Grow Together, Not Apart
Repair Your Bond: Expert Marriage Counseling
Expert Denver Marriage Counseling: Real Help For Your Relationship
Turn Conflict Into Connection
Have you been feeling disconnected from your partner? Maybe you’ve been feeling hurt or frustrated, or like a new fight is always simmering just under the surface. Maybe you’re struggling to communicate, or feel like your trust and formerly secure connection has been damaged. If so, you’re not alone. All couples go through periods of disconnection.
These are “cross-road” moments for marriages: One path leads to a stronger, happier, and healthier relationship than ever before — and the other leads to increasing negativity, resentment and mistrust that can erode your connection.
Couples who avoid addressing problems, continue in negative, hurtful patterns, or wait too long to get help can destroy their trust in each other… and their commitment to the relationship.
Stop Fighting, and Start Understanding.
This is a huge opportunity to improve your relationship. Pain creates motivation to change. Smart couples who care about their marriages seize moments like these, and make the investment in professional support and guidance. This gets them on the “healthy path” towards deeper connection.
Good marriage counseling helps you learn about each other, solve problems, learn how to communicate and repair your faith in each other. Couples who walk through the fire together and come out the other side have a stronger, deeper connection than couples in untested relationships.
Believe it or not, you can look back on this “rough patch” as the best thing that ever happened in your marriage, if you seize this moment… and use it to grow together.
We Help Couples:
- Communicate With Each Other
- Stop Fighting, and Start Understanding
- Create Deeper Emotional Connection
- Repair Your Sexual Relationship
- Restore Trust and Security After Infidelity
- Resolve Long-standing Differences
- Parent as a Team
- Create Agreement Around Responsibilities, Money, Kids and More
- Bring Peace To a Blended Family
- Cope With Infertility, Postpartum, and Becoming Parents
- Support and Accept Each Other
- Build a Strong, Healthy Family
- Love and Respect Each Other
- Build a Life of Shared Meaning and Purpose
- Enjoy Each Other Again
Our Evidence-Based Marriage Counseling is Positive, Productive and Effective.
Thanks so much for helping us find our strong bond again. We can’t tell you how much it’s helped us.
POWERFUL
The marriage counselors of Growing Self have specialized education, training and experience in marriage counseling.
We know how to help you reconnect emotionally, restore trust, improve communication, solve problems together, and create deeper levels of intimacy.
POSITIVE
Marriage Counseling with us is a positive experience. Our highly trained, professional marriage counselors know how to set you both at ease, and feel heard, valued, and understood.
Even reluctant partners often leave their consultation feeling excited, hopeful, and committed to the process.
PRODUCTIVE
We help you have productive new experiences that grow your understanding of yourselves… and each other.
You’ll leave each session with new hope, new ideas, new agreements, and a plan of action to make the specific changes that will improve your relationship.
EFFECTIVE
We use the two, evidence based approaches to help our couples: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, which helps you understand each other and repair your attachment on a deep level, and The Gottman Method, which teaches you specific skills to communicate more effectively, and take positive action to repair your love.
POWERFUL
The marriage counselors of Growing Self have specialized education, training and experience in marriage counseling.
We know how to help you reconnect emotionally, restore trust, improve communication, solve problems together, and create deeper levels of intimacy.
POSITIVE
Marriage Counseling with us is a positive experience. Our highly trained, professional marriage counselors know how to set you both at ease, and feel heard, valued, and understood.
Even reluctant partners often leave their consultation feeling excited, hopeful, and committed to the process.
PRODUCTIVE
We help you have productive new experiences that grow your understanding of yourselves… and each other.
You’ll leave each session with new hope, new ideas, new agreements, and a plan of action to make the specific changes that will improve your relationship.
EFFECTIVE
We use the two, evidence based approaches to help our couples: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, which helps you understand each other and repair your attachment on a deep level, and The Gottman Method, which teaches you specific skills to communicate more effectively, and take positive action to repair your love.
You provided us such a safe place to be honest with ourselves and with each other our fear of being vulnerable and weak were transformed into a feeling of opportunity to be heard. My husband and I are better friends, parents, lovers and companions than we have ever been.
Meet a Few Of Our Relationship Experts
The marriage counselors, couples therapists and premarital counselors of Growing Self have specialized training and years of experience in helping couples reconnect. We use only evidence based strategies that have been proven by research to help you restore your strong bond, and love your relationship again.

Hunter Tolman
M.S., MFTC
Hunter is an exceptionally warm, compassionate couples counselor and therapist who has specialized training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy as well as family systems. He helps individuals gain self-awareness and move past self-limiting patterns, and helps couples achieve deeper levels of communication, connection, and commitment. He can help you both to understand yourselves, and each other, so that you can create new, positive ways of relating that heal your bond.

Amanda Schaeffer
M.S., MFTC
Amanda is a Marriage Counselor, Premarital Counselor and Family Therapist with a warm, gentle style that will help you both feel comfortable, respected, and understood. She has a gift for helping couples and families understand each other compassionately, feel emotionally safe, and learn how to relate in positive new ways that allow them to start enjoying each other again.

Teresa Thomas
M.A.
Teresa Thomas is a marriage counselor and couples therapist with years of experience in helping couples communicate more effectively, find new solutions to old problems, repair their strong bond, rebuild trust after affairs, successfully blend families, improve their sexual intimacy, and parent joyfully together. She is a couples therapist and parenting coach with a positive, solution focused style who specializes in helping you both make positive changes to your life, as well as to your relationship.

Meagan Terry
M.A., LMFT
Meagan Terry is a relationship specialist. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over nine years of experience in helping couples reconnect, and enjoy each other again. She uses effective, evidence based forms of marriage counseling including Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy and The Gottman Method. In addition to working one-on-one with couples, she teaches our Lifetime of Love premarital and relationship class.

Seth Bender
M. A., LMFTC
Seth Bender is a marriage and family therapist with specialized training and experience in helping couples heal their relationships, improve communication, release resentments, and achieve new levels of enjoyment and fulfillment with each other. He practices Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help you strengthen your bond, as well as positive, empowering and solution focused coaching strategies to help you both take positive action in your relationship.

Dori Bagi
M. S., ASORC
Dori is a kind, empathetic couples counselor, individual therapist, and life coach who specializes in sex therapy, and helping couples create healthy emotional and sexual intimacy. Her friendly style makes it safe to talk about anything, and her solution-focused approach helps you move past the past, and into a bright new future of intimacy and connection.

Polly Drew
M.Ed., LMFT
Polly is a marriage counselor with over 25 years of experience in helping couples "come back from the brink," heal their strong bond, and enter into a positive and satisfying new chapter of life together. Her warm, competent style will put you both at ease and help you find new solutions to old problems.
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