Denver Parenting Coach
A Love Like No Other
Before I had children, I once had a wise, elder therapist (my professor at the time) say to me, “Having a child is like having your heart live outside of you.” I sort of nodded and smiled, but I really had no idea what he was talking about. The first moment I saw my son, I got it.
I felt an entirely new kind of love — the indescribably fierce, protective, overwhelming love for the small, vulnerable little person that was entirely dependent on us for his life. His happiness, his well-being, his needs simply eclipsed any other priority.
The Most Important Thing in the World
And so it is with you. Your kid, or kids, are the most important things in your whole life. Nothing else really matters except for their well-being. And there is nothing, absolutely nothing, as distressing — even enraging — than trying to co-parent with someone who you believe is going about the business of parenting in a way that is anything but optimal.
Furthermore, many parents arrive at a point where the needs of their child overwhelm their ability to cope. They genuinely don’t know how to manage behaviors, deal with sibling rivalry, instill self-discipline, teach healthy communication, and create happy healthy relationships in your home. That’s okay — kids don’t come with a training manual.
Family therapy or parenting coaching can give you the skills and strategies you need to create peace in your home.
(And if you or your child are experiencing abuse, neglect or violence please contact this organization immediately: www.childhelp.org. )
Stop Power Struggles
When couples run into trouble around parenting, they are usually in power struggles with each other around “how things should be done.” Because how to care for your children is such an emotionally charged situation, fights around this issue can become quite intense.
Unresolved differences and repeated conflict can begin a negative cycle of interaction between parents. Trust in each other is eroded, and a toxic dance can start where partners become disconnected with each other and more connected with the children. This isn’t good for anybody.
Create Communication and Agreement
You two must work as a team to become the “authority unit” that your kids need you to be. We work with lots of couples on this issue, particularly new parents who are still trying to figure out their new roles and how to maintain their relationship while prioritizing the needs of the kids.
Our approach is to help you both sort out where each other is coming from, and then create a set of new agreements that become the “constitution” for how parenting is done in your family. Along the way, you can reconnect with each other and heal the emotional bond that fights about kids and parenting may have disrupted.
Dr. Bobby is the host of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast.
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You provided us such a safe place to be honest with ourselves and with each other our fear of being vulnerable and weak were transformed into a feeling of opportunity to be heard. My husband and I are better friends, parents, lovers and companions than we have ever been.
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Let Us Help You Create a Happy, Peaceful Family
We can help you stop fighting over how to parent, and start working as a team. We can help you create a parenting plan that you both feel good about, and which supports the needs of your children. With an expert parenting coach on your side, you can improve your communication — both between each other and with your kids — and create the happy, peaceful family that you want.
Meet a Few of Our Relationship Experts
The marriage counselor, couples therapists and premarital counselors of Growing Self have specialized training and years of experience in helping couples reconnect. We use only evidence based strategies that have been proven by research to help you restore your strong bond, and love your relationship again.
Teresa Thomas is a marriage counselor and couples therapist with years of experience in helping couples communicate more effectively, find new solutions to old problems, repair their strong bond, rebuild trust after affairs, successfully blend families, improve their sexual intimacy, and parent joyfully together. She is a couples therapist and parenting coach with a positive, solution focused style who specializes in helping you both make positive changes to your life, as well as to your relationship.
Meagan Terry is a relationship specialist. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over nine years of experience in helping couples reconnect, and enjoy each other again. She uses effective, evidence based forms of marriage counseling including Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy and The Gottman Method. In addition to working one-on-one with couples, she teaches our Lifetime of Love premarital and relationship class.
M. A., LMFTC
Seth Bender is a marriage and family therapist with specialized training and experience in helping couples heal their relationships, improve communication, release resentments, and achieve new levels of enjoyment and fulfillment with each other. He practices Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help you strengthen your bond, as well as positive, empowering and solution focused coaching strategies to help you both take positive action in your relationship.
M. S., ASORC
Dori is a kind, empathetic couples counselor, individual therapist, and life coach who specializes in sex therapy, and helping couples create healthy emotional and sexual intimacy. Her friendly style makes it safe to talk about anything, and her solution-focused approach helps you move past the past, and into a bright new future of intimacy and connection.
Brittany specializes in helping couples strengthen their bond, and heal old hurts, in order to develop a more secure and satisfying relationship. She can help you both understand yourselves, and each other, so that you can create new, positive ways of relating that heal your connection— on every level.
M.A., N.C.C., LMFT-C
Anastacia's authentic, caring approach to marriage counseling and relationship coaching helps couples find each other's "noble intentions," and re-commit to showing each other love and respect. She can help you heal old hurts, improve your communication, restore trust, and work together as a team.
Amanda is a Marriage Counselor and Relationship Coach with a warm, gentle style that will help you both feel comfortable, respected, and understood. She has a gift for helping couples understand each other compassionately, feel emotionally safe, and start enjoying each other again.
Polly is a marriage counselor with over 25 years of experience in helping couples "come back from the brink," heal their strong bond, and enter into a positive and satisfying new chapter of life together. Her warm, competent style will put you both at ease and help you find new solutions to old problems.
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