Marriage Counseling Questions
How Much Does Marriage Counseling Cost?
By Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LMFT, BCC
Couples in Colorado spend an average of $25,000 on a wedding. But how much money do couples invest in the health of their marriage, and the quality of their relationship? Sadly, many couples assume that “marriage counseling costs too much” without doing the research to find out just how affordable it can be. They also can focus on the numbers rather than considering the value that good marriage counseling will bring to their lives.
At Growing Self Counseling and Life Coaching, we want your marriage to be happy and successful. We offer a variety of options for you to get real help for your relationship, including low cost classes and sliding scale rates to make your marriage counseling sessions affordable. We may also be able to help you use your insurance benefits to cover the costs of marriage counseling with us.
Good Marriage Counseling is Priceless…
Consider this: If I were to ask you what was the most important thing in your whole life, you’d probably say it’s your relationship and the happiness and wellbeing of your family. (Right?) If that is true, then taking action to keep your relationship or your marriage healthy and strong is the most valuable thing that you can do with your time and your money. Having a good marriage will bring more joy and value to your life than a new pair of skis, or even a vacation. (Going skiing is not fun when one of you is crying on the chairlift, and vacations are miserable when when you’re fighting the whole time). Trust me, I talk to broken-hearted people all the time. When you’ve lost the love of your life, when your beautiful family has blown apart, when you’re coming home to a dark, empty house with no one to love, nothing else that you do or have really matters.
If your marriage is struggling, and the security of your family is threatened, good, quality marriage counseling can change the trajectory of your life. It can help you avoid the tragedy of divorce and the heartbreak of everything that goes along with it. It is an investment in everything that matters most.
Good Marriage Counseling: It’s Priceless. It’s Also Affordable
The whole reason I became a marriage counselor was because I wanted to help people where it matters the most. (Here’s my “origin story.“)
I decided that being able to help people create a healthy, strong, stable marriages and families was the most important thing I could possibly do with my life. I also knew that I needed to make this life-changing growth work accessible to people. Not just to benefit both partners in a marriage, but their children. (And the generations of kids that would follow, all with a better chance of being rasied in a healthy supportive home because of the work their grandparents did). See my post: Why The World is A Better Place Because You Are in It.
That is why a foundational principle of Growing Self is to make high quality counseling, coaching and growth work accessible. For that reason, I have structured this organization so that we have people on our team who can meet you where you are financially, and offer you affordible sliding scale rates that fit in your budget. What does “sliding scale” mean? It means that your rate per session is determinied by your annual household income and the size of your family.
Here’s What YOU Can Expect to Pay For Good Marriage Counseling With Growing Self
Here’s an estimate of your out of pocket costs (before factoring in your insurance benefits or HSA benefits):
With an Advanced Clinician: $80-$125 per session
Our advanced clincians have typically been in practice between 10 and 25 years, and have both advanced degrees and specific post-graduate training and experience around a variety of issues. Brenda Fahn, M.A., LMFT, Polly Drew, M.Ed., LMFT, M.A., LPC, LAC, Meagan Terry, M.A., LMFT, Teena Evert, M.A., LMFT, LAC, Linda Pounds, M.A., LMFT, Maggie Graham, M.Ed., LPC, and Jessica Small, M.A., LMFT are our “advanced team.”
With a Master’s Level Clinician: $60-$105
Our master’s level clinicians all have Master’s Degrees, and between 2 and 10 years of experience working in the helping professions, and are extremely competent and effective as counselors and coaches. They are supervised by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby or Jessica Small, and participate in biweekly case-consultation with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby. Kathleen Stutts, M.Ed., NCC, LPCC, Markie Keelan, M.A., LPCC, Teresa Thomas, M.A., LMFTC and Stephanie Manning, M.A., LMFTC are all earlier career clinicians.
