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How to Be a Force of Good in The World

How to Be a Force of Good in The World

Your efforts matter more than you know…

In the special space that exists between the end of one year and the start of another, we have time to pause. To rest. To reflect. For many, it’s the time of year when we think about who we were and what we learned in the previous year, and set our sights on who we want to be and what we want accomplish in the next. We’re releasing our old selves, and getting ready to embrace fresh, new incarnations.

As a life coach, I’m all about helping you achieve your goals and make great things happen in your life. But today, on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast I’m taking advantage of this “quiet time” to tell you a little story about the kinds of powerful and amazing things that can happen when we set our intention on something even larger than our own personal gain: being a force of good in the world.

I believe that everything we do reverberates into the lives of others, to a greater extent than we even know. When you are radiating compassion, empathy and kindness, it has an impact. As you reflect on your life this past year, and set your goals for the next, I hope that this personal story inspires you to also never forget how important you are and how even the littlest things you do can have a profoundly positive impact on the lives of others.

As you create your intentions for this coming year I hope that you carry this idea with you, and that it helps you become a powerful force of good in this troubled world.

Wishing you all good things in 2017…
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

How To Be a Force of Good in The World

by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby | Love, Happiness & Success

Music: “Cappriccio Stravagante: Adagio,” by Carlos Farina from the album “Celestial Christmas”

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Free Dating Advice: Vegas Buffet Style

Free Dating Advice: Vegas Buffet Style

Everything you ever wanted to know about successful modern dating. And so. much. more.

Curious to know the best Tinder lines?
Or how to be interesting (but not weird) when you’re starting an online conversation?
What about how to gracefully brush off a mis-match in the early stages?
Look no further than DatingAdvice.com. This website has over a million monthly visitors, and brings together free advice from dating experts all over the world (including my pal Dating Coach Julie Spira). It is the dating advice website equivalent of a Las Vegas buffet: Everything you ever wanted, including information you didn’t even know you needed until you saw it in front of you.

Anticipating the needs of another is elevated to an art by the very best curators, chefs and editors who seem to know your needs better than you do, always bringing you exactly the right thing at the perfect time. So when the prescient editors of the site recently reached out to me, interested in doing a feature piece on Growing Self’s approach to Love, Life and Career Coaching, I was beyond flattered.

Our holistic approach to coaching is being noticed because we offer comprehensive help to our clients in much the same way: anticipating their needs in various domains of life. We believe that good coaching involves a whole person approach that supports people through all stages of their lives. From figuring out who you are, to identifying (and overcoming) unhelpful patterns in the way you approach life, to establishing healthy relationships, to keeping a marriage healthy and strong, to performing at your highest levels in your career, and negotiating major life transitions like letting go of an unhealthy relationship, getting married, or becoming a family... we’re here for you.

We do so much because we know that you don’t climb the peak of one mountain and then stop. You climb to the top, and look around to see what’s next– a new adventure, a new goal, or a more actualized level of being. There is always the next level: after the engagement, after the move, after the promotion, or after the birth, life shifts — and you shift with it. You are constantly growing and evolving.

More importantly, you are not a one dimensional, singularly-focused person with only one important thing in your life. You are a fellow traveler on the path of a fuller, richer, happier life and we both know that your “success” is much deeper than a title or a paycheck. You care about the quality of your experiences, the legacy you leave behind, and are willing to invest in a life worth having. When you don’t have all the answers (and who does?) you’re smart enough to enlist the support of a wise guide who has gone through this particular patch of terrain before.

I just wanted to say thank you for trusting us to help you competently, with the most important things in your life: Your marriage, your relationships, your career, your family, and yourself. We work hard every day to make sure that our clients have great experiences with us — in the easiest, most convenient, and affordable way possible. My goal is for every client who ends their work with us to say, “That was one of the best things I’ve ever done.” And I’m so pleased to be recognized for our efforts by the internet powerhouse DatingAdvice.com.

I sense a kindred spirit in DatingAdvice.com. The breadth of the information they have to offer is enormous, and it’s all free. They have authors, experts, and columnists who give their best advice on all things dating. Whether you want tips on how to take a better profile photo, or how to craft a personal statement that is truly you, or how to negotiate the delicate first steps of what may be the most important “dance” of your life — you’ll find it at DatingAdvice.com.

The World Is a Better Place Because You Are In It.

The World Is a Better Place Because You Are In It.

Your Efforts Matter More Than You May Ever Know.

