Marriage Counseling Questions
“Does Marriage Counseling Work?”
That is a really good question, especially when you probably know someone for whom it has not (perhaps even you). The answer is that yes, absolutely marriage counseling works, but only when you are working with a trained marriage counselor who uses standard, evidence-based practices. (Click here to learn “How to Choose a Good Marriage Counselor.”)
Unfortunately, there are many, many kind, warm, lovely and ineffective therapists all over Colorado who are currently working with couples. The problem is that most therapists working with couples have only been trained in individual therapy– not marriage counseling.
When therapists try to apply individual therapy interventions to couples it has limited utility. At it's worst it can be damaging to the marriage, because when people get professional help from a “marriage counselor” that doesn't work they can conclude that marriage counseling in general is ineffective. They may then start to feel that their relationship is doomed, and that the only solution is separation or divorce.
This is a real tragedy because a huge body of empirically validated research that shows how effective marriage counseling really is, when practiced by a trained marriage counselor. This research shows that not only is marriage counseling effective, but that the positive changes couples make in marriage counseling are often sustained over time. Furthermore the benefit of good marriage counseling has a positive impact on health, on children, and even on the financial stability of a family.
Expert Marriage Counseling
The founder of the practice, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, which means that her graduate level coursework emphasized couples and family systems, attachment theory, and therapeutic approaches specifically designed to help couples. Then she logged thousands of hours working with couples under the apprenticeship of a seasoned Marriage and Family Therapist. Then she passed a state board exam for Marriage and Family Therapists. Now she continues her education in how to help couples by attending trainings and workshops, researching academic literature, and staying on top of the latest evidence based and clinical practices in couples counseling. Dr. Bobby personally supervises all of the licensed or pre-licensed marriage and family therapists on her team.
The Research Behind Marriage Counseling
Under Dr. Bobby's guidance, all of the marriage counselors of Growing Self practice types of couples counseling strategies that are evidence-based. This means that there is research showing that these types of marriage counseling are effective in helping couples improve their relationships.
In particular, we use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy which has the highest success rate, and most long-lasting benefit, of any marriage counseling approach.
We also incorporate behavioral techniques from John Gottman's internationally lauded research to help our couples.
Click on the links provided to learn more about the research supporting these marriage counseling strategies, and read the studies that support these approaches.
Dr. Bobby is the host of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast.
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Meet a Few of Our Relationship Experts
The marriage counselor, couples therapists and premarital counselors of Growing Self have specialized training and years of experience in helping couples reconnect. We use only evidence based strategies that have been proven by research to help you restore your strong bond, and love your relationship again.
Roseann Pascale is a marriage counselor, therapist, and life coach with years of experience in helping couples communicate more effectively, find new solutions to old problems, repair their strong bond, rebuild trust after affairs, successfully blend families, improve their sexual intimacy, and parent joyfully together.
Roseann is a former student of the legendary family therapist Salvador Minuchin, and has a strong foundation in systemic, evidence based approaches to couples and family therapy that emphasize helping you both make positive changes to your life mindfully, and create an intentional relationship that honors your deepest needs.
Roseann is licensed as a marriage and family therapist in New York and Florida, and is available for online marriage counseling and relationship coaching.
M.S., LAMFT, MFTC
Kensington is a relationship counselor and coach, she provides relationship counseling, relationship coaching, marriage counseling, and also pre-marital counseling. She provides clients with a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment where they can feel understood, gain insight, and create lasting change in the most meaningful parts of their lives.
Meagan Terry is a relationship specialist. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over nine years of experience in helping couples reconnect, and enjoy each other again. She uses effective, evidence based forms of marriage counseling including Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy and The Gottman Method. In addition to working one-on-one with couples, she teaches our Lifetime of Love premarital and relationship class.
Silas is an engaging, friendly and relatable couples counselor, therapist and life coach. He utilizes the evidence-based Gottman Method of marriage counseling with is couples, which emphasizes healthy communication skills training, restoring the strong foundation of commitment and friendship at the core of your marriage, and how to show each other love and respect in the ways that are most important to each of you.
Silas is available to meet with you in person for marriage counseling in Broomfield, Colorado. He also provides online marriage counseling and online relationship coaching to clients across the US and internationally.
M.A., N.C.C., LMFT-C
Anastacia's authentic, caring approach to marriage counseling and relationship coaching helps couples find each other's "noble intentions," and re-commit to showing each other love and respect. She can help you heal old hurts, improve your communication, restore trust, and work together as a team.
M. S., ASORC
Dori is a kind, empathetic couples counselor, individual therapist, and life coach who specializes in sex therapy, and helping couples create healthy emotional and sexual intimacy. Her friendly style makes it safe to talk about anything, and her solution-focused approach helps you move past the past, and into a bright new future of intimacy and connection.
Georgi is an incredibly kind, compassionate marriage counselor and premarital counselor who has a knack for bringing out the best in both of you. Georgi practices evidence-based Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, which helps you restore your empathy for each other, see each other's noble intentions, and helps you create a strong, secure attachment bond of love and appreciation. Her approach focuses on helping you repair your emotional connection first, which then makes it easier solving problems and make behavioral changes.
Georgi's services are exclusively available to residents of Arkansas. She can meet with you in person for marriage counseling in Bentonville, AR or she can meet with you for couples therapy online if you live in Arkansas.
You provided us such a safe place to be honest with ourselves and with each other our fear of being vulnerable and weak were transformed into a feeling of opportunity to be heard. My husband and I are better friends, parents, lovers and companions than we have ever been.
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