With an Early Career Clinician: $50-$95
Our newest team members, Rachel Harder, M.A., LMFT-C, Anastacia Sams, M.A., LMFT-C, Seth Bender, M.A., LMFTC, and Brogan Crosby, M.S., LMFTC are able to offer you high quality counseling and coaching at very affordable rates. All have master’s degrees in counseling psychology from the University of Colorado – Denver, at least 750 client contact hours under their belt, and are working towards licensure under the supervision of Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby or Jessica Small. They participate in a biweekly case-consultation group with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby.
With a Doctoral Level Clinician: $150
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, LMFT, BCC, Dr. Deanna Solodko, PsyD, LP, LMHC, Dr. Georgiana Spradling, PhD, MFT and Dr. Kristy Helvig, PhD, LP, CPC have master’s degrees and PhDs in counseling psychology, plus certification as coaches and many years of experience experience in helping people create meaningful and lasting changes in their lives, relationships and careers. Depending on their availability, they may also have spaces available on their caseloads for sliding scale clients.
With a Counseling Intern: $40 – $60
Growing Self Counseling and Coaching is an approved internship site for the University of Colorado’s Counseling Psychology and Counselor Education Master’s Program. Our interns are in the final stages of completing a 3+ year Master’s Degree in Counseling and have successfully completed a 150 hour practicum before starting with us. They are supervised by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby and Jessica Small.
Now Let’s Do Some Math
Efficient, strategic marriage counseling is a short-term investment in your long term happiness.
Where you go for marriage counseling matters. High quality marriage counseling doesn’t (and shouldn’t!) take years. In fact, research shows that most couples are able to make significant changes in their relationship in an average of 12-16 sessions.
We specialize in effective, productive therapy, coaching and marriage counseling. We use evidence based strategies that have been shown by research to be the most efficient ways of helping you make real and lasting change in your life. Our clients often get what they need in as little as 6-12 sessions.
Furthermore, weekly sessions are often only important in the beginning stages of couples counseling. While couples get traction over 6-8 weekly sessions, once they start making progress we cut back to every other week, and then monthly sessions.
But let’s go to the worst case financial scenario. IF you were to work with one of our advanced clinicians, entirely out of pocket, for their full fee of $125, for 16 sessions, it would cost $2000. (Spread over about 6 months = around $330 per month). Compare that investment in the most important thing in your life with how much you paid for your couch?
If you were to work with one of our earlier career clinicians, out of pocket, at the mid-range of thier sliding scale ($85 per session) for 16 sessions it would cost you $1360. Or about $225 a month for 6 months. I personally know people who spend more than that on their cable bill.
And of course, if you were to work with an intern you’d pay as little as $640 for an entire 16 week course of potentially life-changing marriage counseling. That breaks down to $105 a month. $26 a week. You could save your marriage and your family for less than the cost of a lunch for two at Applebees.
I wanted to walk through this with you in order to put your monthly expenses for marriage counseling in perspective, because people can get hung up on “the expense” and imagine that it’s much worse than it actually is. You are currenty spending much more money on lots of stuff that is not nearly as important to you as your relationship. We’re talking about your life here. Changing the trajectory of your entire marriage is priceless. It is valuable beyond measure. But sadly, some people don’t get that until it’s too late.
Good Marriage Counseling is Cheap. Divorce is Expensive.
I don’t mean to go dark here, but I know that couples make one primary mistake all the time, and it destroys their lives: They prioritize other things — usually money and time — over their marriage, and then they regret it, bitterly, when it’s too late to fix it. Relationships and marriages will stretch and weather storms, to a point. All couples go through ups and downs, and working through hard times really does make your marriage stronger. But there is time when it’s too late: when trust is broken beyond repair, or when one person has decided in their heart of hearts that the other cannot and will not ever be able to meet their needs, the light of attachment will flicker out. And at that point, the best marriage counselor in the world can’t help you.
