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Expert Premarital Counseling

DTC • Greenwood Village • Centennial • Parker • Aurora • Online

Premarital Counseling: The Secret of Strong, Happy Marriages.

Couples in Colorado spend on average over $15,000 on their weddings. But only a few invest in the most important part: How to have a strong, healthy, happy marriage once the party is over.  Most couples who do get premarital counseling often do so as an after-thought, or as a requirement of being married in their church or synagogue. They have a few perfunctory meetings with a clergy person, and call it good.

Unfortunately, as a result, many couples get married without having learned the basics of creating a happy, healthy, sustainable marriage. When couples don’t know how to prevent conflict, they run into trouble. Worst yet, when problems start coming up, they don’t know what to do to fix it. Some then come to marriage counseling for help. Some, sadly, get divorced. But you don’t have to be a statistic. You can be proactive about getting the skills and strategies to create a lifetime of love together.

The premarital counselors of Growing Self know that great relationships don’t just happen. Long term relationships require skills: Great communication, strong teamwork, shared hopes and dreams, and daily action to show each other love and respect. These beautiful things only happen when couples are thoughtful, and intentional about learning how to be the very best partners for each other.

As marriage counselors, we often work with couples who are on the brink of divorce. We see the sadness and tragedy that happens when couples don’t learn these vital relationship skills. We also know what it really takes to have a fantastic, healthy marriage. So that is why we make prevention of relationship problems — through excellent, effective premarital counseling — a priority of our practice.

Our Premarital Counseling Options

Because we care so deeply about the success of your marriage, we have three fantastic options for premarital counseling at Growing Self.


OUR LIFETIME OF LOVE PREMARITAL AND RELATIONSHIP CLASS is an affordable, six hour, information-packed class led by one of our expert premarital counselors. You’ll learn the fundamentals of strong relationships, communication skills, how to avoid conflict, how to create agreement, and how to get on the same page. Enroll today — our classes sell out fast!



OUR STRATEGIC “I DO!” PREMARITAL PROGRAM gives you both privacy and structure. Your premarital counselor will give you access to a relationship assessment that maps out your current strengths and growth opportunities. Then you’ll meet privately with your premarital counselor for 3-5 sessions to resolve any issues and learn new skills.


OUR PRIVATE PREMARITAL COUNSELING SERVICES allow you to talk about your relationship honestly, and strengthen your bond and commitment before embarking on the adventure of marriage together. You’ll meet privately with an expert premarital counselor who will help you resolve issues, and learn the skills and strategies for a successful marriage.



WE TAILOR OUR APPROACH TO MEET YOUR NEEDS. Want to take our Lifetime of Love class, and maybe also have a couple of private sessions? No problem. Prefer to do our structured “I DO” program, but need to talk about a few unique circumstances too? That is completely okay. Let us know what you want and we’ll accommodate you. Just ask.


No, premarital counseling is not a requirement to get married, and it’s an easy to prioritize other expenses instead. However, just like what happens when you disregard other essentials (exercise, nutrition, sleep) the consequences caused by not investing in premarital education are much harder and more expensive to treat than they are to prevent…. Read more


The cost of high-quality premarital counseling can vary depending on who you see, how many sessions you require, and the format you choose. If you’re on a budget and looking for basic instruction on communication skills, getting on the same page around finances, priorities, etc. you may consider a class format. Classes tend to be most affordable and usually cost around…. Read more


Online premarital counseling can be very effective and helpful for many couples. This is especially true for long-distance couples, couples in rural areas, couples who travel, and very busy professionals who would find it difficult (or impossible) to attend sessions otherwise. However, there are situations where online premarital counseling may not be a good idea… Read more


While the vast majority of people who engage in premarital counseling do so as a requirement of their religious organization, it is also unfortunately true that doing a worksheet or meeting a couple of times with a pastor is not sufficient to actually equip couples with the relationship skills necessary to manage inevitable conflict, communicate well under stress, and… Read more

Best Yet? We’re Easy To Work With.

We’re Convenient

  • Day, evening & weekend appointments.
  • Our DTC office is convenient to Greenwood Village, Centennial, Parker, Aurora, & Englewood.
  • We have additional locations in Denver (Cherry Creek) & Broomfield.
  • Travel a lot? We offer online premarital counseling too.
  • Easy online scheduling, or call our 24/7 receptionist for live help.

We’re Affordable

  • Our effective approach gets you results in fewer sessions
  • Our rates are reasonable, and we have sliding scale options
  • We can help you use your insurance
  • We accept payments from FHSAs
  • Our premarital classes are shockingly affordable
  • Our structured “I DO!” program streamlines premarital counseling, giving you a great value.



Meet a Few Of Our Relationship Experts

The marriage counselors, couples therapists and premarital counselors of Growing Self have specialized training and years of experience in helping couples reconnect. We use only evidence based strategies that have been proven by research to help you restore your strong bond, and love your relationship again.




Hunter Tolman

Hunter Tolman


Hunter is an exceptionally warm, compassionate couples counselor and therapist who has specialized training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy as well as family systems. He helps individuals gain self-awareness and move past self-limiting patterns, and helps couples achieve deeper levels of communication, connection, and commitment. He can help you both to understand yourselves, and each other, so that you can create new, positive ways of relating that heal your bond.



Amanda Schaeffer

Amanda Schaeffer


Amanda is a Marriage Counselor, Premarital Counselor and Family Therapist with a warm, gentle style that will help you both feel comfortable, respected, and understood. She has a gift for helping couples and families understand each other compassionately, feel emotionally safe, and learn how to relate in positive new ways that allow them to start enjoying each other again.




Teresa Thomas

Teresa Thomas




Teresa Thomas is a marriage counselor and couples therapist with years of experience in helping couples communicate more effectively, find new solutions to old problems, repair their strong bond, rebuild trust after affairs, successfully blend families, improve their sexual intimacy, and parent joyfully together. She is a couples therapist and parenting coach with a positive, solution focused style who specializes in helping you both make positive changes to your life, as well as to your relationship.



Meagan Terry

Meagan Terry



Meagan Terry is a relationship specialist. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over nine years of experience in helping couples reconnect, and enjoy each other again. She uses effective, evidence based forms of marriage counseling including Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy and The Gottman Method. In addition to working one-on-one with couples, she teaches our Lifetime of Love premarital and relationship class.



Seth Bender

Seth Bender



Seth Bender is a marriage and family therapist with specialized training and experience in helping couples heal their relationships, improve communication, release resentments, and achieve new levels of enjoyment and fulfillment with each other. He practices Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help you strengthen your bond, as well as positive, empowering and solution focused coaching strategies to help you both take positive action in your relationship.  



Dori Bagi

Dori Bagi



Dori is a kind, empathetic couples counselor, individual therapist, and life coach who specializes in sex therapy, and helping couples create healthy emotional and sexual intimacy. Her friendly style makes it safe to talk about anything, and her solution-focused approach helps you move past the past, and into a bright new future of intimacy and connection.


Polly Drew

Polly Drew


Polly is a marriage counselor with over 25 years of experience in helping couples "come back from the brink," heal their strong bond, and enter into a positive and satisfying new chapter of life together. Her warm, competent style will put you both at ease and help you find new solutions to old problems.

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