Emotional Intelligence: How to Be ‘Good With People’
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Emotional Intelligence: How to Be ‘Good with People’
In a world that often prioritizes intellectual prowess and technical skills, emotional intelligence is often underestimated. It’s the key to having meaningful relationships, feeling happy within yourself, and building a successful career.
Let’s explore what emotional intelligence is, why it has such a profound impact on our lives, and the practical ways to enhance your emotional intelligence that I share with my therapy and coaching clients when they see me for emotional intelligence coaching.
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
So, what is emotional intelligence? Emotional intelligence refers to the capacity to recognize, understand, manage, and use your feelings effectively, to understand and manage yourself, and to connect with others. It requires several key skills, including:
- Emotional awareness — Knowing what you’re feeling.
- Managing emotions — Regulating your feelings to achieve your goals.
- Understanding and navigating the emotions of others empathetically.
These skills allow you to communicate more effectively, navigate complex social situations, and make personal decisions that lead to positive things in your life.
Emotional Intelligence: The Heart of Relationships
At the core of healthy and loving intimate relationships lies emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence helps you build strong emotional connections, helping you express your feelings openly and honestly and understand how your partner feels.
This responsiveness builds a strong connection and deep emotional intimacy. Couples with high emotional intelligence tend to resolve conflicts more effectively, as they can manage their emotions, listen empathetically, and respond in constructive ways that improve their relationship. The result is a relationship built on mutual respect, understanding, and a deep, enduring connection.
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How Emotional Intelligence Makes You Happier
Emotional intelligence is also closely linked to greater contentment and happiness. By mastering the art of emotional regulation, you can navigate life’s ups and downs more smoothly, maintaining a positive outlook even in the face of obstacles.
Emotional intelligence empowers you to savor the positive moments and find joy in everyday interactions. The self-awareness component of emotional intelligence allows for a stronger sense of self, helping you align your actions with your values and create a more fulfilling and authentic life.
Success in the Workplace
In the workplace, emotional intelligence is the skill that sets good performers apart from great performers, especially when it comes to leadership.
Having higher emotional intelligence helps you work as part of a team, promoting respect and understanding with your coworkers. It helps you view potential setbacks as opportunities for growth, rather than becoming discouraged and unmotivated. Emotional intelligence makes you more adaptable and resilient, which are traits you need to manage rapidly changing workplace dynamics.
Leaders with high emotional intelligence inspire, motivate, and drive their teams to achieve collective goals. They are adept at conflict resolution, active listening, building strong working relationships with colleagues, and communication — all skills that help them lead their teams to success.
Enhancing Your Emotional Intelligence
So, how can you reap the benefits of improved emotional intelligence? Here are several strategies that will help you raise your emotional intelligence:
- Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness techniques help you develop emotional awareness, allowing you to tune into your “emotional guidance system,” recognize and understand your feelings and your reactions.
- Reflect on Emotions: Regular reflection on your feelings can improve your understanding of how they influence your thoughts and actions.
- Develop Empathy: Actively trying to see things from others’ perspectives can enhance your ability to connect with their feelings and improve your relationships.
- Manage Stress: Learning and implementing effective stress management techniques can help you regulate emotions and prevent negative spirals.
While self-help strategies can improve emotional intelligence, partnering with a therapist who practices the unique specialty of emotional intelligence coaching is a game-changer. We offer a structured approach to understanding and developing emotional intelligence, tailored to your specific needs.
A therapist who practices emotional intelligence coaching can provide a safe space to explore your patterns, your past experiences, and your current challenges. This work can help you heal emotional wounds, develop a healthier relationship with your feelings, form stronger relationships with others, and experience greater emotional wellbeing.
Career counselors who specialize in emotional intelligence coaching can be invaluable if your goal is to improve leadership skills, navigate workplace challenges, or get ahead in your career. And professional growth is personal growth, which means the benefits will spill over into your personal life as well.
If you’d like to get started with an expert emotional intelligence coach on my team, I invite you to schedule a free consultation.
With love,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
P.S. — You can find more advice on building your emotional intelligence in my “Emotional Intelligence” collection of articles and podcasts. It’s all there for you!
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