No one wants to get divorced. Divorce happens because either one person has passed the point of no return, or (even more tragically, in my opinion) a couple simply does not know how to mend their relationship and build bridges back to the center. But when couples on the brink of divorce try to go to marriage counseling to “work on things” often the bitterness and resentment has built to a point where it’s difficult to break through. They have waited too long. The sad irony is that the same thrifty couples who didn’t want to invest in marriage counseling a few years ago will now hemmorage tens of thousands of dollars — many times more than world class marriage counseling would have cost — to take their precious marriage and family apart.
In addition to being extremely painful and traumatic for everyone involved, getting divorced is breathtakingly expensive. Tens of thousands of dollars in attorney’s fees, realtor’s fees, maintaining separate households, child support, child care… it’s harrowing to consider.
And the irony is that you wouldn’t be getting divorced because you really want to get divorced. (Who does?) You’d be getting divorced as the “final solution” to relationship problems that you don’t know how to fix.
Consider that even if you went to marriage counseling every single week for one year, paying out-of-pocket, the full fee of an extremely well-qualified, top-shelf marriage counselor…. you would still not pay them even a fraction of what you’d pay just your realtor to help you take your life apart.
People who say marriage counseling is “too expensive” and are reluctant to invest in repairing their relationship often wind up paying many times more to end it. It’s sad. And unnecessary.
Marriage counseling is not about the money. It’s about the value that it brings to your life: Having a secure home-base of unconditional love in the center of your life, creating a warm, stable home for your children, and a lifetime of friendship and joy with your irreplaceable other… is priceless.
Free Advice From a Marriage Counselor: Invest Wisely In What Really Matters
Many couples blow through more money on one ineffective “rekindle the romance trip” they take in futile efforts to reconnect with each other than an entire course of marriage counseling would cost — hoping that things will get better and they won’t need marriage counseling. Then they spend the whole time fighting, and then come home and call us to start marriage counseling. Save your money.
Invest in effective help. Hold off on buying that new couch for just a couple of months, and invest in having a warm, loving home to put that couch in instead. Then when you’re done with marriage counseling you can buy the couch and snuggle on it.
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Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is trained as a Psychologist, a Marriage and Family Therapist, and is a Board Certified Life Coach. She is the Founder of Growing Self Counseling and Life Coaching in Denver, Colorado.
Dr. Bobby is the host of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, and the author of “Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to Your Ex Love.”
We Are Relationship Experts
We have specialized training and years of experience in helping couples reconnect. We use only evidence based strategies that have been proven by research to help you restore your strong bond, and love your relationship again.
Marriage Counselor, Premarital Counselor, Relationship Coach, Dating Coach, Life Coach, Therapist
Brenda Fahn specializes in helping couples create healthy, happy relationships. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with a positive, direct style and over fifteen years of experience. She teaches our “Lifetime of Love” premarital / relationship class.
Marriage Counselor, Premarital Counselor, Parenting Coach, Relationship Coach, Life Coach, Therapist
Stephanie Manning has years of experience in helping couples communicate more effectively, find new solutions to old problems, repair their strong bond, rebuild trust after affairs, successfully blend families, and parent joyfully together.
Kathleen Stutts, M.Ed., NCC, LPCC
Therapist, Life Coach, Marriage Counselor, Dating Coach
Kathleen is a Marriage Counselor and Relationship Coach with a warm, gentle style that will help you both feel comfortable, respected, and understood. She has a gift for helping couples understand each other compassionately, and start enjoying each other again.
Polly Drew, M.Ed., LMFT
Marriage Counselor, Parenting Coach, Therapist
Polly is a marriage counselor has over 25 years of experience in helping couples “come back from the brink,” heal their strong bond, and enter into a positive and satisfying new chapter of life together.
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You provided us such a safe place to be honest with ourselves and with each other our fear of being vulnerable and weak were transformed into a feeling of opportunity to be heard. My husband and I are better friends, parents, lovers and companions than we have ever been.
– Former Clients
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What Our Clients Say:
“You provided us such a safe place to be honest with ourselves and with each other our fear of being vulnerable and weak were transformed into a feeling of opportunity to be heard. My husband and I are better friends, parents, lovers and companions than we have ever been.”
– Former Clients