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How Does Therapy Work?

How Does Therapy Work?

“How can just talking about things make me feel different?”

This is a question that I hear a lot. It’s a good point! We all know people who can talk about their problems endlessly and never make any changes. At the end of the day, talking is not enough — you do need to take action in order to change your life.

However, as we all know, that is often harder than it sounds. Growth is a process. The talking that we do in therapy helps you gain self awareness, have new experiences, and learn new skills. Your therapist is not just a listener, he or she is a teacher too — teaching you the skills and new ways of thinking that will allow you to change.

This work is often the pre-requisite to being able to take meaningful, effective action. Without going through the growth process that changes you on the inside, any action you take isn’t likely to “stick” and you may fall back into your old patterns. Let me tell you more about how exactly this process unfolds…

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is trained as a Psychologist, a Marriage and Family Therapist, and is a Board Certified Life Coach. She is the Founder of Growing Self Counseling and Life Coaching in Denver, Colorado.

Dr. Bobby is the host of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, and the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love.”

The Phases of Therapy

Generally, there are distinct phases to therapy. I like to use the metaphor of gardening to help people understand the process.

Preparing the Soil

In the first phase, you will establish a relationship with your therapist. During this time your therapist will get a sense of who you are and what is going on with you. You will get used to talking about yourself in a safe, open environment. As you connect with your therapist and come to trust your relationship with them, you can begin to talk more openly and allow new parts of your experience to come into your awareness.

The therapeutic relationship you have together becomes a transformational space. This time is like preparing the soil to make it ready for seeds to be planted.

Planting Seeds

In the second phase of therapy, your awareness about yourself and your experience will continue to develop. Your therapist has many techniques and strategies for helping you to gain awareness. You will access feelings, thoughts and images that will help you understand yourself in new ways. You’ll make contact with your strengths, hopes, motivation, and feelings. Based on a deep understanding of yourself, a course of action will begin to come into focus. You’ll explore all opportunities, and your therapist will start teaching you new skills. You will start learning what you need to do to grow. It is during this time that the seeds of change are planted.

When you’re ready, you will start to experiment with new behaviors. Guided by a better understanding of yourself, you can practice new ways of being that reflect your authentic feelings, needs and aspirations. During this third phase of therapy you might start experimenting with new skills for managing your thoughts or feelings, handling old situations in a new way, and doing things differently than you have in the past. Your seeds of change are now growing. You are blooming into the person you want to be. Your therapist’s role is to help you nurture and support the growth that is now occurring.

Harvesting

Ultimately when you take positive action on your own behalf, your life will change. Actively working to change your feelings, thoughts and behaviors ushers in the wonderful harvest season of your personal growth. During the final phase of therapy you will experience the fruits of your work. You may feel happier, and more satisfied with your life — because you are having positive, successful experiences that reflect your growth.

Moving On

Your relationship with your therapist will end when you are confident in your ability to continue moving forward on your own. However, you can always get in touch with us in the future for additional support. We often have many “growing times” throughout our lives, and times when a relationship with a therapist is immensely helpful.

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Whether we work together in couples counseling, family therapy, individual therapy, or life coaching, my focus will be understanding your deepest desires for your marriage, your family, and yourself so that I can help you create your most gratifying life. Our work can help you heal, gain understanding and compassion for yourself and others, and live with intention.” 

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I became a therapist, life coach and marriage counselor after a career as an educator, and I believe I still have the heart of a teacher. My approach emphasizes learning and practicing new skills, so that you're not just talking about change — you're living it.

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I use positive and effective individual counseling, for both adults and teenagers, marriage counselingpremarital counselinglife coaching, and dating coaching. I am here to help you enjoy your relationships with your partner; recover from depression and anxiety be able to live a more fulfilling life and cultivate meaning, joy, and love in your life.” 

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Whether you're struggling with hard feelings, coping with a breakup, or facing a big life transition, I can help you move confidently and authentically forward into a joyful and satisfying new future. I'm available to meet with you in our Denver Colorado office and our Denver Tech Center office,  as well as through online video."

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I am available for online therapy if you live in Tennessee, but I work with people across the US and internationally as a life coach online."

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