “My self-worth is not based on my performance or how others think of me.”
3 Ways To Cultivate Self Love
- Be kind to yourself as you learn to apply these principles of self-love into your daily living.
- Believe in yourself as you open your heart to the magnificence of who you truly are.
- Allow yourself to be curious as you learn to raise the level of joy in your tank of self-love.
When you work with an experienced therapist or life coach, you can understand the roots of self-worth issues, and begin building yourself up from the inside out. When you feel good about yourself, you’ll feel not just happier but more empowered in your life and your relationships.
I believe you deserve that, and I hope that you do too.
Ready to Grow?
Begin With a Free Consultation.
Therapy Questions, Answered.
Support For Your Growth
Our expert therapists have generously created an entire library of articles, activities, and podcasts to support you on your journey of growth. Please visit our “Happiness Collections” to browse our content collections, and take advantage of all the free resources we have for you. Or, if you’d like to educate yourself about the process and logistics of therapy, please help yourself to our “therapy questions” knowledge base below. It’s all for you!
Therapy Works, But How?
Great therapy can feel like magic, but it’s actually not. Learn how meaningful and effective therapy works.
Do I Need Therapy?
Wondering if your issues going to work themselves out, or is it time to talk to a professional? Here’s how to tell when it’s time for therapy.
What is Therapy Like?
What is therapy like? Learn what happens in therapy in order to feel empowered and confident.
What Kind of Therapist Do I Need?
There are many different kinds of therapists and many different types of therapy. What kind of therapist do you need? Find out!
What To Talk About in Therapy
Not sure what to talk about in therapy? Here are some tips to ensure you get the most out of your therapy sessions.
Therapy Consultation: What to Expect
How to prepare for your first therapy appointment, and learn what to expect in therapy sessions.
Coaching vs Therapy
What’s the difference between coaching and therapy? Find out which approach is right for you.
What is Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy?
Cognitive-behavioral therapy is the “gold-standard” of effective, evidence-based therapy. Learn about CBT.
What is Talk Therapy?
How does talking about something help you make changes? Or… does it? Learn the pros and cons of traditional talk therapy.
Why Evidence-Based Therapy Matters
Effective therapy is life-changing, but some therapy is a waste of time and money. Evidence-based therapy makes the difference.
How to Find a (Good) Therapist
Not all therapists are the same. Learn how to find a good therapist (and spot the warning signs of a bad one).
Therapy for Personal Growth
There’s a difference between therapy for ”mental health treatment” and therapy for personal growth. Which is right for you…
Therapy For Healthy Relationships
Working with a true relationship expert helps you learn, grow, love, and be loved.
Learn about our approach to helping you build healthy relationships.
Divorce & Breakup Recovery
Losing a relationship is uniquely painful and challenging. With the right support, you can heal, grow, and move forward. Learn about our divorce and breakup recovery services.
Guide to Online Therapy
Online therapy is just as effective but even easier than in person therapy. Here’s what to expect from good online therapy.
Explore your options for a Denver therapist who specializes in personal growth and healthy relationships.
How to Get a Therapist
Ready to try therapy? Here’s a comprehensive guide on how to get a therapist who is competent to help you.
Curious to know more about what working with us is really like? Browse Growing Self reviews / “best online therapy reviews” from our clients.
How Much Does Therapy Cost?
Good therapy is priceless, but not all therapy is valuable. Learn the cost of therapy that’s affordable and effective.
Does Insurance Cover Therapy?
Yes, insurance covers therapy… but only sometimes. Learn when (and how) health insurance covers therapy, and when it doesn’t.
Help Someone Get Help
If you have a loved one who is struggling in their relationship, you can help them get help by “gifting” therapy. Here’s how…
More Questions? Let’s Talk.
We’re available by phone, email and chat, and happy to answer any of your questions personally. Get in touch, anytime.
Start your journey of growth today. Get personalized recommendations, and have a free consultation meeting with the therapist of your choice.
[…] https://www.growingself.com/what-is-self-love/ […]