My friend Ambra has been struggling. She’s a Denver psychologist who works with severely traumatized children and their families. Every day, she is fighting against an ocean of pain and darkness to save the lives of children. It’s like she’s in a life-raft of support and compassion, and straining to haul dozens of drowning, desperate kids on board. She knows that if she gets them in to the boat, they will have a better future. But the boat is leaky, she is only one person, and she can’t save them all. She agonizes over the ones she watches slip under: The ones that seem broken beyond repair, or who are trapped in toxic inter-generational systems of depravity that are too strong for her to break. Some days she doubts herself. Lately she feels like she’s loosing the battle.

why you matterI think of Ambra as I look at the photo on my kitchen counter, the one propped up beside a small painting that I recently bought at a fundraiser. It’s of a proud young woman, Gayla, holding up the painting that I now own. She’s a disabled orphan who lives in a group home in Armenia. Her painting has rosy pinks and blues glowing in a mystical tree of life on a summer’s day. It’s beautiful. I plan to hang it in my second child’s room, should I ever be so lucky to have another.

The only reason that this painting exists is because someone working in an Armenian orphanage cared enough to try and start a group home for disabled, orphaned adults to move in to after they aged out of the state orphanage. Their efforts rescued Gayla from the dirty, cold psychiatric hospital that would have been her only other option, and gave her a home. They raised donations from kind strangers to have an art teacher come in to teach weaving and painting, and buy her art supplies.

Now Gayla gets to sit by a sunny window, in a big house with a tree outside. She is with people who love her. She has a teddy bear on her bed, in a room she shares with her friends. She is happy because of the love that surrounds her. Her happiness rippled out through her heart to her hands to the paper, to me. It makes me feel happy to think about the possibility that a baby — my baby — might someday gaze up from a crib and absorb the beautiful message of love that came straight from Gayla’s heart. It brings me hope.

The efforts of all the volunteers who helped Gayla have rippled out far beyond their original intention. They are now touching my life in a way that they probably never even considered. The truth is that everything we do rings an energetic bell that reverberates into the lives of others, even though we may not understand how. Our efforts matter.

For every child that Ambra has lost, swirled away into the darkness, she’s lifted countless others into her boat without even realizing it. Just the fact that she cares enough to try matters. Her presence in young lives allows them to experience small moments of love and goodness that shift something inside of them. Simple time in a safe space with a kind person becomes a soft tone that counters the harsh ringing of abuse that has been echoing in their families for generations. I believe that she is starting a new vibration in psyches that will reverberate and expand into subtle positive changes throughout their life, and which may ripple out into the lives of their eventual children, and their children’s children.

Long after Ambra’s time in this world has ended babies will be born with more peace and stability in their lives because of her efforts today, even though she feels like she is failing in the present. She matters, even if she doesn’t always feel like it.

And so it is with you. Even though you may never witness the fruit of the seeds that you plant today doesn’t mean they don’t matter. Everything you do that is loving, generous, and helpful ripples out into the world, touching other people and making it a better place. The simple act of attempting to be decent, matters. Every time you practice patience, compassion, and love, it rings like a bell and spreads out to people that you may never meet, but who benefit from your kindness in mysterious and unexpected ways that you may never know.

Every moment is an opportunity to be fair, kind, and merciful. Every day is a new chance for you to be a dynamic center of love that touches other people. The world is already a better place because of your efforts. The world is a better place because you are in it.

With love and gratitude,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

 

P.S. If you are interested, you can learn more about The Society for Orphaned Armenian Relief (SOAR) at http://www.soar-us.org/

P.P.S. You can learn more about the practice of Dr. Ambra Born, the best damn child psychologist in Northern Colorado, at www.reachinghope.org

How to Create Peace, Love and Empathy

How to Create Peace, Love and Empathy

Why do bad things happen?

I don’t know. But I do know that all of our life experiences, when used intentionally, can help us create more peace, love and empathy.

Peace, Love and Empathy

Today on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast we’re talking about the life of Kurt Cobain, and how he taught us about the power of simple empathy.

Kurt was a troubled man, but we can learn from his story about how everything we experience matters when we use it to connect with others. Through understanding yourself, you can understand others. And if you can communicate empathy, you can bring connection to conflict, bring peace to pain, and bring meaning to suffering.

Listen, and learn the simple ideas you can practice that will help you cultivate more peace, love and empathy in your life… and make your own little corner of the world a better place.

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Music Credits: “Something In The Way” by Nirvana

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