One thing I've learned as a marriage counselor is that there are fundamental differences between relationships that end, and ones that are reparable. Relationships that can be mended have higher levels of commitment, compassion, and respect than relationships that fail. And as sad as it is when couples decide to split, in many cases it's really a good thing for both partners.
Of course break-ups are hard, and often incredibly painful to go through. There is loss, and grieving to do when your heart is broken. It's especially difficult if you're not the one who called things off. You have the right to be sad and hurt.
At the same time, from my perspective of walking through the “stay or go” experience with so many people, I understand that in reality this break up was probably a blessing for you in the long run. On this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I'll share with you why this relationship needed to end, and why your life will be better for it.
Listen Now, and Learn Why Your Break Up Was a Good Thing.
Music Credits: “Pearl” from Throwing Muses.
I just wanted to thank you so much for this podcast, it was like you were speaking directly to me. I moved across the country for my boyfriend of 3 years (at the time) and a year later, we break up. He works so much and our fundamental issue was that he never made time for me and always privatized work over me. I knew we weren’t happy but I held on hoping eventually things would get better but they never did. He ended it, and I think it was the best thing for me even though we have to live together for a little while. I realize now that I deserve better and that I should be with someone who loves and values me. When I get sad and lonely, I re-listen to this and I feel like we made the right decision.
Hi Charmaine, I’m so glad to hear that this podcast has been helpful to you. It can be hard to find the “growth opportunity” in a bad breakup, but it sounds like you have. Never forget that you are worthy of love and respect!! xo, Lisa
I just gave birth 7 months ago,
My husband decided he wants a divorce now…because I took off the veil.
He only lived with us for 1 month.
I am heartbroken
I tried to talk and msg him but he isn’t answering.
He left the house.
He called my brother
And he doesn’t want to sit…he just wants a divorce.
I’m shattered.
I feel I am not there for my daughter. I’m so overwhelmed.
Egyptian girl… I’m so sorry. I have no idea what may be going on with your husband. What I do know is that you need to focus on getting support for yourself and your daughter. I would encourage you to get in touch with a therapist locally. Are there postpartum support groups available in your area? If you haven’t already I hope that you research services available in your area. A good place to start might be to contact a local hospital, your midwife, or a family services center.
It’s so hard to take care of a baby under any circumstance, but especially when your heart is broken. If you really feel that you are not able to meet the needs of your baby, please ask for help. I hope that you surround yourself with a supportive group of people who can sustain you emotionally through this difficult time, as you care for your daughter and make a new plan for your life.
Sincerely,
LMB