Is Your Relationship Just… Off?

Have you been feeling worried about your relationship? Are you feeling resentful, or angry with your partner? Are you feeling hurt, or shut out? Do you feel like the person who should be your number one fan has recently turned into a source of pain and frustration?

If so, you’re not alone. All couples go through ups and downs, and drifting apart (and then coming back together again) is what it means to be in a long term relationship. But it still feels yucky when it’s happening. And if disconnection and negativity has been going on for awhile, it can begin to make you feel worried that there may be more serious problems under the surface.

Furthermore, it’s hard to know how to reconnect when negativity has taken hold of your relationship. Every time you try to reach out and patch things up, it seems like a new hurt or disappointment is always bubbling up to the surface. It’s enough to make you start to feel helpless.

I’m here to help, and give you advice for how to get back on track with each other.

And listen — I don’t want to scare you — but the time to act is now. January is the most common time of year for breakups and divorces. People can grit their teeth and endure things to “get through the holidays” and then fueled by hopeful resolutions for a happier new year sweep a relationship out right along with the tinsel lint and brown pine needles.

My very first piece of advice? If you’re really worried about your relationship, pay attention to your intuition. Do things now to help show your partner that it can get better. Your putting effort and energy into your relationship NOW gives you the opportunity to turn things around before one of you starts to lose hope.

Let’s Talk About How To Fix Your Relationship

On today’s episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m putting on my Marriage Counselor hat, and will be giving you some advice that will help you figure out whether this “rough patch” is an indication of something serious (or not) and what you can do to get things back on track.

We’re discussing the most common types of relationship disconnections, and some actionable advice that you can use in each situation to begin establishing open lines of communication, repairing hurt feelings, and solving problems together.

Improve Your Communication

I’ll also be following up over the next few weeks with two “Communication 101” guides that will help you handle a partner who tends to withdraw and avoid talking about things, plus a tutorial on what to do with a partner who seems angry or critical.
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What To Do When You’re Worried About Your Relationship: Listen Now

Music Credits: Arcade Fire, “Afterlife”

Next week on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast: Unconditional love — what it means, and how to cultivate it in your life.